Why so much tension on this forum?
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Hello buddies!
Yes, just make this forum look more interesting!
It's simple! Go to off-topic section and just write in old off-topic threads that are either funny or interesting D ;D
I am also bored of engaging in debates that actually bring me nowhere.
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Peace All,
While I agree with good logic, es and Zulf I must admit that we humans feed on tension, which is not necessarily
a bad thing. If one would notice, the debates that get the most replies are the ones that piss people off,
controversial issues, sectarianism and correct understanding vs incorrect understanding of Quran to name a few.
Topics that do not have various points of view fizzle quickly like "I want to give my point of view about salat but
please no contrary rebuttles please" are gone in no time.The problem as I see it is the lack of humility, and what is the opposite of humility?.....arrogance or the satanic
influence in us. We must know that someone else can be correct! Some folks here at free minds never concede that
someone else is right, that is when the replies or relationships spiral downward which brings us to this thread.You shall not walk proudly on earth ?you cannot bore through the earth, nor can you be as
tall as the mountains.God bless
peace
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Peace All,
You shall invite to the path of your Lord with wisdom and kind enlightenment, and debate with
them in the best possible manner. Your Lord knows best who has strayed from His path, and He knows best
who are the guided ones.Even if we think that we hold the absolute truth, others should not be expected to share our views unconditionally.
The dogmatic approach is rarely successful.Humility is the antithesis of arrogance and is the only true wisdom by which we prepare our minds for all the
possible changes in life. The humble person realizes that whatever he has comes from God, and is thankful
for it. If you have been blessed with understanding, it is a gift from God and we do not receive our gifts
simultaneously. A manifestation of humility is gratitude. Absence of gratitude is a mark of an ignorant,
narrow minded, arrogant attitude. Only humility paves the way for us to appreciate what God has
done and that we have received blessings from God that others may have not have privilege to at the moment.
And where there is appreciation there is courtesy. When humility is lost arrogance and ingratitude can
take hold of us and instead of communion with others we create distance and tension no matter their faith
or way of life.Kind words and compassion are better than a charity that is followed by insult. GOD is Rich, Clement.
God bless
peace
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Peace,
Another reason for the tension in debate is that the arrogance of some creates a "fighting" atmosphere
which is unpleasant to some, energizing to others while boring many because such exchanges go
nowhere and are not productive, but the arrogant insist on "winning" by demeaning their counterparts in a
non-productive debate just to serve their egos.Sahih International 2/170 And when it is said to them, "Follow what Allah has revealed," they say, "Rather,
we will follow that which we found our fathers doing." Even though their fathers understood nothing, nor were
they guided?God bless
peace
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I don't really use this forum anymore but I wholeheartedly agree with most of hawk99's comments. I didn't agree much with another person on this thread but I am no longer interested in debate so I will talk about this issue generally. In terms of the general issue of responding to things - it depends on the context. I have been talking in the past with some Neo-Pagans who actually hold some Islamic values and one was responding to the 'haters' as they are called to her online content. It made perfect sense for her to handle the matter in that way and explain the things she needed to. The reason it upset her the way this person was behaving and the way she dealt with it has a back story that I knew about but others might not have. It wasn't her simply 'responding and reacting' to stuff. It was an issue of justice, an issue of right and wrong and an issue of morality. She has been good to some of those people in the past as well and they were just out of order. She was right to do what she did and some could say she was 'reacting'. We have to be conscious of whether or not the observer of the action is actually making a fair appraisal of the events of the person they are saying is responding or reacting for example. God is the best Judge of course. Our attitudes, intents and innermost thoughts count.
The point about not being dogmatic that hawk99 mentioned is true. When I talk with those who are not dogmatic because of the way they practice spirituality, the discussions are better and more constructive. Dogmatic and rigid people are in all walks of life though whether theist, atheist, agnostic, spiritual or not.
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Peace supportpeacenotwar,
Nice to see you write again sister. Shame we do not see more of you here.
God bless you
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We have to be conscious of whether or not the observer of the action is actually making a fair appraisal of the events of the person they are saying is responding or reacting for example. God is the best Judge of course. Our attitudes, intents and innermost thoughts count.
Absolutely.
It is so very easy to misunderstand someone else. We do it all the time. Our own inner world, our own glasses, our experiences, make us see things in our very own way... and it is not easy at all to be totally objective. It's a good thing to practice not to judge others. It is wise to conclude that we might not understand the situation at hand as much as we think, and therefore our judgment will not be very accurate with reality.Also, people can have hundred and one reasons for reacting the way they do. Good types of reactions are the ones which result in some sort of overall improved outcome, whether it is someone realizing something beneficial, or something important being pointed out for the sake of e.g. justice. The most dangerous reactions are the auto-pilot ones... the one's we engage in by pure habit and internal conditioning, where reason has no place, and we might even do it when knowing the reaction is detrimental to us and the surrounding.
Peace
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Peace Family and welcome back supportpeacenotwar,
Ignorant which is the opposite of 1. literate. 2. learned.
Synonyms of ignorant
Ignorance is a major contributor to hostile discussion or debate rather it be one or both parties at fault.
All it takes is one side that has no clue and does not recognize the fact that they suffer from a lack
of knowledge about a certain subject along with the inability to draw a positive understanding due to prejudice.Here are some of the tactics used by the ignorant.
Ignorant Name calling
Ignorant Try to shame someone to accept one's position.
Ignorant Straying from the subject in an attempt to appear well rounded
Ignorant Saying "You people" nope will not get a positive response.
Ignorant "You are intellectually inferior to me" therefore you must listen to me!
Ignorant "My religion/deen is better than yours"
Ignorant Not knowing the meaning of concepts and words in a discussion but ignorant of that fact.
You shall invite to the path of your Lord with wisdom and kind enlightenment, and debate with
them in the best possible manner. Your Lord knows best who has strayed from His path, and He knows best
who are the guided ones.God bless
peace
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You shall invite to the path of your Lord with wisdom and kind enlightenment, and debate with
them in the best possible manner. Your Lord knows best who has strayed from His path, and He knows best
who are the guided ones.These are such wonderful words from the quran... and I hope the translation is sound and accurate.
We are, as far as I see it, invited to engage in communication with others in a manner which characterized by- humility
- fore thought
- compassion and understanding
- wisdom
- selflessness
By doing it like this, you will be cool headed enough to sense when it is time to stop debating and at what level to put the talk. Debating while serving one's own ego will not bring any real positive outcome. To achieve peace outside, we need to start with peace inside first.
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Peace Family and welcome back supportpeacenotwar,
Ignorant which is the opposite of 1. literate. 2. learned.
Synonyms of ignorant
Ignorance is a major contributor to hostile discussion or debate rather it be one or both parties at fault.
All it takes is one side that has no clue and does not recognize the fact that they suffer from a lack
of knowledge about a certain subject along with the inability to draw a positive understanding due to prejudice.Here are some of the tactics used by the ignorant.
Ignorant Name calling
Ignorant Try to shame someone to accept one's position.
Ignorant Straying from the subject in an attempt to appear well rounded
Ignorant Saying "You people" nope will not get a positive response.
Ignorant "You are intellectually inferior to me" therefore you must listen to me!
Ignorant "My religion/deen is better than yours"
Ignorant Not knowing the meaning of concepts and words in a discussion but ignorant of that fact.
You shall invite to the path of your Lord with wisdom and kind enlightenment, and debate with
them in the best possible manner. Your Lord knows best who has strayed from His path, and He knows best
who are the guided ones.God bless
peace
Ignorant "You are intellectually inferior to me" therefore you must listen to me!
Nah! What I say is . . . "I am intellectually superior than you" hmm
Not guilty of others.
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These are such wonderful words from the quran... and I hope the translation is sound and accurate.
We are, as far as I see it, invited to engage in communication with others in a manner which characterized by- humility
- fore thought
- compassion and understanding
- wisdom
- selflessness
By doing it like this, you will be cool headed enough to sense when it is time to stop debating and at what level to put the talk. Debating while serving one's own ego will not bring any real positive outcome. To achieve peace outside, we need to start with peace inside first.
Peace,
And we must keep in mind that discussions are reciprocal and both sides should intend to learn and to be enlightened.
Bringing the best out of each other should be the intended goal, because getting to heaven is what's it all about.I would like to add to the list.
- humility
- fore thought
- compassion and understanding
- wisdom
- selflessness
- helpfulness
Nah! What I say is . . . "I am intellectually superior than you" hmm
Not guilty of others.
Peace The_Chimp,
Be careful
He said, "What prevented you from prostrating when I ordered you?" He said, "I am better
than he; You created me from fire, and created him from mud."He said, "Therefore, you must go down, for you are not to be arrogant here. Get out; you are debased."
I understand how offensive these ayats can be taken when directed at someone, however, learning how to avoid
hell is far more important than our egos.God bless
peace
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Peace,
Stubborness
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200%2C300Ssyn ob?du?rate
stubbornly refusing to change one's opinion or course of action.
synonyms stubborn, obstinate, intransigent, inflexible, unyielding, unbending, pigheaded, bullheaded, mulish, stiff-necked;
People with a strong fear of change are considered to be Stubborn. While we all have this tendency
we must guard against stubbornness becoming a dominant pattern, especially in a forum were we
purport that we participate to learn.God bless
peace