Skip to content
  • Categories
  • Recent
  • Users
Skins
  • Light
  • Brite
  • Cerulean
  • Cosmo
  • Flatly
  • Journal
  • Litera
  • Lumen
  • Lux
  • Materia
  • Minty
  • Morph
  • Pulse
  • Sandstone
  • Simplex
  • Sketchy
  • Spacelab
  • United
  • Yeti
  • Zephyr
  • Dark
  • Cyborg
  • Darkly
  • Quartz
  • Slate
  • Solar
  • Superhero
  • Vapor

  • Default (No Skin)
  • No Skin
Collapse
Free Minds Forum Icon
  1. Home
  2. Family Issues
  3. Marriage & Divorce
  4. Marriage to a Sunni, I need advice

Marriage to a Sunni, I need advice

Scheduled Pinned Locked Moved Marriage & Divorce
31 Posts 17 Posters 1.2k Views
  • Oldest to Newest
  • Newest to Oldest
  • Most Votes
Reply
  • Reply as topic
Log in to reply
This topic has been deleted. Only users with topic management privileges can see it.
  • U Offline
    U Offline
    unknownuser
    wrote on last edited by
    #6

    Peace emmyr75.

    I have no idea about this, but I suggest you to don't take Israfeel's advice because he is Sunni and his teaching is different from us and the Quran.

    1 Reply Last reply
    0
    • P Offline
      P Offline
      PixelAngelBaby
      wrote on last edited by
      #7

      If my husband acted that way towards me I would be out the door. When I denounced sunnism, i was prepared to divorce my husband if necessary. Because as much as I love him, I love Allah more. But thanks to Allah, he took it well and even followed in my footsteps.

      You deserve someone who shares the same beliefs, and someone who cares enough to not ignore you and expect you to be and act according to how they think you should.

      Are there children involved?

      My advice to you is to sincerely ask Allah what to do, only He can provide the right answer.

      1 Reply Last reply
      0
      • H Offline
        H Offline
        hicham9
        wrote on last edited by
        #8

        ... I am not sure I did the right thing ... It seems there is no hope for this marriage. I can't decide if I should stay with him or I should move on ...

        Move on.

        1 Reply Last reply
        0
        • H Offline
          H Offline
          huruf
          wrote on last edited by
          #9

          War with the consort is not a very commendable way of life. Yes, move on.

          Salaam

          1 Reply Last reply
          0
          • A Offline
            A Offline
            Aamer
            wrote on last edited by
            #10

            Your marriage was already terminated the second you became a "Quranist". Islam does not recognize marriage between Muslims and Quranist. In other words your nikaah is broken and its haram for your former husband to be with you. I hope he knows that because he could be doing zina (adultery).

            Sunnis are so funny. Israfeel, will you be performing at Islamic comedy hour at the Improv?

            1 Reply Last reply
            0
            • H Offline
              H Offline
              hawk99
              wrote on last edited by
              #11

              Sunnis are so funny. Israfeel, will you be performing at Islamic comedy hour at the Improv?

              1 Reply Last reply
              0
              • D Offline
                D Offline
                diamantinehoneybunch
                wrote on last edited by
                #12

                Sunnis are so funny. Israfeel, will you be performing at Islamic comedy hour at the Improv?

                rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl

                Who will sponsor the comedy show?

                How much will Israfeel earn as his salary?

                1 Reply Last reply
                0
                • I Offline
                  I Offline
                  Ikrame
                  wrote on last edited by
                  #13

                  Why would you stay? in hope to get back the good times, out of fear for being lonely?
                  I think it's important in order to move on to figure out what's holding you back. you should definetely leave him based on what your saying but figure things out first good luck

                  1 Reply Last reply
                  0
                  • R Offline
                    R Offline
                    rebeccarossa
                    wrote on last edited by
                    #14

                    Hi, If you have gone back with him and you feel nothing has changed, it probably hasn't. I know it is difficult to think of leaving again, but even harder is waking up 10 years later and realizing how desperately unhappy you are/have been living with a controlling husband. My advice is coming out of my own personal experience with a failed marriage and divorce. While I wish I had children, I am glad that Allah swt in His infinite wisdom did not send them to me with my ex because of the situation I was in at the time.

                    Life is too short to stay with someone who doesn't treat you well.

                    It may be tough at first but remember that you will come through it all with the help of Allah swt.

                    1 Reply Last reply
                    0
                    • Z Offline
                      Z Offline
                      Zulf
                      wrote on last edited by
                      #15

                      Life is too short to be confused. I really cannot see why you "went back" to him. Have you asked yourself why you are punishing yourself? Why do you do that? Stop it. This guy is insulting you and totally disrespecting you. You need to recognize that! If you cannot see that he actually has zero respect for you, then it will be very difficult for you to give respect to yourself. Allah doesn't change anyone's situation unless we make a move to change it ourselves. Is there something you desperately need from the marriage? I'm sure it's not that important, to live a life of insult, disrespect and loneliness.
                      This is about you. Why are YOU doing this to YOURSELF? Probe into yourself and have some mature talk with yourself.

                      Now, if you think he is not disrespecting you, for whatever reason, then just realize that he is suffocating your life. It seems your and his ideas and views of life are incompatible. Why waste your life? Don't you believe in what you believe in?

                      By the way, if you want to get rid of this guy, then you should actually follow what Israfeel is saying. Just tell this "fact" to your so called husband, and perhaps he will be happy to leave you.

                      Why are you clinging on? Life is too short. If we are not supposed to torment others, then we are equally much not supposed to torment ourselves. There is no honor is self-disrespect.

                      Peace and good luck! Pray to God! God is our only hope!

                      1 Reply Last reply
                      0
                      • S Offline
                        S Offline
                        simonejamilla
                        wrote on last edited by
                        #16

                        Your marriage was already terminated the second you became a "Quranist". Islam does not recognize marriage between Muslims and Quranist. In other words your nikaah is broken and its haram for your former husband to be with you. I hope he knows that because he could be doing zina (adultery).

                        Peace all.
                        Where is this information? I genuinely would like to know where this has come from? Israfeel could you please give me either a verse from the book of Allah Al Qur'an or one of your Sahih Sittah.

                        1 Reply Last reply
                        0
                        • I Offline
                          I Offline
                          Israfeel
                          wrote on last edited by
                          #17

                          Peace all.
                          Where is this information? I genuinely would like to know where this has come from? Israfeel could you please give me either a verse from the book of Allah Al Qur'an or one of your Sahih Sittah.

                          ?And give not (your daughters) in marriage to AlMushrikoon till they believe (in Allaah Alone)?

                          ?And give not (your daughters) in marriage to AlMushrikoon till they believe (in Allaah Alone)?

                          These verses of the Quran make it clear that Muslim women are forbidden from marrying non-Muslim men. Hadith-rejectors are declared as unbelievers and outside the circle of Islam because of their rejection of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him. Allah in the Quran says

                          Say "Obey Allah and His Messenger (peace be upon him) But if they turn back, Allah loves not the disbelievers" (Sura 333)

                          Since Hadith-rejectors refuse to obey the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) they are disbelievers, and it is forbidden for Believers to marry with them.

                          1 Reply Last reply
                          0
                          • WakasW Offline
                            WakasW Offline
                            Wakas
                            wrote on last edited by
                            #18

                            Israfeel,

                            Please see the forum rules, especially (2) and (3)
                            http//free-minds.org/forum/index.php?topic=8177.0

                            Bold emphasis mine

                            Hadith-rejectors are declared as unbelievers and outside the circle of Islam because of their rejection of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him. Allah in the Quran says

                            Say "Obey Allah and His Messenger (peace be upon him) But if they turn back, Allah loves not the disbelievers" (Sura 333)

                            Since Hadith-rejectors refuse to obey the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) they are disbelievers, and it is forbidden for Believers to marry with them.

                            1. Please show where in Quran it is declared "hadith-rejectors are unbelievers and outside the circle of Islam"
                            2. Please show where forum members (ideally a few of us) clearly state they reject prophet Muhammad.
                            3. Please show where forum members (ideally a few of us) clearly state they refuse to obey the Messenger of Allah.

                            If you cannot, and you need to correct/clarify your statements, then I suggest you do so.

                            All information is correct to the best of my knowledge only and thus should not be taken as a fact. One should always seek knowledge and verify for themselves when possible: 17:36, 20:114, 35:28, 49:6, 58:11.

                            1 Reply Last reply
                            0
                            • I Offline
                              I Offline
                              Israfeel
                              wrote on last edited by
                              #19

                              Israfeel,

                              Please see the forum rules, especially (2) and (3)
                              http//free-minds.org/forum/index.php?topic=8177.0

                              Bold emphasis mine

                              1. Please show where in Quran it is declared "hadith-rejectors are unbelievers and outside the circle of Islam"
                              2. Please show where forum members (ideally a few of us) clearly state they reject prophet Muhammad.
                              3. Please show where forum members (ideally a few of us) clearly state they refuse to obey the Messenger of Allah.

                              If you cannot, and you need to correct/clarify your statements, then I suggest you do so.

                              Im at work right now. Give me some time when I'm free.

                              *The short answer is that since Hadith-rejectors reject the authentically reported Hadith of the Prophet peace be upon him, therefore they refuse to obey his sayings and teachings, therefore they are disbelievers from the perspective of orthodox mainstream Sunni Muslims.

                              1 Reply Last reply
                              0
                              • H Offline
                                H Offline
                                hawk99
                                wrote on last edited by
                                #20

                                Im at work right now. Give me some time when I'm free.

                                *The short answer is that since Hadith-rejectors reject the authentically reported Hadith of the Prophet peace be upon him, therefore they refuse to obey his sayings and teachings, therefore they are disbelievers from the perspective of orthodox mainstream Sunni Muslims.

                                Your short answer is not from Quran. nope

                                1 Reply Last reply
                                0
                                • I Offline
                                  I Offline
                                  Israfeel
                                  wrote on last edited by
                                  #21

                                  Your short answer is not from Quran. nope

                                  Why should it be? Quran is not the only revelation from Allah.

                                  1 Reply Last reply
                                  0
                                  • D Offline
                                    D Offline
                                    diamantinehoneybunch
                                    wrote on last edited by
                                    #22

                                    Im at work right now. Give me some time when I'm free.

                                    *The short answer is that since Hadith-rejectors reject the authentically reported Hadith of the Prophet peace be upon him, therefore they refuse to obey his sayings and teachings, therefore they are disbelievers from the perspective of orthodox mainstream Sunni Muslims.

                                    Salaam,

                                    Verse 425 clearly prohibits having sex with ma malakat aymanukum but some narrations attributed to Muhammad say that Muhammad had sex with Mariyyah his Coptic slave during Hafsa's turn at Hafsa's house.

                                    Regards,
                                    Yuliana

                                    1 Reply Last reply
                                    0
                                    • H Offline
                                      H Offline
                                      hawk99
                                      wrote on last edited by
                                      #23

                                      Why should it be? Quran is not the only revelation from Allah.

                                      What other revelations are you referring to?

                                      1 Reply Last reply
                                      0
                                      • B Offline
                                        B Offline
                                        Bender
                                        wrote on last edited by
                                        #24

                                        Im at work right now. Give me some time when I'm free.

                                        *The short answer is that since Hadith-rejectors reject the authentically reported Hadith of the Prophet peace be upon him, therefore they refuse to obey his sayings and teachings, therefore they are disbelievers from the perspective of orthodox mainstream Sunni Muslims.

                                        Salaamun alayka,

                                        RED thank you, that is a nice an honest answer.

                                        Can you answer me these 3 questions please

                                        Who is going to judge you and me?
                                        A) Allah
                                        B) orthodox mainstream Sunni Muslims

                                        Who is going to judge the orthodox mainstream Sunni Muslims?
                                        A) Allah
                                        B) themselves

                                        What is the ONLY judgement that counts?
                                        A) Allah's judgement
                                        B) orthodox mainstream Sunni Muslims judgement

                                        Salaam,
                                        Bender

                                        1 Reply Last reply
                                        0
                                        • N Offline
                                          N Offline
                                          Noon_waalqalami
                                          wrote on last edited by
                                          #25

                                          ?And give not (your daughters) in marriage to AlMushrikoon till they believe (in Allaah Alone)?

                                          ?And give not (your daughters) in marriage to AlMushrikoon till they believe (in Allaah Alone)?

                                          Peace,

                                          Translation posted is horrid; there's no "give" or "daughters" in verse and address is to males and females.

                                          2221 and not marry yeh the idolaters (f/p) until believes and surely handmaiden believer (f/s) better from idolatress and supposing like her you and not marry yeh the idolaters (m/p) until believe they and servant (m/s) believer better from idolater and supposing liked you him surely those calling to the fire and the god invites to the garden/paradise and the forgiveness by permission his and makes clear signs his to the humankind perhaps they those remembering

                                          1 Reply Last reply
                                          0
                                          Reply
                                          • Reply as topic
                                          Log in to reply
                                          • Oldest to Newest
                                          • Newest to Oldest
                                          • Most Votes


                                          • Login

                                          • Don't have an account? Register

                                          • Login or register to search.
                                          • First post
                                            Last post
                                          0
                                          • Categories
                                          • Recent
                                          • Users