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Defenition of marriage suggests sex before marriage permitted?!

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    siki
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    I will try to summarize my understanding again in a better way. No offence taken.

    waiting.

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      In 425, MOHSANAAT are contrasted with FATAYAAT. The only logical deduction would be that these two categories DO NOT overlap. If men are unable to marry the mohsanaat (of the MMA category as per logical deduction from 424) then they are asked to marry the fatayaat (of the MMA category).

      NO brother, there is no contrasting here, just a specific alternate being recommended, what is being said is ,

      If you are not able to marry a believing chaste/eligible/halal woman, Try and find the same among MMA category, and when you look in this category (MMA), make sure that you pick up some one believing, and young.

      Because, in MMA ,

      1. There could be mohsinnat ul ootul kitab, who are also halal as per 5-5.
      2. There could be believing middle aged mohsinnats.

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        Secondly, "and permitted for you is what is beyond this" LOGICALLY CAN ONLY MEAN THAT MOHSANAAT ARE THE FORBIDDEN CATEGORY WITH MMA FROM THE MOHSANAAT BEING EXCEPTION TO THAT.

        kindly explain this,

        Alyawma ohilla lakumu alttayyibatuwataAAamu allatheena ootoo alkitaba hillunlakum wataAAamukum hillun lahum waalmuhsanatumina almu/minati waalmuhsanatu minaallatheena ootoo alkitaba min qablikum itha ataytumoohunnaojoorahunna muhsineena ghayra musafiheenawala muttakhithee akhdanin waman yakfur bial-eemanifaqad habita AAamaluhu wahuwa fee al-akhiratimina alkhasireena

        This day (all) the good things are allowed to you; and the food of those who have been given the Book is lawful for you and your food is lawful for them; and the chaste from among the believing women and the chaste from among those who have been given the Book before you (are lawful for you); when you have given them their dowries, taking (them) in marriage, not fornicating nor taking them for paramours in secret; and whoever denies faith, his work indeed is of no account, and in the hereafter he shall be one of the losers

        Do you find MOHsinnte Mominnate and mohsintel ootul kitab, HAllal or Haram?

        Do you find MMA any where?

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          THE ONLY LOGICAL CONCLUSION WOULD BE THAT IF MEN WANT TO MARRY MOHSANAAT, THEY HAVE TO FIRST MAKE THE MOHSANAAT MMA. Thus converting the "regular mohsanaat" into "MMA mohsanaat" would become COMPULSORY in order to marry them.

          Daraba lakum mathalan min anfusikum hal lakum mi mma malakat aymanukum min shurakaa fee ma razaqnakum faantum feehi sawaon takhafoonahum kakheefatikum anfusakum kathalika nufassilu alayati liqawmin yaAAqiloona

          3028 HE sets forth for you a parable concerning yourselves. Have you, among those whom your right hands possess, partners in what WE have provided for you so that you become equal sharers therein, and you fear them as you fear each other ? Thus do WE explain the Signs to a people who understand.

          Brother TS.

          Can you explain about this example given by God , in the light of your above understanding?

          siki

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            Dear TruthSeeker
            You are saying again and again that "Mohsanaat" has been used in contrast to "Fatayaat".

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            Fatayaat has two meanings
            1young ladies
            2Slave ladies (figuratively)
            If you take the first meaning then "Monsanaat " according to your theory will mean "Old ladies " and if you take second meaning then these will mean "free ladies".
            Which meanings are you adopting or you are having something else in your mind?
            Regards

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              MOHSANAAT = PROTECTED WOMEN, and because we don't need permission from their guardians they are not guardian dependent, hence they are "GUARDIAN INDEPENDENT PROTECTED WOMEN" according to the context.

              Can you kindly explain the above category " protected women" "Guardian independent protected women?

              Protected from what?
              How are they protected?
              who protects them?

              And if you dont have a logical explanation which makes sense, Ask me, I will explain it to you.

              siki

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                MMA = WHAT POSSESSED BY YOUR OATH, and because the context is marriage, this oath can only be an oath to get married to them, hence they are "THOSE WOMEN POSSESSED BY YOUR OATH TO GET MARRIED" according to the context.

                That means that you kinda get engaged with these women before you actually marry them, and then according to 70-29,30 your explanation was, ( "one may inspect each others private parts , exactly like husband and wife, so that one may check , "weather these are good enough". Were you hinting at ensuring that these are compatible fitments?

                70-29,30 And they protect their sexual organs (from all) except azwaj, and Ma Malakat emnakum.

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                  I have put it in three colors
                  1Red it is the Protasis of the conditional sentence
                  2Green color is the apodosis of the conditional sentence

                  Blue color does not seem to be a part this conditional sentence because there is suddenly a change of address from 3rd person singular male to 2nd person plural males
                  Regards

                  Salaam Student

                  There's no address to the third person. Address is usuaully to the second person, male or female, singular, plural or dual.

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                    1. Hence the only mohsanaat eligible to become your MMA would be the protected independent single women.

                    2. If a man cannot find such a protected independent single woman who can be possessed by his oath, then he is asked to marry a guardian dependent young woman with her guardian's permission, but first he has to possess her by his oath to get married.

                    3. How does a woman become , "protected independent single woman"?

                    4. So the priority goes to finding an above category, and if somehow you are unable to, only then, one can ask parents of a young maiden for an engagement and marriage. ( (I guess 95% marriages are not happening this way and hence defying the order in 4-25.

                    5. 4-25 is also warning about this fatayat nikah , by saying, " This is for those who fear falling in sin ( last resort only) , and preferably you should abstain from doing this , because God knows what is better for you( so according to God, this is not the best course of action for us)

                    Most of the first timers are going in , only and only for these so called "parents protected young females" , isn't it? ;D

                    1. hmm and marrying her direct is not possible , an engagement oath is a must , so that both of you can explore each others sexual organs. caution, caution, NO fornication please , that is strictly prohibited and is punishable with 100 lashes.

                    2. D personally I would luv this arrangement. Posses a young female with a promise, explore her sexual organs thoroughly, declare her parts undesirable, reverse your oath, move on to the next young female, and of course no fear, as all this is happening with the parents permission. yuck I guess this is the Norm in the western societies these days.

                    siki

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                      Samia
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                      Peace siki, truthseeker et al,

                      That's all cool, I'm open to find the non contradicting meaning which is always the best.

                      The subtle transition from 423 (Forbidden to marry) ?to 424 And almuhsana needs closer scrutiny and will take a look time permitting -- still busy pondering inheritance verses and few other things.

                      Salaam Eid

                      You just put your finger on the most important point. Any interpretation of muhsanaat as chaste/free/ dependent/independent...etc will make these categories forbidden; that's why some interpreters came up with "married", but quickly fell in contradiction with the exception ?lla except" that follows it, which makes "some" married women lawful.

                      To find the correct meaning of muhaanaat, we have to reconsider the address. In my opinion, the address in this verse has changed from the address in the previous verse. The addressee are a special category of people, and this verse and the verses that follow concern this category.

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                        Exactly!

                        Salaam Eid

                        I do not understand this Eactly! Do you mean that these " chaste hallal/permissible ladies"are forbidden as per 424?!

                        Ha-Sad-Nun = To be guarded, be inaccessible/unapproachable, be chaste, be strongly fortified, difficult to access, be preserved, be protected (against attack), abstain from what is not lawful nor decorous, preserve or guard a thing in places inaccessible/unapproachable, make or render a thing inaccessible or unapproachable or difficult to access, make/render a thing unattainable by reason of its height, to fortify oneself.
                        husun n.m. (pl. of husn) 592
                        hassana vb. (2) pcple. pass. 5914
                        ahsana vb. (4)
                        perf. act. 2191, 6612
                        impf. act. 1248, 2180
                        impf. pass. 425
                        pcple. act. 424, 55
                        pcple. pass. f. 424, 425, 425, 425, 55, 55, 244, 2423
                        tahassana vb. (5) n.vb. 2433
                        Lane's Lexicon, Volume 2, page 222, 223

                        How about "immune" as a meaning for muhsan? In fact it's more correct than "protected/fortified" since this second meaning is a derivative of the form II
                        of the verb and means fortified "muhaSSan"

                        5914 They will not fight you (even) together, except in fortified townships, or from behind walls. Strong is their fighting (spirit) amongst themselves thou wouldst think they were united, but their hearts are divided that is because they are a people devoid of wisdom.

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                          Salaam Eid

                          You just put your finger on the most important point. Any interpretation of muhsanaat as chaste/free/ dependent/independent...etc will make these categories forbidden; that's why some interpreters came up with "married", but quickly fell in contradiction with the exception ?lla except" that follows it, which makes "some" married women lawful.

                          For God sake, "There is NO forbidden in this verse any where"

                          Forbiden word is there in 4-22, and again forbidden word is there in 4-23, seeing this precedence it had to be in the 4-24 , for mohsinnats?

                          But it is not .

                          This is precisely what everybody is taking for granted NOT realizing that it is causing 100% contradiction right in the next verse, 4-25

                          siki

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                            For God sake, "There is NO forbidden in this verse any where"

                            Forbiden word is there in 4-22, and again forbidden word is there in 4-23, seeing this precedence it had to be in the 4-24 , for mohsinnats?

                            But it is not .

                            siki

                            What's the function of the conjugating article "wau" in the beginning of the verse? What about these "muhsanaat" in this context?
                            Moreover, verse numbering is not part of the revelation.

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                              Ermmm thanks for the advice! LOL
                              I wasn't questioning God's words but rather the practical implications ie why would they need to see each other naked.
                              It is best to keep the translation as 'right hands possess' as people have different views on what it means. I'm still new to all this so I haven't yet studied the Quran, but I respect your opinion.
                              Salam

                              I still believe MMA is the Katb al Kitab. That is where you make on oath of marriage and everything but the ceremony did not take place. Its an oath(vows) and its considered a legal marraige although usually a house is need for the marraige to be made official.

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                                I still believe MMA is the Katb al Kitab. That is where you make on oath of marriage and everything but the ceremony did not take place. Its an oath(vows) and its considered a legal marraige although usually a house is need for the marraige to be made official.

                                Do you mean that th only difference between MMA and a zawj is a house?

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                                  Salaam Student

                                  There's no address to the third person. Address is usuaully to the second person, male or female, singular, plural or dual.

                                  Salaam Samia
                                  I will appreciate if you could throw some light on this verb

                                  What is the "person" of this verb?
                                  Regards

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                                    Salaam Samia
                                    I will appreciate if you could throw some light on this verb

                                    What is the "person" of this verb?
                                    Regards

                                    There are three different persons, maybe two, depending on the (person) desinated by the pronoun at the end of the phrase

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                                      There are three different persons, maybe two, depending on the (person) desinated by the pronoun at the end of the phrase

                                      Dear Samia
                                      I am talking about this verb
                                      Is this not third person singular masculine imperative ?
                                      Regards

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                                        Dear Samia
                                        I am talking about this verb
                                        Is this not third person singular masculine imperative ?
                                        Regards

                                        Yes it is.
                                        I just realized that you are referring to my post, sorry.
                                        This person is not being addressed, and so there is no sudden change of address. Look at the beginning of the verse the address to the 2nd person plural masculine did not change.

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                                          Yes it is.
                                          I just realized that you are referring to my post, sorry.
                                          This person is not being addressed, and so there is no sudden change of address. Look at the beginning of the verse the address to the 2nd person plural masculine did not change.

                                          Dear Samia
                                          Thanks you accepted it
                                          Now look at this sentence

                                          It is a conditional sentence in which 3rd person masculine singular is the addressee (he is being talked about and he is being "COMMANDED).
                                          In the second part

                                          Now here nature of address regarding number and person is changed. TS was thinking that it is part of apodosis of the first part ,but my opinion based on the logic which I have just mentioned was different.

                                          Regards

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