Is It Worth it? Taking Off my Scarf Sneaking

phoenix1

peace,

i would say "go for it!" but i've typed it instead. What you're dad doesn't know, won't hurt him (which here means 'won't make him beat you to death').

TheNabi

Peace

You can always continue to wear it until ur done with HS. There is no need for such an abrupt change. Besides, there is nothing wrong in wearing a headscarf. I suppose the only liability would be the reason/s for wearing it.

Joe

truth

Peace NP,

I can assure you at 16 that you are best off not rushing things too much. There's plenty of time ahead and your independence as a person and woman is an inevitable fact.

It will happen, and there's nothing to gain from rushing it.

I would honour your parents and not upset them unnecessarily if you have it clear in your mind and what you are doing is not harming you.

You will know the time when it comes. You might want to get different scarfs to indicate a change and tie them differently perhaps using it as a fashion element for a time (like the Pakistani style - where thin veils and some hair is allowed to escape for example).

Hope that helps, but don't rush it as you have a good head on your shoulders and things will happen in due course.

Regards.

Layth

Peace,

Your best course might be to discuss the matter with your father...Let him show you where God told women to cover their hair.

If he cannot show you conclusive proof, then he should understand that you will follow God and not tradition.

SarahY

you people think covering the head is bad?

Wakas

peace Sarah,

I cannot speak for all people here, but as far as I'm aware, most people here (including me) do not see the covering of the head as compulsory. One can do it if they wish however.

Wakas

unknownuser

Peace,

I think the best advice given was already done so by Layth, and I Second everything that he has said........

Peace,

Your best course might be to discuss the matter with your father...Let him show you where God told women to cover their hair.

If he cannot show you conclusive proof, then he should understand that you will follow God and not tradition.

Salaam,
Damon.

Shirley

Peace Sister Progressive,

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I think it would be wise to confront the situation head on with truth instead of attempting to deceive you father as you were decieved into believing you had to wear it in the first place. Truth will alway defeat falsehood. You would want to avoid the ugly back lash if you got caught. oops Don't make things worse by sneaking. Discuss it with him like Layth suggested. wink

Peace,

Shirley

SarahY

Hmm ok then.

Well anyway this sister is in a hard situation because she has the scarf on already... As Layth and others suggested you could ask for proof in the Quran.
Depending on your situation you could say my mother didn't wear hijab untill she was whatever age it was that's if she was older then you when she wore it... make them feel guilty in other words, though not such a good idea they're your parents so I'd say go with Layths suggestion

Ma salama good luck

Andya_Primanda

Peace sis NP,

I also think the best way is following bro Layth's advice. But be prepared to reason and make sure you have verses to back you, otherwise you'll only provoke your father.