Do we have to get married?
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Salaams Khizar, All
Khi- Salam. With me it was exactly the oppsoite. I wanted 2 get married yrs ago n my parents were the ones who didnt want tht coz they said it was too early. 2 be honest with u im still desperately looking 4 a believing wife i.e. one who follows Quran Alone. GOD Bless!
A Quran Alone believer maybe hard to find! Look for someone who is clear-minded to begin with! Someone who is free from parents, family & society pressure! So that she can see the Truth with her own eyes and surely then would follow it )
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Peace Dove
If you meet someone you really care about. Marry that person, be responsible for your feeling and dont let any falwed traditions in the way nomatter what people are telling you. I am familiar with the traditions that makes you desise marriage, ofcourse yo don tlike it, its illogical, primitive and removes focus from what its about. And yo shouldnt apply to it, nomatter WHOM tells you that?, thats what it is supposed to be. Being with someone that at any given time would put his/her life on the line for you. That supports you in the things you do. One that gives you a hug and tell you what a wonderfull person on the worst of days. Someone who dont pass judgement on you, but reason with you. Sounds like a freind doesnt it? At some point you might even be so attracted to eachother that you want to mate with eachother. And if that happens. Well...get it sorted out with God first. And to do that, you dont need all those bells and whisltes of a modern day wedding that ruins everybody, for a flaming partys sake. Make it public that your freind is now off the market, so others wont try to take a hit on this wonderfull person, and if youre in the ood. Invite some freinds couple of neighbou8rs, the parents for a dinner.
Why on earth make it anymore than it is. Its is being lovers with Gods permission. And if you chose NOT to have a mate. thats percfecty well your own choice. I just belive personally you feel that way because you havent met "a someone special" yet.
Regards
Noah -
Peace,
Dove wrote
I don't want to get married, but it seems like just to keep my parents "happy", I have to sacrifice my happines, dreams and life. I'd do it without a second thought because my parents have done so much for me and all they expect is to see me get married because in their mind getting married would make my life "happier".
I never understand this. How can the parents be happy if the son/daugther is unhappy?
I don't find difference between parents and children, both are humans, both have the right to live their own lives.