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Wife beating in islam? The Quran strikes back

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    uq
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    Peace aqua,

    I commend you, my brother.

    The article is thoroughly detailed, easy to read, well-laid out, well-written, rational, cohesive, articulate, accurate, and revealing.

    It must have taken you some time to compose it, but your effort shines through.

    I will share it on my Facebook profile.

    I am of the opinion that God, the most merciful, would not possibly instruct the believers to beat their wives at a time when marital relations are already strained. However, the rules of Arabic grammar get in the way of this understanding.

    The only way out of understanding the verse as "beat them" is ? as you point out ? to postulate that the early readers of the Quran misread for . This is not an unlikely case.

    Thanks again for sharing.

    Usamah

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      aqua
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      Peace aqua,

      I commend you, my brother.

      The article is thoroughly detailed, easy to read, well-laid out, well-written, rational, cohesive, articulate, accurate, and revealing.

      It must have taken you some time to compose it, but your effort shines through.

      I will share it on my Facebook profile.

      I am of the opinion that God, the most merciful, would not possibly instruct the believers to beat their wives at a time when marital relations are already strained. However, the rules of Arabic grammar get in the way of this understanding.

      The only way out of understanding the verse as "beat them" is ? as you point out ? to postulate that the early readers of the Quran misread for . This is not an unlikely case.

      Thanks again for sharing.

      Usamah

      Thank you for the positive comments. Glad to hear that you agree.

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        shohorabA
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        This is the first time I have seen such an effort on one point of any book. A crucial point no doubt. Because of people like you we have less work and better understanding.

        Thank you again.

        Peace.

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          Wakas
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          In Jonathan Brown's new book he reviews Traditional Islamic understandings of 434 with some interesting insights, p268 onwards.
          For those familiar with his previous book on Hadith, it is likely this work will be of similar standard. I personally found his book on Hadith to be excellent. In this work there seems to be many gems also, e.g. he cites a hadith in which the prophet requested a woman to lead a mixed gender congregation prayer. He also discusses the 'Quran Only' movement.

          All information is correct to the best of my knowledge only and thus should not be taken as a fact. One should always seek knowledge and verify for themselves when possible: 17:36, 20:114, 35:28, 49:6, 58:11.

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            Unbeliever
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            Why does it take 40 pages or even any "holy book" at all to validate that wife beating is wrong? Doesn't thinking about our own moms give us empathy enough to know that is wrong without being told?

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              hawk99
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              Why does it take 40 pages or even any "holy book" at all to validate that wife beating is wrong? Doesn't thinking about our own moms give us empathy enough to know that is wrong without being told?

              @Unbeliever welcome

              God bless you

              peace

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                huruf
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                4.34 is not addressed to husbands but to the community of believers. It is hardly to be taken that the community of believers be told to "beat" a woman just like that.

                Also, it speakes not about husbands and wives but about men and women, nothing to do with husbands.

                It also does not say that any woman (not wife) has doen anything wrong but that the community of believers FEARS that "they" the women, whoever they are, might to something wrong, but up till then nobody has done anything wrong, so nobody can be "beaten" for something that has not even hapenned.

                Teh "idribuhunna" word has certainly avery different meaning from beat, it means as can be logically deducted to do something practical to avoid those women to do something that would be bad for them and the community. Let us not forget that this aya is part of a whole set of ayas that deal with social questions and it also deals with social questions. It is incumbent on the community as a whole thatit takes care fo the women, just as it is incumbent on the whole male population to take care of women in general. This is the question in the aya, that women are looked after, not that women should be punished for whatever imaginary doings might come to mind.

                So it should something on the line of finding out from the women themselves, let them know the consequences that their prospected actions might have, let them think about the whole thing by themselves and when some solution is found for the situation of the women, carry it out with them.

                Salaam

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                  Wakas
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                  peace sister huruf,

                  Also, it speakes not about husbands and wives but about men and women, nothing to do with husbands.

                  Please refrain from repeating claims. If you wish to repeat them, then do not run away when challenged
                  http//free-minds.org/forum/index.php?topic=9606391.msg356394#msg356394

                  So it should something on the line of finding out from the women themselves, let them know the consequences that their prospected actions might have, let them think about the whole thing by themselves and when some solution is found for the situation of the women, carry it out with them.

                  If someone can find a more coherent answer than the following then please let me know

                  The understanding of DRB in 434 as "cite / indicate / put/show forth them" (to the authority) is the ONLY understanding that provides perfect internal coherence in The Quran. It is the ONLY understanding

                  1. that provides a sequential link from 434 to 435
                  2. to provide identical solutions between men & women in 434 and 4128
                  3. that fits and perfectly explains 581-4
                  4. that fits the divorce procedure of The Quran and related compensation
                  5. that explains the reasoning behind the context of wealth/inheritance/giving/kindness etc.
                  6. is consistent with the use of DRB with a direct object with no prepositions, in which it always means "put/show forth"
                  7. that 100% matches the use of DRB when used with a person as the object, e.g. 273, 4357.

                  All information is correct to the best of my knowledge only and thus should not be taken as a fact. One should always seek knowledge and verify for themselves when possible: 17:36, 20:114, 35:28, 49:6, 58:11.

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                    Farabi
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                    People tend to discriminate muslims by saying beating his wife is an obligations. It is not. Beating your wife is not an obligations, it is your right, and you can decide to do it or not. That allowance is to defend Job who are swore gonna beat her wife. And for that swore even though Job is regret it, God still command him to do his swore by taking a grass and do it.

                    And as the context of beating your wife, it is allowed in condition to educate them, not because it is your habit. In the quran, a woman can divorce her husband if she think she doesnot like it. I think we can contemplate this clearly to determined wheter a beating is because of lust or because a wisdom.

                    Even youre beating your child if he/she is harming her brother or her sister am I right? Violence on some condition is neccessary to educate a person.

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                      aqua
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                      Beating your wife is not an obligations, it is your right, and you can decide to do it or not.

                      And as the context of beating your wife, it is allowed in condition to educate them, not because it is your habit. In the quran, a woman can divorce her husband if she think she doesnot like it. I think we can contemplate this clearly to determined wheter a beating is because of lust or because a wisdom.

                      Beating a woman contradicts many parts of the Qur'an; read the contradictions explained here

                      http//www.quranverse434.com/#problems-with-beat-them

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                        People tend to discriminate muslims by saying beating his wife is an obligations. It is not. Beating your wife is not an obligations, it is your right, and you can decide to do it or not.

                        Beating wife is a husband's right . . . !?! ???

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                          Farabi
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                          Beating wife is a husband's right . . . !?! ???

                          I mean, it is not an obligations, it is your right like you scold your children when they making a mistake. What word you should pick for such condition?

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                            huruf
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                            Wakas I repeat because you have run away from answering my arguments when you have answered this in the same way, that I am not right, but refrained your self from rebuting my arguments you plain ignored them.

                            I am not interested inb eing your police and I do not have the time, so I am not looking for the threads where that has hapenned and it has been several.
                            But you also repppeat, everybody repeats. The forums are full of repetitions.

                            On the other hand, the wording of the aya is so plain and clear that what has to be explained is how it does come that it is transformed into something else. THAT should be explained and not forgotten that if somebody chooses to make things signify other thing that their meaning, one must bring arguments for it.

                            And I repeat for a good reason not for you, not for those who systematically ignore things that do not suit their own state of thought, but for those who might eventually find the need to go beyond the usual comfortable preconceptions.

                            I am grateful that some peole chose to repeat things, so that if a did not catch something the first time I had more opportunities later on. I have learnt things that way.

                            Salaam

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                              huruf
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                              I mean, it is not an obligations, it is your right like you scold your children when they making a mistake. What word you should pick for such condition?

                              I would agree if you would agree that women should also "scold" and beat up their husbands when they need correcting.

                              Have you really read the Qur'an?

                              Salaam

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                                JavaLatte
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                                I mean, it is not an obligations, it is your right like you scold your children when they making a mistake.

                                Scolding children is parent's right . . . !?! ???

                                What word you should pick for such condition?

                                I think it needs to be adjusted to the mistakes they make, and also, we need to look at the character of the kids who did it. Right now I don't have experience being a parent, so maybe I could not give proper input related how to educate children,

                                but I think "beating children" and/or "scolding children" are not the right ways to make the children honor their parents.

                                Even youre beating your child if he/she is harming her brother or her sister am I right?

                                I know that beating children is not effective way to educate them to be righteous.

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                                  Taro_Hiroshi
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                                  Beating your wife is not an obligations, it is your right, and you can decide to do it or not.

                                  Which verse in the Quran says that it is a man's right to beat his wife? Do you have any Quranic evidence that supports your claim? Or is your rule based on your personal likes and dislikes instead of the book of God?

                                  It seems that your rule is based on the mistranslation and misinterpretation of verse 434 in the Quran. Because in reality there is no verse in the Quran that supports wife beating.

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                                    Farabi
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                                    Ok fine I get it. Beating your wife is wrong. giveup

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                                      Taro_Hiroshi
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                                      Ok fine I get it.

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                                        FindingRightPathToAllah
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                                        I mean, it is not an obligations, it is your right like you scold your children when they making a mistake. What word you should pick for such condition?

                                        So you are saying your wive is your child, and it is your right to scold her because she is a child and need to be corrected.

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                                          JavaLatte
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                                          Ok fine I get it. Beating your wife is wrong. giveup

                                          Semoga Allah memudahkan anda dan istri anda untuk bisa menjaga kerukunan rumah tangga, saudara Farabi.

                                          Supaya rumah tangga anda tenang, tidak ada pukul-pukulan atau pun omel-omelan. )

                                          May Allah bless you and your family. Salm. D

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