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marrying an adulteress / adulter

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    Al_Araf
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    salam l.hun. zani wa zanit are words that have their root in aramaic.

    please consult an aramaic dictionary. you will find the origin of these words there. while i am aware of project root list, and its usage of lane's lexicon, the colloquial usage recorded by lane can be extremely misleading on occaisons. lane was either consciously or unconsciously imposing his western christian expectations on some of the words.

    allah is the teacher.

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      L_Hu
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      Your approach to arabic is funny.

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        siki
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        Zani , or zania is a label given to fornicators or adulterers who have been confirmed by 4 witnesses , which indirectly amounts to public sex.

        And once somebody has been established as Zani, then allah commands us not to marry such a person , only a person labeled as such may marry them , or the idolators.

        Idolators would marry such a category if they wish to, because they are not bounded by Allah's command of prohibition.

        All illegal relationships of the sexual kind , may it be only dirty talk/ touching, or engaging in sexual intercourse, but if cannot be confirmed by 4 witnesses, come under the classification of Fawahish.

        I am not sure weather a zani label is reversible by repentence or not, this needs to be debated/confirmed.

        peace siki

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          barmack
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          Peace,
          And if you did it out of ignorance and repent? then what?
          Peace

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            Soraya
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            Salam
            as Johny said, if ever that person repent,he/she is no longer an adulterer/adulteress..
            However, in my country it is very common to say that that girl was really pure(chaste), so how come she got a guy like that who is(unchaste) or vice versa..its all abt gossips..
            another issue I have noticed is that for a girl it can be easily known if she is not a virgin after the nuptial night..but for the guy..it cant be known at any cost.unless he says..
            My question is Can the guy leave his wife after knowing that she is not a virgin after nikah???
            Personally,I believe in repentance..Alhamdulilah..but plzz consider my question..

            Fee Amanillah,
            Soraya

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              afridi220
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              Salam
              as Johny said, if ever that person repent,he/she is no longer an adulterer/adulteress..
              However, in my country it is very common to say that that girl was really pure(chaste), so how come she got a guy like that who is(unchaste) or vice versa..its all abt gossips..
              another issue I have noticed is that for a girl it can be easily known if she is not a virgin after the nuptial night..but for the guy..it cant be known at any cost.unless he says..
              My question is Can the guy leave his wife after knowing that she is not a virgin after nikah???
              Personally,I believe in repentance..Alhamdulilah..but plzz consider my question..

              Fee Amanillah,
              Soraya

              Your question is not clear are you asking about tradition and honor or Islam these are three different things when it comes to honor and tradition then no one care Islam.

              jedi

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                Soraya
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                Well Afridi..
                Its a mixture of all
                But I would really wish to have an answer esp,for the last part

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                  Mr_Deen
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                  How do you know? Does he pray, fast, follow the Quran, and speak positively of it? Then he is not an idolator, and surely if he is enthusiatic about Islam, he is not one who follows his lust/satanist/idolater either.

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                    Soraya
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                    Get real Mr Deen
                    Where do u find chaste guys in our modern era??
                    Wel personally I would never know if my husband had affairs before marriage..nor am I interested to know abt his past either..
                    But if am talking generally,if a girl did so and out of fear she doesnt say she is not a virgin,and on her nuptial night the guy find out,IS HE ALLOWED TO GIVE TALAK TO HIS WIFE?

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                      Mr_Deen
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                      I'm sorry, I have the same problem with women.

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                        afridi220
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                        Well Afridi..
                        Its a mixture of all
                        But I would really wish to have an answer esp,for the last part

                        And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a Faahishah (i.e. anything that transgresses its limits a great sin, and an evil way that leads one to hell unless Allaah Forgives him)?

                        The adulteress and the adulterer you shall whip each of them a hundred lashes. Do not be swayed by pity from carrying out GOD's law, if you truly believe in GOD and the Last Day. And let a group of believers witness their penalty.

                        The adulterer will end up marrying an adulteress or an idol worshiper, and the adulteress will end up marrying an adulterer or an idol worshiper. This is prohibited for the believers

                        According to the Old Testament, a rapist should be forced to marry the girl he violated. This rule punishes the victim to share the rest of her life with the violent and shameless man who violated her (Deuteronomy 2228-30). How can this and many other unjust laws be imposed by a Just God

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                          SwedenMajidah
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                          Get real Mr Deen
                          Where do u find chaste guys in our modern era??
                          Wel personally I would never know if my husband had affairs before marriage..nor am I interested to know abt his past either..
                          But if am talking generally,if a girl did so and out of fear she doesnt say she is not a virgin,and on her nuptial night the guy find out,IS HE ALLOWED TO GIVE TALAK TO HIS WIFE?

                          Peace sister Soraya,

                          All have rights to have a divorce, God doesn't forbid divorces.

                          But the best way is to write a marriage contract before the marriage take place, if both agree about what is written then no surprises should enter that easily. A man could claim for a virgin woman and a woman could for example claim that her husband only take one wife or she will have an divorce.

                          Maria

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                            siki
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                            And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a Faahishah (i.e. anything that transgresses its limits a great sin, and an evil way that leads one to hell unless Allaah Forgives him)?

                            afridi, reference is wrong , kindly correct

                            siki

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                              siki
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                              24-6'9As for those who accuse their wives, without any other witnesses, then the testimony may be accepted if he swears by GOD four times that he is telling the truth. And the fifth (time) that the curse of Allah be on him if he is one of the liars And it shall avert the chastisement from her if she testify four times, bearing Allah to witness that he is most surely one of the liars;And the fifth (time) that the wrath of Allah be on her if he is one of the truthful.

                              Why does the above commandment/procedure is meant to work one way? could some body check the grammar please? Is it He and She only, at appropriate places , or is it suppose to work both ways?

                              siki

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                                TheNabi
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                                Peace

                                Wel personally I would never know if my husband had affairs before marriage..nor am I interested to know abt his past either..

                                I abhor any man or woman who does anything like this when they do have a spouse because it is a total show of disrespect and falsity. I would be interested in my spouses past and present doings because if that person cheated on you and decided not to say anything you could be the one who did nothing wrong and catch some STD.

                                But if am talking generally,if a girl did so and out of fear she doesnt say she is not a virgin,and on her nuptial night the guy find out,IS HE ALLOWED TO GIVE TALAK TO HIS WIFE?

                                If you're not a virgin you should not be scared to admit it to your mate! Why are you afraid to be open with this guy? If there is any personal guilt you have for betraying your God through fornication you need to come to terms with the Forgiving and abate with any further fornication.

                                Joe

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                                  Jasmin
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                                  Wel personally I would never know if my husband had affairs before marriage..nor am I interested to know abt his past either..
                                  But if am talking generally,if a girl did so and out of fear she doesnt say she is not a virgin,and on her nuptial night the guy find out,IS HE ALLOWED TO GIVE TALAK TO HIS WIFE?

                                  Honesty is one of the most important factors in a relationship. Telling lies can turn into a viscious cycle. Its best to be open,truthful and upfront instead of pretending to be someone your not. sun

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