Does Quran give marriage steps?
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Congratulations Reel!
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I pray for the absolute best, every day constantly, and I've been given a strange life where I'm just run on a roller coaster and the strangest stuff happens. Apparently that is the "best". Not a fan of the world at all lol.
When anything good comes my way, I ask that it be preserved, but it always gets destroyed, and good things cause anxiety because its just waiting for it to be destroyed, its always a car crash in progress.
To me, it sounds like you're walking around expecting (not wanting, but expecting/fearing) things to go south.
Actually, I think this condition is not at all unusual among people. I see it every now and then, even in myself.
So, even when we logically and consciously pray for good, our subconscious expectations ruin it for us by fearful expectations.Asking for something to be preserved is the same as sending out vibrations of fear and expectations that it will be taken away. Had we been relaxed about having the good, we would not feel the need to pray for the preservation of that same good. The mind is a tricky thing!
You need to try something very difficult, and that is to let go. It is very difficult to let go, because first we don't know what it means, and secondly, the mind is always there to enchant and distract us.
You could start by getting into a mood of neutral acceptance. If you have something good in mind, and you fear it may be taken away, then just get into the mood of accepting that it may be taken away. Accept the worst case scenario. Not expect, but accept. This attitude can bring great relief and loosen up some mind tensions and get the juice of life flowing again. When we resist or insist too much, life tends to choke. Acceptance is connected to surrender.
Another difficult thing, which must be practiced, and which seems counter intuitive, is to thank your Sustainer/Rabb for the good things IN ADVANCE. Start by small things, or the mind might hi jack the effort. Say, "Thank you for having given me such a pleasant and smooth shopping today"... even before reaching the mall. Get into the mood and emotion of gratitude. Make it a habit. Start with small things in life, because that's how we build a string foundation. And beware of your mind, it often ruins things (because it is just a logic machine).
If you wish, I could point to some techniques... just send me a pm.
And always remember, you are not your brain or mind! Even we the brain and mind seem to wreck havoc, there is no fault with us. They are just tools.
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To me, it sounds like you're walking around expecting (not wanting, but expecting/fearing) things to go south.
Actually, I think this condition is not at all unusual among people. I see it every now and then, even in myself.
So, even when we logically and consciously pray for good, our subconscious expectations ruin it for us by fearful expectations.Asking for something to be preserved is the same as sending out vibrations of fear and expectations that it will be taken away. Had we been relaxed about having the good, we would not feel the need to pray for the preservation of that same good. The mind is a tricky thing!
You need to try something very difficult, and that is to let go. It is very difficult to let go, because first we don't know what it means, and secondly, the mind is always there to enchant and distract us.
You could start by getting into a mood of neutral acceptance. If you have something good in mind, and you fear it may be taken away, then just get into the mood of accepting that it may be taken away. Accept the worst case scenario. Not expect, but accept. This attitude can bring great relief and loosen up some mind tensions and get the juice of life flowing again. When we resist or insist too much, life tends to choke. Acceptance is connected to surrender.
Another difficult thing, which must be practiced, and which seems counter intuitive, is to thank your Sustainer/Rabb for the good things IN ADVANCE. Start by small things, or the mind might hi jack the effort. Say, "Thank you for having given me such a pleasant and smooth shopping today"... even before reaching the mall. Get into the mood and emotion of gratitude. Make it a habit. Start with small things in life, because that's how we build a string foundation. And beware of your mind, it often ruins things (because it is just a logic machine).
If you wish, I could point to some techniques... just send me a pm.
And always remember, you are not your brain or mind! Even we the brain and mind seem to wreck havoc, there is no fault with us. They are just tools.
PeaceI actually already do everything you mentioned. I also have no choice but to accept whatever is given to me. The "strange life" I was talking about was regarding constant miracles. Even today were miracles, for example in a gigantic crowd of people, a woman came and stood next to me out of the crowd, and I had no fluid, and I sat down and she was sitting there and I saw on her cellphone hijabs, and I asked her if she is from Pakistan, and she was and she was fasting and had brought juice which she shared with me. I looked and out of the whole crowd, she was the only one out of thousands upon thousands who had this drink because she was fasting and was a Muslim so shared it with me. That was just one of many miracles, everything goes miraculously for me, but where anything goes "wrong" is that other human beings are criminal scum and do evil, generally their evil turns out good for me and leads to more miracles, but I still don't like it.
My complaints are about other people, but each of the destructive stories seem deliberate and crucial, nothing to do with my intentions. If even one of the little stories didn't happen 30 more miracles wouldn't have happened. Do you consider the events in the lives of the Prophets due to their vibrations or intentions? Allah is the author, we aren't "co-creators" in my opinion, in fact I consider that an insidious shirk existing in the world today.
So things are going perfectly well for me, you would see in my life there are undeniable miracles that are so constant it would put anyone in awe, that doesn't mean human beings don't disgust me and do stuff that bothers me, even if it leads to benefit for me and more success and miracles. Though I'm very grateful, I don't like any of this, just like I don't like bloodshed for example or the wickedness in the world, I don't like it this way even though my stories are good ones.
Also, things are going to go badly, for example deaths and whatever are expected (you know, it is said everyone dies, so loved ones included), all one can do is inoculate ahead of time.