My story
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Salam everyone,
So heres my story...
My family weren't always strictly Sunni. We are originally from a country that wasn't too strict and we lived in an area in England that was mostly white. We then moved to a different city which is very multicultural, the complete opposite to where we lived. As we didnt have a permanent visa, I was still studying the arabic curriculum so that I could continue my education if we had to go back to our country. So my dad found an arabic school, and I started going there in the evenings. That was where the brainwashing began (OK I'm exaggerating a little).
The boys were split from the girls and us girls had to wear a headscarf. Then the headmistress told us that (newsflash! this is just in...) the prophet Mohammed likes the colour white, so we have to wear white headscarves as it is bad to wear black. If we don't wear white then we'd get into trouble. My mum didnt have a single white headscarf so I wore a light grey one instead but that wasn't allowed either and I had to report to the headmistress the next day. To avoid getting into trouble, I started going to that school wearing a headscarf made out of a white polyester shirt.
I carried on going to that school for 4 years, with a white scarf that my relatives sent me from abroad, where most of the curriculum involved memorising the Quran without even studying it, and memorising that same amount of hadiths. Some were over a page long and most sounded like A said that he heard B say that he heard C say that he heard D... said that he heard Z say that he heard the Prophet Mohammed say ...) Funny story, when I was in year 5 I think, we had to learn a hadith about how a man has to wash after he ejaculates! I didnt even know what it meant! My mum said its when a man passes a liquid. I was like, is it pee? And she said no. My mum and older sister were in hysterics and I was like ??? So there I was memorising a hadith that I didnt even know its meaning!
My mum later started teaching there so (unfortunately) she got to meet all the (not so) lovely teachers there. When I had just turned 10, one of them who became friends with my mum, told her to make me wear a headscarf. My mum showed me a passage form Surat alNisa and as I was only 10 I believed that i had to cover my head as I might die tomorrow and go to Hell! The next day a lot of kids at the English school asked me about it and it made me feel uncomfortable so I went home and told my mum that I dont want to wear it anymore, and she told me that its too late because I've already started wearing it and can't remove it. I carried on wearing it, and I still do, and my sister was later forced to wearing it too. She then told me that that the Quran doesn't tell us to and that it is actually a Jewish tradition. She had printed off an article about hijab from submission.org and I did my research around that site and that was when everything started to make sense. That God wouldnt want us to be unhappy, contrary to the unhappiness I experienced since I was 10.
But alhamdulilah I'm on the right path now and I am learning new things each day.
Ermmm thats it but if you need to know anything just ask or pm me.
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Hey, just wanted to say welcome and it was a pleasure reading your story! I myself started from submission.org articles and while most are great, just bear in mind that you are required to verify all information for yourself. Wish you the best of luck on your journey!
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Salam,
Thanks guys!
Waqas Yes I have learned so much and it has been difficult doing things differently at first. I felt guilty as if I was doing things wrong but I prayed to God to help me make the right decisions and to guide me to the straight path. I now feel like I am doing things with the right intentions and not with blind faith as I used to. -
I see no point in memorising the hadiths because many of them don't make sense and are not relevant peace
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peace and welcome sun
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Peace,
Respectfully.I guess we must all go thtrough some kind of ordeal in order to come out cleana nd purified. Like a butterfly. Butterfly is first in form of a worm but has to be if s/he wants to be a butterfly.
Thank God Who has guided you.
Peace.bravo I like it
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Peace,
Respectfully.I guess we must all go thtrough some kind of ordeal in order to come out cleana nd purified. Like a butterfly. Butterfly is first in form of a worm but has to be if s/he wants to be a butterfly.
Thank God Who has guided you.
Peace.Peace
That is very nice D
God bless
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Salam everyone,
So heres my story...
My family weren't always strictly Sunni. We are originally from a country that wasn't too strict and we lived in an area in England that was mostly white. We then moved to a different city which is very multicultural, the complete opposite to where we lived. As we didnt have a permanent visa, I was still studying the arabic curriculum so that I could continue my education if we had to go back to our country. So my dad found an arabic school, and I started going there in the evenings. That was where the brainwashing began (OK I'm exaggerating a little).
The boys were split from the girls and us girls had to wear a headscarf. Then the headmistress told us that (newsflash! this is just in...) the prophet Mohammed likes the colour white, so we have to wear white headscarves as it is bad to wear black. If we don't wear white then we'd get into trouble. My mum didnt have a single white headscarf so I wore a light grey one instead but that wasn't allowed either and I had to report to the headmistress the next day. To avoid getting into trouble, I started going to that school wearing a headscarf made out of a white polyester shirt.
I carried on going to that school for 4 years, with a white scarf that my relatives sent me from abroad, where most of the curriculum involved memorising the Quran without even studying it, and memorising that same amount of hadiths. Some were over a page long and most sounded like A said that he heard B say that he heard C say that he heard D... said that he heard Z say that he heard the Prophet Mohammed say ...) Funny story, when I was in year 5 I think, we had to learn a hadith about how a man has to wash after he ejaculates! I didnt even know what it meant! My mum said its when a man passes a liquid. I was like, is it pee? And she said no. My mum and older sister were in hysterics and I was like ??? So there I was memorising a hadith that I didnt even know its meaning!
My mum later started teaching there so (unfortunately) she got to meet all the (not so) lovely teachers there. When I had just turned 10, one of them who became friends with my mum, told her to make me wear a headscarf. My mum showed me a passage form Surat alNisa and as I was only 10 I believed that i had to cover my head as I might die tomorrow and go to Hell! The next day a lot of kids at the English school asked me about it and it made me feel uncomfortable so I went home and told my mum that I dont want to wear it anymore, and she told me that its too late because I've already started wearing it and can't remove it. I carried on wearing it, and I still do, and my sister was later forced to wearing it too. She then told me that that the Quran doesn't tell us to and that it is actually a Jewish tradition. She had printed off an article about hijab from submission.org and I did my research around that site and that was when everything started to make sense. That God wouldnt want us to be unhappy, contrary to the unhappiness I experienced since I was 10.
But alhamdulilah I'm on the right path now and I am learning new things each day.
Ermmm thats it but if you need to know anything just ask or pm me.
Salam DYour story sounds like a book I read (can't remember the title) a true story about a Muslim woman from Africa that became a Dutch MP. Wonderful book, so sad in places but a great testament to personal triumphs over so much bigotary
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Your story sounds like a book I read (can't remember the title) a true story about a Muslim woman from Africa that became a Dutch MP. Wonderful book, so sad in places but a great testament to personal triumphs over so much bigotary
Peace
I did a little googling. Is it this by any chance? http//www.amazon.co.uk/Infidel-Ayaan-Hirsi-Ali/dp/0743289684
God bless
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most of the curriculum involved memorising the Quran without even studying it, and memorising that same amount of hadiths.
We have to also memorise the meaning of the quran in maldives, but not hadhis though...What? you even have to wear head scarves? How awful for a school to make it a rule! ...In maldives, the girls are not split from the boys in most schools
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yay That's the one! Have you read it?
I've never actually heard of it before. Reading her biography I think she is no longer a muslim and speaks harsh things against Islam. Her knowledge of Islam is obviously through her cruel cultural experiences and not from the Quran.
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