How do Quran Aloners interact with their families

Maha

Since most of you have a different belief then your respective families, I am intrested to know how you interact with your families when it comes to religious practices and rituals. For instance, some quran aloners may find it hard to attend certain religious ceremonies in masjid or church with their family members, while others may disagree with the upcoming traditional ramadan fast/traditionel prayer which may create certain tensions.

Thanks in advance. May God bless and Guide us all.

diamantinehoneybunch

Salaam.

I am still 17 so I just jave to completely obey my parents.

My parents are going to force to me to wear the hijab this Ramadan.

My parents will surely force me to perform tarawikh prayer in this Ramadhan so I just have to perform the ritual, pretend to set up Muhammad and Abraham as partners with God in prayer, have to yell the Egyptian God Amen (Aaaameeeeen) after recitation of Sura Al Fatihah.

I have already told my mom about this hadith thingy but my mom did not pay attention to me. '( I think if I straighly tell my parents that I am strongly against hadith, maybe they would torture me elektro

But when it comes to hijab, I still remember when I was quarelling with my mom about hijab. After giving proof from Qur'an and the mursal hadith about Aisha tellimg Asma to cover everything except face and hands, she told me like this There are many other ahadith about that. Who are you to question ulema (priests actually pffft)! They have learnt about Islam for so many years. Don't you know that women will be strung up by hair for not covering their hair? Don't you know that the majority of hell dwellers are women? Don't you know that it is your father who is also responsible for your sins. I have never seen a person like you

My parents are not hardcore hadithers. Even my mother wears colored hijab. But when it comes to either hijab iis compulsory or not, they'd become extreme.

We really seldom pray together. So this give me the chance to establish salat without the rituals.

And this upcoming Ramadan, my mom would ask my whether I am "clean" or "unclean". I have to be honest! And if she knows that I am "unclean", she'd cook for me in the day of ramadan and force me to eat or she'd yell at me '(

And I have to listen to Bukhari & Co's Masterpiece of lies after tarawikh prayer at mosque.

I hope y'all are having great lives even with hardcore hadithers or anti-Muslim like Ali Sina voodoo

May Peace be with You All.

justamuslim

I participate in Christmas parade, decorate for Christmas, give presents, at times have attended church. Actually, I like listening to sermons. None of which conflict with my beliefs. Obviously, doesn't carry the same meaning to me as it does to my Christian friends. When my friends ask me, I just state that Jesus is not son of God. Depending on the situation and person, get into discussion about the bible. I have ended conversations by saying with a smile, "if I want my soul saved, I go directly to the Father and cut out the middle guy ". I don't get into and avoid getting into arguments and confrontation.

And the same thing with my family and friends who are traditional Muslims. The last time went to the mosque, I didnt pray. People just think that i am on my periods. There was a time when I was on my menses when we went to friends house and I didn't want everyone to know that I was on my menses and so I prayed with them - going through the motions. Praying the way that traditional Muslims is not a sin or contradictory to the Koran. Depending on situation, I don't join and will explain myself.

I just visited family and let them know of my beliefs. When asked how my fasting is going or why I don't fast, I just explain. I don't wear a hijab and last year when attending my cousins wedding when everyone was in burqa or niqab or in hijab, I decided to stand up by not wearing a hijab and having my hair down. It was scandalous! I said to my uncle that none of the prophets went with the flow following the traditions of their forefathers. They stood up and we all know how they were treated by society. I stand up when the occupation calls for it or feel like it but there are times when I don't bother. I just listen and say nothing. Go with the flow and the motions without meaning. I find that at times and depending on the sitaution, this is the best. God knows me and what I believe and at the end of the day, that is what matters and not what other people think may it be positive or negative.

I have had people say that I belong to a cult and to which my response was, yes I do and it is called the cult of believing in God, the last day and doing good things . Over the years, I have matured meaning I don't get all emotional and react emotionally like i used to when people say that I follow satan, lost, going to hell, etc.

Knowledge is empowering. Depending on the situation and person, I refer to the Koran asking can you tell me where in the Koran God says..such and such. Or ask for references from the hadiths.

So it all depends on the situation and persons,how I interact.

AK85

I'm lucky in the sense that my parents are not religious so my beliefs aren't a problem for them.

supportpeacenotwar

Peace,

You know this is where we could learn something from 'new age' spirituality and religion. They are very individual and accept each others differences. Although some do, a lot of them don't simply imitate or regurgitate what they see others doing but they still accept each other. Not all of them do, they have their own divisions as well but there can be a more accepting attitude. They can be quite eclectic and tend to think for themselves what they think will work and try it out. For example, I could start doing the/type of ritual prayer - will that change my beliefs and who I am? Not really, and if someone doesn't do a ritual prayer should this mean division? No - this type of attitude though exists everywhere though and that's really why the Quran requires us to think for ourselves through the guidance of Allah swt.

In terms of the family issue, I just get on with my own thing.

spodacus

Salam,

When I was younger and was pressured into these situations I silently did my own prayer (to Allah alone without mention of anyone else) while everyone followed the imam. I also would say "Allahuakbar" instead of "Ameen" because I felt it more righteous.

As for hijab just remember it does not define you, even if you are forced to wear it as a youth. You are still under your parents household so it might be difficult to go against their wishes. Both wearing and not wearing a hijab is acceptable in Islam, always remember that the best cloth is the cloth of righteousness (verse number alludes me at the moment).