The God Alone Marriage Contract
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Peace all,
It would also be interesting to get the male perspective on the marriage contract. I am aware that Wakas responded. The males on this forum are also welcome to reply to the questions I posed. I'm assuming that only sisters have answered thus far. Please correct me if I am wrong.
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Peace again,
Alright, so here is the contract provided by Hijabman
http//www.hijabman.com/journal/free-islamic-marriage-contract-for-download-that-doesnt-suck/
Well, if you scroll down, you'll find it below.
Here is a direct link to the pdf http//www.hijabman.com/files/islamic-marriage-contract/IslamicMarriageContractHijabManDotCom.pdf
The article isn't bad here. Well, not bad for a Sunni, as I've said before. I suppose there are some thinkers among them.
Anyway, I'd love to hear some commentary from you.
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I agree with you he seems to be pretty progressive and that is why I like reading his blog. I almost got married last year and was tasked with writing the contract. I made my own adjustments and added somethings/removed others. He also has blog entries on other things you might be of interest in. I can share the contract I ended up with if anyone is interested...
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As promised previously, this is a copy of the current contract I have, based off one found on hijabman's website. I added things to suit my needs at the time, but alas things didn't work out but I am still happy with the contract I have for the next time inshallah. Am open to suggestions on improvement. I was originally going to marry a nice Sunni man from Cairo but he HATED this contract. Not sure why....
Preamble
?And among His wonders is this He creates for you mates out of your own kind. so that you might in- cline towards them, and He engenders love and tenderness between you in this, behold, there are messages indeed for people who think!? - Qur?an 3021, Muhammad Asad?s TranslationWe, ___________________ and _______________, agree to take each other as marriage partners on the understanding that this contract shall regulate our relationship.
Having both descended from the first single human created by God, we acknowledge the basic equality of all people, and especially of each other insofar as our respective rights and responsibilities in our marriage are concerned.Marriage, we believe, involves the joining of two individuals with the purpose of forming a partnership that will combine their individual strengths, abilities, talents and skills in such a way that the result is greater than the sum of their individual characteristics.
This partnership should be based on the notion of interdependence ? a mutually beneficial state where each person retains her/his own individuality and personhood, yet where the partnership and relation- ship are accorded great significance. It is this principle that underlies this marriage contract.
While, from an Islamic perspective, it is clear that marriage is a contract or agreement between two people, it is distinguished in that it is a contract based on love. We pray that our marriage will be blessed by the Love and Mercy of God, and we commit ourselves to constantly striving to ensure that love and caring are as the main pillars of our relationship.
Together with love and caring, we commit ourselves to striving for a marriage characterized by mutual respect, appreciation, support, co-operation and loyalty between the spouses. These, we believe, will be essential for the success of our marriage and we commit ourselves to upholding these values as determining factors in our dealings with each other, as advised by the Qur?an and the example of the Prophet Muhammad (s).
Furthermore, we commit ourselves to a spirit of openness, trust, strong communication and mutual consultation in our relationship. We will discuss key decisions fully, taking into consideration, among others, the personal, social and economic consequences thereof.
We agree to identify mutually agreed-upon spiritual, career and psychological goals and priorities and strive towards achieving these.
Our daily interactions with each other will be guided by the spirit of fairness, dignity and justice promoted in the Qur?an and known to us in the example of all the Messengers of God (on whom we wish peace).
We will
strive to ensure that our interactions with each other are in a spirit of Love, compassion and generosity
Mutual respect and courtesy
Openness and honesty
Communicating freely and fully at all times
With a willingness to learn from each other and from others
Generously acknowledging each other?s love, support and achievements
Having the humility and the courage to admit our mistakes and learn from them.We understand marriage as a relationship that should be free from abuse, either of an emotional, physical, verbal, or financial nature. We therefore undertake to refrain totally from abusive behavior and speech toward each other and to create an environment within which all members of our family will feel safe.
We agree that decisions will be made following a process of mutual consultation (shura) and agreement by the parties. All key decisions will be discussed fully, taking into consideration, amongst others, the social, economic and academic consequences thereof.
We agree to identify and strive proactively and fully towards achieving mutually-agreed-upon spiritual, financial, career and psychological goals and priorities, both in our individual and joint capacities.
We commit ourselves to relationship building and developing a strong and faithful marriage.
We commit ourselves to leading a healthy lifestyle regarding diet, exercise and stress reduction, and are willing to obtain medical advice and feedback from time to time as a means of ensuring and sustaining our health.
Mahr
_______________ gives and _____________ accepts a mahr of __________ amounting to $**********Education
We will both endeavor to educate ourselves as much as is possible ? both in terms of education related to our careers and in terms of Islamic education. Neither spouse will have the right to prevent the other from furthering her / his education; nor will either spouse place impediments in the path of the other if the latter seeks to further her / his education.Religious Foundation
We commit ourselves to a life of ongoing learning and growing in understanding ? of ourselves, each other, all those we interact with, all of creation, our Creator, and our religion, Islam.
We commit ourselves to creating a home environment which respects and fosters the spirit and message of Islam as upheld in the Qur?an and as demonstrated by Prophet Muhammad (on whom be peace) in his living.Marriage Rights & Responsibilities
Financial rights and obligations
Both of us have the right to seek and secure employment, to derive income from business or other in- vestments, to save and invest our savings, and to develop our respective careers.
GROOM to the best of your ability, shall bare the financial responsibilities of the household in such a manner that we are able to have a comfortable home.In the event the BRIDE is not employed the GROOM shall provide your BRIDE with an allowance equaling __% of your income each month that she shall be able to freely spend on her own.
We commit ourselves to discussing from time to time, as required by our circumstances, a joint budget and financial plan that will be beneficial to our marriage, in the short and long terms.
We may retain individual bank accounts and have the right to manage and dispose of our individual finances and assets as we deem fit.Domestic Responsibilities
We agree to share domestic responsibilities. It will not be the sole duty of either spouse to maintain an attractive domestic environment or to provide meals and, in general, to maintain the household.Social relations
We shall strive to the best of our ability, at all times, to lead a full life ? one that takes cognizance of the rights of others ? interacting with and contributing to the well-being of the various communities we are part of and to society at large.We will respect the friendships and kinships that the spouse has had prior to entering into the marriage and not force the other spouse in severing these ties.
Respect
Respect is an essential ingredient of any marriage. We will at all times endeavor to respect each other?s humanity, intelligence and our family. We will thus give due and serious consideration to the words and actions of each other and other members of our family. Neither of us will have any right to financially, physically, mentally or psychologically abuse the other, no matter what justification or rationalization could be given for such action.We both commit ourselves to providing a home environment where each of us is able to maintain her / his privacy and personal space from time to time. We commit ourselves to building a respectful family environment where no disrespect is shown by any family member to another.
Sexual relations
Sexual relations will be consensual at all times and will, like all other relations in the marriage, be based on mutual trust and respect. We agree that we will both be tested for Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) before our wedding.
We agree to the use of birth control for health and family planning reasons.Polygyny
We both agree that the GROOM may have ONE additional wife.Family obligations
We understand that, as a result of our marriage, we will both have new family structures to relate to. We commit ourselves to interacting with our respective spouse?s family with respect and kindness at all times.Any decision regarding our living with any member or members of either family or their living with us will require the explicit consent of both of us. In making such decisions, due regard shall be given to the joint and separate responsibilities that we have.
Children
We agree to have children as circumstance allows and will discuss together appropriate timing of having children.We acknowledge that one spouse may take primary responsibility for acting as a child caregiver during the marriage, while the other spouse may assume the burden of support. Any such division of roles will be mutually-agreed to and neither partner will be treated as contributing any less to the family because of that spouse?s particular role. Both parents will play an active role in our children?s upbringing. We undertake to raise our children in a healthy family environment, with Islam being the family religion and education of the children in Islam being a joint responsibility of both of us. We also strive to share our respective cultures with our children and allow the children to participate in them.
At the same time, we commit ourselves to the principle of religious understanding and undertake personally that we will respect, and teach our children to respect, other religious views and philosophies, both within Islam and without.
Right of Travel
We both agree to let each other freely travel as long as notice is given to the other spouse, this includes leaving the country of our current residence. We also agree to allow all pertinent travel documents to remain in our own personal separate possession. Including but not limited to Passports, Licenses, IDs etc.Divorce & Related Matters
Dispute resolution procedures and the initiation of divorce proceedings
A dispute will be deemed to have resulted during the marriage if either of us declares it to be so. In the event of such a dispute arising we will first use our ability to listen, communicate and learn to find an internal solution.Both of us agree to allow the other to express any criticism or concern freely (provided it is done respect- fully). We undertake not to be dismissive of the other?s concerns without first being self-critical and assessing the criticism or concern from the other?s point of view.
If we realize we are at fault in any way (and we may both be partially at fault), we undertake to acknowledge our faults honestly and fully and if either of us has learnt something beneficial from the other?s concerns we undertake to express our gratitude to the other for helping us see something about ourselves we might not otherwise have done.
If we are unable to resolve a dispute after reflecting, deeply engaging with each other, praying and asking our Creator for assistance, we will appoint a mutually acceptable facilitator or facilitators to mediate and possibly arbitrate (if mediation fails) in the dispute. Relationship-building and counseling may form part of this process.
If the dispute is of a nature that could lead to the termination of the marriage and counseling has not helped to resolve the dispute, before either of us decides to initiate divorce proceedings, we will make a final effort to save our marriage by undergoing a trial separation for a period of four months.
We will follow this procedure in respect of each such dispute. If, however, after this time (in respect of any such dispute) the marriage relationship still cannot be healed, then either of us may initiate divorce proceedings through a legal forum ? which is the only forum that may validly terminate the marriage.
We pray that our marriage will not reach a stage where either of us will consider divorce as an option. Notwithstanding any contrary understanding of any law, we agree that both of us will have an equal right to initiate divorce proceedings and that these will be governed in accordance with the terms stipulated in this contract.
GROOM agrees to use the Islamic jurisprudential mechanism of talaq al-tafwid to delegate the right of ta- laq to BRIDE so that both of us will possess that right. Whichever of us initiates such proceedings, a procedure of three repudiations will require to be followed as described in the Qur?an in Surah Baqarah verses 228-232.
In addition, BRIDE will be able to exercise her right to khula? by which she will be able to initiate a divorce subject to and by the return of the mahr to GROOM.
We will both be able to exercise our right to apply for a faskh, or annulment to a judicial authority. Among other circumstances, a faskh could be used in cases which involve
? any physical (threatened or actual) abuse,
? severe or ongoing verbal or emotional abuse, or
? infidelity
Such a divorce could be granted unopposed and no trial separation will be necessary.In all of the three processes above (talaq, khula? and faskh), a divorce will only be deemed to have been effected once presided over and allowed by a judicial authority.
Custody of minor children
The custody of minor children that might result from this marriage shall be determined according to the children?s best interests. Any children aged 12 years and older have the right for themselves to decide in whose custody they shall belong. Should the custody of children be contested, the matter shall be referred for dispute resolution as set out in this contract. If agreement is reached, this will be incorporated into an agreement which will be attached to the application for divorce.Irrespective of who gets custody, there shall be no denial of reasonable visitation rights to the parent that is not granted custody.
If the marriage ends in divorce and a child or children have resulted from the marriage, both parents will be responsible for the financial maintenance of the child or children in proportion to their respective in- comes at the time, taking into account the effect of the dissolution of marriage on the working lives of both parents.
Conclusion
No changes or variations made to this contract shall be valid unless reduced to writing, signed by both parties and appended to this agreement.
We undertake to inspire each other to achieve the best that we are capable of.
May God grant us the wisdom, honesty, commitment and strength to make this marriage a successful one. And May He bless us with His Love and Mercy.
Signed on this, the ____ day of ____ 2012 in _________________.
__________________ BRIDE
__________________ GROOM
Witnesses -
This is the contract my wife and I worked to create using the Quran only as our guidance. We both worked on this so we both understood what we were undertaking as a couple.
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Marriage Contract
For those who submit their will to The God,
the Beneficent, the Merciful
?And of His signs is that He created for you, of yourselves, spouses, that you might repose in them, and He has set between you love and mercy. Surely in that are signs for a people who consider.? Surah 3021Confirmation of a contract of marriage based on mutual consent and agreement between , born and of marriageable age according to civil law, and , born and of marriageable age according to civil law, concluded on at in the presence of and .
The citizenship of the bride is . The citizenship of the groom is .
The place of intended residence of the couple is .
The parties intend that this contract is a domestic contract under the terms of .
We know that United States civil law applies to married couples, and we understand that signing this contract does not take away civil rights. In particular we know that United States family law with respect to custody, access and child support must be followed regardless of the content of this marriage contract.
Signature of wife
Signature of husband
Signature of witness
Signature of witnessDECLARATION OF FOLLOWING THE GOD?S GUIDANCE THE QURAN
?And they will not approve of you; the Yahudians and not the Nazarene, until you follow their faith. Say, ?Surely, guidance of The God, it is The Guidance. And if you follow their inclination after the one who has come to you of the knowledge, not for you from The God any guardian and not any helper.? Surah 2120We, and , pledge that we will only follow the best guidance, The God?s guidance, the Quran. The God, the One called (Allah) in the Arabic Quran, the Beneficent, the Merciful, Creator of all things, is sufficient as a witness between us.
?And marry not the females who deify until they believe. And a handmaiden, one who believes, is best from one who deifies, even if she pleases you. And marry not the males who deify until they believe. And a servant, one who believes, is best from one who deifies, even if he pleases you. Those, they invite to the Fire, and The God invites to the Coverings and the forgiveness, by His leave. And He makes clear His signs to the men, so that they may take heed.? Surah 2221
We, and , both bear witness that there is no god but The God, the One called (Allah) in the Arabic Quran, Creator of all things. They both bear witness that they submit their will to Him and Him alone; no associates has He. In this declaration we find The God, the Beneficent, the Merciful, is sufficient as a witness between us.
Part One
Declarations Relating to Marriage?And make not The God a turning away to your oaths from your righteousness, and beware, and reform between the men. And The God is Hearing, Knowing.
The God will not call you to account for the vain in your oaths, but He will call you to account for what your hearts earned. And The God is Forgiving, Forbearing.? Surah 2224-225DECLARATION THAT WE ARE FREE TO MARRY
We, and , each declare that today we are not married to any other person. We declare that we are not married by civil marriage, nik?h or any other type of marriage in any country or jurisdiction.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandWe, and , each declare that as of today we have not promised to marry any other person in any country or jurisdiction.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandWe, and , each declare that as of today we are not involved in any action related to either civil marriage or divorce. We also declare that any divorce proceedings we may have been involved in have been completed before we sign this contract. We declare that any divorce we had outside of this jurisdiction is valid where we plan to live as husband and wife.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandDECLARATION OF MONOGAMY
?And go not near the adultery. Surely it is an immorality and an evil way.? Surah 1732We, and , each declare that we will not try to marry any other person by either civil or marriage of any kind while this marriage exists and while each of us can exercise a right of divorce.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandWe, and , each declare an act of adultery would changes the terms of the contract and end the marriage.
If the act of adultery were committed by , he is responsible for fulfilling the full term and financial obligation (faratan) of the contract.
If the act of adultery were committed by , the contract is null and void and no further financial obligation (faratan) will be provided.
Signature of wife
Signature of husband"And whoever is not able to afford among you to marry the ones who are guarded of the ones who believe then from what your oaths control of your youths of the ones who believe. And The God knows best about your faith. You are from another. So marry them with permission of their family and give them their reward in kindness as ones who are guarded, not ones who fornicate or ones who take paramours. So when they are protected, if they then commit immorality, then unto them half of the punishment of what is on the ones who are guarded. That for whoever fears the difficulties among you. And that you be patient is better for you. And The God is Forgiving, Merciful." Surah 425
I, , bear witness that I have asked permission and been given permission by , , to marry .
Signature of husbandDECLARATION OF TYPE OF MARRIAGE
We, and , confirm and agree that our marriage is the marriage given in the Quran called (al-niki). We agree that the marriage will confer the full rights of (al-niki) and will last unless one of us ends the marriage by divorce or by death.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandDECLARATION OF OBLIGATION AMOUNT
We, and , agree on an obligation (faratan) provided by as follows
will pay
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandWe, and , confirm that the amount of obligation (faratan) listed in this contract was agreed upon by mutual, free negotiation between us.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandWe, and , are aware that by signing this contract, has an obligation to pay the obligation (faratan) to and that this obligation may be enforceable by law. Payment of the obligation (faratan) is a condition of this contract, in spite of any other rights, responsibilities, and remedies that may exist now or at any time between husband and wife. We both agree that the obligation (faratan) is the property of the wife and an asset owned by the wife before marriage; it is not an asset that will be divided if a divorce occurs.
Signature of wife
Signature of husband?He said, ?Surely, I desire to marry you to one of these, my two daughters upon that you hire on for eight years; but if you complete ten, that is from you. And I desire not difficulty upon you. You will find me, if The God wills, of the righteous.? Surah 2827
DECLARATION OF OBLIGATION TERM
We, and , agree that the obligation (faratan) shall be delivered to the wife for a period of 8 years or as one lump sum upon date of marriage.
Signature of wife
Signature of husband"The men are the supporters unto the women because The God favors some of them over others and because they spend from their wealth. So the good deeds obedience, guarding of the unseen that which guards of The God. And those whom you fear rebellion, then teach them, and avoid them in the bed and set them forth. So if they obey, then do not seek against them a way. Surely, The God is High, Great.? Surah 434
DECLARATION OF OBEDIENCE
We, and , believe that the equality of a wife to her husband is part of a marriage of those who submit their will to The God, the Creator who revealed the Arabic Quran; a guidance to all mankind. We promise to build a relationship based on service to The God, on equality, and on respect for each other. We promise that we will consult with each other and that neither one of us will have special authority or power over the other.
Signature of wife
Signature of husband?Women are a tilth for you, so come to your tilth how you both will, and send forth for yourselves. And beware The God, and know that you are ones who will meet Him, and announce of the ones who believe.? Surah 2223
DECLARATION OF NO FORCE OR VIOLENCE
We, and , each declare that we will not use violence of any kind in the marriage and that we will not use force or pressure in our personal relations. We also confirm that each of us has a full right of choice in matters having to do with intimate relations.
Signature of wife
Signature of husband?And The God has favored some of you unto others in the provision. So those who were favored turn over of their provision unto whom they control of oath, so they are in it equal. Or in the favors of The God do they deny?" Surah 1671
DECLARATION OF EDUCATION AND WORK
We, and , agree that each of us has the right to further our education and to work as we choose.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandDECLARATION OF HOUSEHOLD RESPONSIBILITIES
We, and , agree in principle and in a spirit of open cooperation that we will divide housework equally. We will take into account the duties each of us has outside the home, such as those related to work and education. We each agree that we will be respectful and constructive if we need to talk about any inequality or unfairness.
Signature of wife
Signature of husband?The God has not made for man any two hearts inside him. And he has not made your spouses to whom you support from them of your mothers. And He has not made your calling your sons. That is your saying with your mouths, but The God says the truth, and He guides the way. Call them by their fathers; it is just with The God. But if you know not their fathers then your brothers in the conduct and your friends. And not upon you is any blame in what you err in it, but what your hearts intend. And The God is Forgiving, Merciful.? Surah 334-5
DECLARATION OF CHILDREN
We, and , agree to treat all children of current and former relationships as our own, being equitable and just between them all. We, and , also agree that our children have the right to keep the surnames of the fathers who sired them.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandPart Two
Declarations Relating to Religious Divorce
DECLARATION OF SEEKING RECONCILIATION BEFORE DIVORCE
We, and pledge that if either of us is considering a divorce, the parties will contemplate seeking reconciliation before drawing up the written declaration of divorce, in accord with the revelation of The God found in the Quran, in Surah 435
?And if you fear a schism between them, then send an arbitrator from his family and an arbitrator from her family. If they desire reform, The God will reconcile between them. Surely The God is Knower, Seer.? Surah 435
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandDECLARATION OF DIVORCE IN WRITING
We, and , pledge that if either of us wants to have a divorce, the person divorcing will write up a paper document that is signed, dated, and notarized or commissioned. They will write, sign and notarize or commission the statement of divorce as soon as the divorce is started and make sure that it is delivered to the spouse being divorced within seven (7) days of that date. We understand that this declaration does not make or begin a civil divorce and that we must take other action to get a civil divorce.
Signature of wife
Signature of husband?For those who forswear from their woman, a wait of four months, then if they return; then surely The God is Forgiving, Merciful. And if they decide the separation, then surely The God is Hearing, Knowing.? Surah 2226-227
If seeks divorce, he must announce this intention and separate himself from . will not enter into coitus with during this time to ensure no progeny are created during the separation period.
Signature of wife
Signature of husband?And the ones who are separated shall wait by themselves three recitals. And it is not permitted for them that they conceal what The God created in their wombs if they believe in The God and the Day of the Afterlife. And their husbands are truer in taking them back in that, if they desire reform. And for them similar; that which is on them with fairness, and for the men, on them a rank. And The God is Mighty, Judge.? Surah 2228
?And those who despair of the menses from your women, if you doubt, then their number is three months. And the non-menstruated and those of the pregnant, their term is until they deliver their burden. And whoever fears The God, He will make for him from his affair ease.? Surah 654The divorce will become final after a waiting period (iddatin) of four months. During that time will wait three recitations of the Quran ? three lunar cycles ? or until the end of her next menstrual cycle, which ever occurs first, to ensure no progeny were created prior to the separation period.
will not enter into coitus with during this time to ensure no progeny are created during the separation period.
will count her own menstrual cycles and will respect her count.
and may seek reconciliation during this four month waiting period.
Signature of wife
Signature of husband?The separation is twice, then to retain with fairness or to release with kindness. And it is not permitted for you that you take whatever you have given them of anything, except if both fear that they cannot keep The God?s limits. So if you fear that they cannot keep The God?s limits, then no blame on them in what she ransoms in it. These are The God?s limits, so transgress them not. And whoever transgresses The God?s limits, then those; they are the defilers.? Surah 2229
We, and , will only seek separation with hope of reconciliation twice during the entire course of our marriage. Upon the third decision for separation, divorce will be the final result, without any opportunity to reconcile during the waiting period.
Signature of wife
Signature of husband?Lodge them from where you inhabit from your means and do not harm them to distress upon them. And if they are pregnant folk, then spend upon them until they deliver their burden. Then if they suckle for you, then give them their payment, and consult between yourselves in kindness. But if you disagree, then another may suckle for him.? Surah 656
I, , pledge that I will fully maintain my wife at least until the end of her waiting period, in accordance with Surah 656.
Signature of husbandI, , pledge that if is found to be pregnant after separation is pronounced, that I shall support her fully until the birth of the child, in accordance with Surah 654 and Surah 656.
I consider this undertaking to be a religious and moral obligation in addition to my civil obligations under the law.
Signature of husband?And if you desire replacing a wife in place of a wife and you gave one of them a heap, then take not away from it anything. You would take to you slander and a manifest punishment.? Surah 420
We, and , agree that in accordance with the teachings found in Surah 2229 and Surah 420, upon divorce outside of adultery, in the case of obligation (faratan) remaining it shall be continued to be paid for the remainder of the 8 year term, without any part subtracted.
Upon divorce outside of adultery, in the case of the obligation (faratan) given as one lump sum paid upon date of marriage, no part may be subtracted.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandDECLARATION OF CIVIL DIVORCE
We, and , pledge to seek and complete any civil divorce in the place of intended residence of the couple in .
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandDECLARATION OF CIVIL DIVORCE IN ANOTHER OR FOREIGN JURISDICTION
We, and , pledge to facilitate and grant a divorce in a foreign jurisdiction where our marriage may continue to exist after our civil divorce is final.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandPart Three
Power of Divorce
RELIGIOUS DIVORCE UPON CIVIL DIVORCE
We, and , each declare that we believe that getting a civil divorce gives us a divorce in accordance with the conduct taught in the Quran. When the civil divorce is final, each of us will consider that we are divorced in the sight of The God. We understand that any remaining
mahr will be due when the civil divorce is final.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandPOWER OF DIVORCE
We, and , cannot decide later that we no longer want our spouse to have the power of divorce.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandDIVORCE UPON VIOLATION OF STATED CONDITIONS
We, and , place the power and option of divorce in the hands of my spouse if any of the conditions agreed to above are violated.
Signature of wife
Signature of husband -
This is the contract my wife and I worked to create using the Quran only as our guidance. We both worked on this so we both understood what we were undertaking as a couple.
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Salaam raginggaijin,
Very nice bravo
May Allah bless you and your wife pr
Salaam,
Bender -
This is the contract my wife and I worked to create using the Quran only as our guidance. We both worked on this so we both understood what we were undertaking as a couple.
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Marriage Contract
For those who submit their will to The God,
the Beneficent, the Merciful
?And of His signs is that He created for you, of yourselves, spouses, that you might repose in them, and He has set between you love and mercy. Surely in that are signs for a people who consider.? Surah 3021Confirmation of a contract of marriage based on mutual consent and agreement between , born and of marriageable age according to civil law, and , born and of marriageable age according to civil law, concluded on at in the presence of and .
The citizenship of the bride is . The citizenship of the groom is .
The place of intended residence of the couple is .
The parties intend that this contract is a domestic contract under the terms of .
We know that United States civil law applies to married couples, and we understand that signing this contract does not take away civil rights. In particular we know that United States family law with respect to custody, access and child support must be followed regardless of the content of this marriage contract.
Signature of wife
Signature of husband
Signature of witness
Signature of witnessDECLARATION OF FOLLOWING THE GOD?S GUIDANCE THE QURAN
?And they will not approve of you; the Yahudians and not the Nazarene, until you follow their faith. Say, ?Surely, guidance of The God, it is The Guidance. And if you follow their inclination after the one who has come to you of the knowledge, not for you from The God any guardian and not any helper.? Surah 2120We, and , pledge that we will only follow the best guidance, The God?s guidance, the Quran. The God, the One called (Allah) in the Arabic Quran, the Beneficent, the Merciful, Creator of all things, is sufficient as a witness between us.
?And marry not the females who deify until they believe. And a handmaiden, one who believes, is best from one who deifies, even if she pleases you. And marry not the males who deify until they believe. And a servant, one who believes, is best from one who deifies, even if he pleases you. Those, they invite to the Fire, and The God invites to the Coverings and the forgiveness, by His leave. And He makes clear His signs to the men, so that they may take heed.? Surah 2221
We, and , both bear witness that there is no god but The God, the One called (Allah) in the Arabic Quran, Creator of all things. They both bear witness that they submit their will to Him and Him alone; no associates has He. In this declaration we find The God, the Beneficent, the Merciful, is sufficient as a witness between us.
Part One
Declarations Relating to Marriage?And make not The God a turning away to your oaths from your righteousness, and beware, and reform between the men. And The God is Hearing, Knowing.
The God will not call you to account for the vain in your oaths, but He will call you to account for what your hearts earned. And The God is Forgiving, Forbearing.? Surah 2224-225DECLARATION THAT WE ARE FREE TO MARRY
We, and , each declare that today we are not married to any other person. We declare that we are not married by civil marriage, nik?h or any other type of marriage in any country or jurisdiction.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandWe, and , each declare that as of today we have not promised to marry any other person in any country or jurisdiction.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandWe, and , each declare that as of today we are not involved in any action related to either civil marriage or divorce. We also declare that any divorce proceedings we may have been involved in have been completed before we sign this contract. We declare that any divorce we had outside of this jurisdiction is valid where we plan to live as husband and wife.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandDECLARATION OF MONOGAMY
?And go not near the adultery. Surely it is an immorality and an evil way.? Surah 1732We, and , each declare that we will not try to marry any other person by either civil or marriage of any kind while this marriage exists and while each of us can exercise a right of divorce.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandWe, and , each declare an act of adultery would changes the terms of the contract and end the marriage.
If the act of adultery were committed by , he is responsible for fulfilling the full term and financial obligation (faratan) of the contract.
If the act of adultery were committed by , the contract is null and void and no further financial obligation (faratan) will be provided.
Signature of wife
Signature of husband"And whoever is not able to afford among you to marry the ones who are guarded of the ones who believe then from what your oaths control of your youths of the ones who believe. And The God knows best about your faith. You are from another. So marry them with permission of their family and give them their reward in kindness as ones who are guarded, not ones who fornicate or ones who take paramours. So when they are protected, if they then commit immorality, then unto them half of the punishment of what is on the ones who are guarded. That for whoever fears the difficulties among you. And that you be patient is better for you. And The God is Forgiving, Merciful." Surah 425
I, , bear witness that I have asked permission and been given permission by , , to marry .
Signature of husbandDECLARATION OF TYPE OF MARRIAGE
We, and , confirm and agree that our marriage is the marriage given in the Quran called (al-niki). We agree that the marriage will confer the full rights of (al-niki) and will last unless one of us ends the marriage by divorce or by death.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandDECLARATION OF OBLIGATION AMOUNT
We, and , agree on an obligation (faratan) provided by as follows
will pay
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandWe, and , confirm that the amount of obligation (faratan) listed in this contract was agreed upon by mutual, free negotiation between us.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandWe, and , are aware that by signing this contract, has an obligation to pay the obligation (faratan) to and that this obligation may be enforceable by law. Payment of the obligation (faratan) is a condition of this contract, in spite of any other rights, responsibilities, and remedies that may exist now or at any time between husband and wife. We both agree that the obligation (faratan) is the property of the wife and an asset owned by the wife before marriage; it is not an asset that will be divided if a divorce occurs.
Signature of wife
Signature of husband?He said, ?Surely, I desire to marry you to one of these, my two daughters upon that you hire on for eight years; but if you complete ten, that is from you. And I desire not difficulty upon you. You will find me, if The God wills, of the righteous.? Surah 2827
DECLARATION OF OBLIGATION TERM
We, and , agree that the obligation (faratan) shall be delivered to the wife for a period of 8 years or as one lump sum upon date of marriage.
Signature of wife
Signature of husband"The men are the supporters unto the women because The God favors some of them over others and because they spend from their wealth. So the good deeds obedience, guarding of the unseen that which guards of The God. And those whom you fear rebellion, then teach them, and avoid them in the bed and set them forth. So if they obey, then do not seek against them a way. Surely, The God is High, Great.? Surah 434
DECLARATION OF OBEDIENCE
We, and , believe that the equality of a wife to her husband is part of a marriage of those who submit their will to The God, the Creator who revealed the Arabic Quran; a guidance to all mankind. We promise to build a relationship based on service to The God, on equality, and on respect for each other. We promise that we will consult with each other and that neither one of us will have special authority or power over the other.
Signature of wife
Signature of husband?Women are a tilth for you, so come to your tilth how you both will, and send forth for yourselves. And beware The God, and know that you are ones who will meet Him, and announce of the ones who believe.? Surah 2223
DECLARATION OF NO FORCE OR VIOLENCE
We, and , each declare that we will not use violence of any kind in the marriage and that we will not use force or pressure in our personal relations. We also confirm that each of us has a full right of choice in matters having to do with intimate relations.
Signature of wife
Signature of husband?And The God has favored some of you unto others in the provision. So those who were favored turn over of their provision unto whom they control of oath, so they are in it equal. Or in the favors of The God do they deny?" Surah 1671
DECLARATION OF EDUCATION AND WORK
We, and , agree that each of us has the right to further our education and to work as we choose.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandDECLARATION OF HOUSEHOLD RESPONSIBILITIES
We, and , agree in principle and in a spirit of open cooperation that we will divide housework equally. We will take into account the duties each of us has outside the home, such as those related to work and education. We each agree that we will be respectful and constructive if we need to talk about any inequality or unfairness.
Signature of wife
Signature of husband?The God has not made for man any two hearts inside him. And he has not made your spouses to whom you support from them of your mothers. And He has not made your calling your sons. That is your saying with your mouths, but The God says the truth, and He guides the way. Call them by their fathers; it is just with The God. But if you know not their fathers then your brothers in the conduct and your friends. And not upon you is any blame in what you err in it, but what your hearts intend. And The God is Forgiving, Merciful.? Surah 334-5
DECLARATION OF CHILDREN
We, and , agree to treat all children of current and former relationships as our own, being equitable and just between them all. We, and , also agree that our children have the right to keep the surnames of the fathers who sired them.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandPart Two
Declarations Relating to Religious Divorce
DECLARATION OF SEEKING RECONCILIATION BEFORE DIVORCE
We, and pledge that if either of us is considering a divorce, the parties will contemplate seeking reconciliation before drawing up the written declaration of divorce, in accord with the revelation of The God found in the Quran, in Surah 435
?And if you fear a schism between them, then send an arbitrator from his family and an arbitrator from her family. If they desire reform, The God will reconcile between them. Surely The God is Knower, Seer.? Surah 435
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandDECLARATION OF DIVORCE IN WRITING
We, and , pledge that if either of us wants to have a divorce, the person divorcing will write up a paper document that is signed, dated, and notarized or commissioned. They will write, sign and notarize or commission the statement of divorce as soon as the divorce is started and make sure that it is delivered to the spouse being divorced within seven (7) days of that date. We understand that this declaration does not make or begin a civil divorce and that we must take other action to get a civil divorce.
Signature of wife
Signature of husband?For those who forswear from their woman, a wait of four months, then if they return; then surely The God is Forgiving, Merciful. And if they decide the separation, then surely The God is Hearing, Knowing.? Surah 2226-227
If seeks divorce, he must announce this intention and separate himself from . will not enter into coitus with during this time to ensure no progeny are created during the separation period.
Signature of wife
Signature of husband?And the ones who are separated shall wait by themselves three recitals. And it is not permitted for them that they conceal what The God created in their wombs if they believe in The God and the Day of the Afterlife. And their husbands are truer in taking them back in that, if they desire reform. And for them similar; that which is on them with fairness, and for the men, on them a rank. And The God is Mighty, Judge.? Surah 2228
?And those who despair of the menses from your women, if you doubt, then their number is three months. And the non-menstruated and those of the pregnant, their term is until they deliver their burden. And whoever fears The God, He will make for him from his affair ease.? Surah 654The divorce will become final after a waiting period (iddatin) of four months. During that time will wait three recitations of the Quran ? three lunar cycles ? or until the end of her next menstrual cycle, which ever occurs first, to ensure no progeny were created prior to the separation period.
will not enter into coitus with during this time to ensure no progeny are created during the separation period.
will count her own menstrual cycles and will respect her count.
and may seek reconciliation during this four month waiting period.
Signature of wife
Signature of husband?The separation is twice, then to retain with fairness or to release with kindness. And it is not permitted for you that you take whatever you have given them of anything, except if both fear that they cannot keep The God?s limits. So if you fear that they cannot keep The God?s limits, then no blame on them in what she ransoms in it. These are The God?s limits, so transgress them not. And whoever transgresses The God?s limits, then those; they are the defilers.? Surah 2229
We, and , will only seek separation with hope of reconciliation twice during the entire course of our marriage. Upon the third decision for separation, divorce will be the final result, without any opportunity to reconcile during the waiting period.
Signature of wife
Signature of husband?Lodge them from where you inhabit from your means and do not harm them to distress upon them. And if they are pregnant folk, then spend upon them until they deliver their burden. Then if they suckle for you, then give them their payment, and consult between yourselves in kindness. But if you disagree, then another may suckle for him.? Surah 656
I, , pledge that I will fully maintain my wife at least until the end of her waiting period, in accordance with Surah 656.
Signature of husbandI, , pledge that if is found to be pregnant after separation is pronounced, that I shall support her fully until the birth of the child, in accordance with Surah 654 and Surah 656.
I consider this undertaking to be a religious and moral obligation in addition to my civil obligations under the law.
Signature of husband?And if you desire replacing a wife in place of a wife and you gave one of them a heap, then take not away from it anything. You would take to you slander and a manifest punishment.? Surah 420
We, and , agree that in accordance with the teachings found in Surah 2229 and Surah 420, upon divorce outside of adultery, in the case of obligation (faratan) remaining it shall be continued to be paid for the remainder of the 8 year term, without any part subtracted.
Upon divorce outside of adultery, in the case of the obligation (faratan) given as one lump sum paid upon date of marriage, no part may be subtracted.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandDECLARATION OF CIVIL DIVORCE
We, and , pledge to seek and complete any civil divorce in the place of intended residence of the couple in .
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandDECLARATION OF CIVIL DIVORCE IN ANOTHER OR FOREIGN JURISDICTION
We, and , pledge to facilitate and grant a divorce in a foreign jurisdiction where our marriage may continue to exist after our civil divorce is final.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandPart Three
Power of Divorce
RELIGIOUS DIVORCE UPON CIVIL DIVORCE
We, and , each declare that we believe that getting a civil divorce gives us a divorce in accordance with the conduct taught in the Quran. When the civil divorce is final, each of us will consider that we are divorced in the sight of The God. We understand that any remaining
mahr will be due when the civil divorce is final.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandPOWER OF DIVORCE
We, and , cannot decide later that we no longer want our spouse to have the power of divorce.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandDIVORCE UPON VIOLATION OF STATED CONDITIONS
We, and , place the power and option of divorce in the hands of my spouse if any of the conditions agreed to above are violated.
Signature of wife
Signature of husbandThis to me describes pretty well what is clearly contradictory in "Quran only" position . . .one one had they reject Hadith by calling it conjecture and what not.
On the other had . . . they insert "extra" from them self. . . . the above is nothing more than an attempt to align with Westernism . .
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What the hell is westernism anyway? Go home to your Neanderthal brethren instead of fooling around here. You only complain instead of coming up with your views.
No one comes away from that the Book tells us to be modest and humble, but you surely test our patience.
I suppose few here want to look like Britney Spears or Lady Gaga, and they do not fuck around with anyone they like like your western view nor would they want God's system to look as such.
Okay. My wife tells me not to waste energy on the likes of you. She says that someone who is having a lock on his mind cannot grasp a thing. So I will stop here. She is right this time.
Peace out
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What the hell is westernism anyway? Go home to your Neanderthal brethren instead of fooling around here. You only complain instead of coming up with your views.
No one comes away from that the Book tells us to be modest and humble, but you surely test our patience.
I suppose few here want to look like Britney Spears or Lady Gaga, and they do not fuck around with anyone they like like your western view nor would they want God's system to look as such.
Okay. My wife tells me not to waste energy on the likes of you. She says that someone who is having a lock on his mind cannot grasp a thing. So I will stop here. She is right this time.
Peace out
o o o o o o o hands over a bucket of ice don't get so worked up about all of this MoF, not worth it..... confused
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Peace,
I am terribly sorry for my behavior at that point. Wish I could delete the post.
God bless you
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Peace Sushi.
I am sure MoF will put that episode behind him and move on.
GOD bless you both.
Peace.