sex before marriage
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Peace be upon you AhmedBahgat,
Peace to all
the Shabakah is a gift to the prideThe Mahr is given to the pride family to help in building the new house for the two, i.e. the Mahr paid by the Husband is just a share in the cost of building the house "furniture etc, etc", the family of the woman MUST also pay their share to prepare the house, it works roughly like 50%, 50%, but whoeever have money should pay more for sure
Just a minor correction done for you. It's bride. Gift to the pride and pride family just sounded wrong. Apologies for nit-picking. Communication is a powerful tool. We don't want people who are linguistically declined in English to get the wrong idea.
thank you bro, no apologies required, I actually suffer from a spelling disorder big times, I lived a couple of years in the states before I moved to australia 15 years ago, hence I have 17 years experience talking english, but typing was far less lol
prostitution is forbidden "logically" to protect the human race at least, the prostitute can transfer diseases to many men on one day or one of the customers transfer it to the prostitute then the prostitute transfer it to many men and it will keep going
prostitution also destroys families including children
a male or a female prostitute are definitly bound to hell unless they repent
peace to all
If prostitution is forbidden "logically" to protect the human race, then why is it theoretically one of the oldest known professions?
I believe for two main reasons
- Sex is one of the biggest Fitna "Test" Allah has forced unto us
- Humans don't abide by Allah's laws
The human race sure seems well protected with prostitution in its place.
I don't mean extinction rather living this life while suffering from a huge list of STDs, sure the human race has weaken, I'm sure they used to live longer in the past
As far as I know, even safe sex is encouraged at brothels. Prostitutes are even sent for checkups, courtesy of their pimps.
sure, Satan is doing a great job, he makes prostitution look great for many humans, have you ever watched Jerry Springer
Jerry, Jerry, Jerry lol
Sort of like, they want to keep their goods in good condition until wear and tear occurs. So theoretically again, prosititution is "safer", well at least here in Singapore.
well, then I will just take it as an order from my God and I have to abide by it, like the pig meat, you know it tastes good and seems no harm in it but Allah has prohibited it so I have to abide by it, you see this life is nothing but a TEST
As much as we may want to protect the human race from such adversities, we cannot stop them from going on. The more we protect, the more another will overcome the protection. The more we forbid it, the more the sexually deprave human will want it. That is what actually will keep going. On our end, just educate the people we know about such things and hope they don't go get jiggy with those prostitutes. If they choose to, then too bad. Just safeguard ourselves. I suppose that will suffice. Feel free to share your views. Cheers.
true, but the point is we are living a test, and this is a very serious context, especially if the Examiner is a very powerful entity that most of us if not all can not comprehend Its Might
Peace bro and please feel free to fix my spelling lol
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Hello,
My marriage was arranged, after 10 days of seeing each other for the first time me and my wife fully married, now we live together for 15 years, we have a beautiful 14 years old girl (Sara) and 18 months old boy (Noor El Deen) and we love each other to death, I really prefer arranged marriage, but i have to say success rate is not that high, we were just lucky that we are compatible
peace
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Peace Ahmed,
You really prefer arranged marriages ? You recognize yourself that you were lucky!
I think though that there might be one positive point to arranged (not forced) marriages Romantic expectations don't run to high and as such wont be shattered...
LK
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Peace Ahmed,
Peace Elke
You really prefer arranged marriages ?
Possibly I?m influenced with my own successful experience
You recognize yourself that you were lucky!
I honestly don?t believe in luck, I just said it in a common way, the general rule for matching the couples were mentioned in the Quran
?Vile women are for vile men, and vile men for vile women. Good women are for good men, and good men for good women; such are innocent of that which people say For them is pardon and a bountiful provision.?
(26)
-> The above verse was sort of assurance to me that if I?m good then most likely my wife will be a good person, if I?m bad then I would expect my wife to be a bad person, but for every rule there is exceptions for sure
I think though that there might be one positive point to arranged (not forced) marriages Romantic expectations don't run to high and as such wont be shattered...
There was no forcing whatsoever in my case, it was my choice and hers
Peace
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hi Elke,
peacefulmuslim, where did you get your percentages from ? lol
They sound right though...I made up those percentages based on what I have seen around me. And trust me, I have seen loads coz in the society I come from ' arranged marriage is the only norm' among all generations. u get a clear picture when u live with the couple under the same roof.
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hI Ahmed,
Possibly I?m influenced with my own successful experience
yeah, u r right. I have seen some couples who have an arranged marriage and discover that their partner is the ideal one for them. But this happens only in less than 5% of the cases.
You recognize yourself that you were lucky!
I honestly don?t believe in luck, I just said it in a common way, the general rule for matching the couples were mentioned in the Quran
The verse was sort of assurance to me that if I?m good then most likely my wife will be a good person, if I?m bad then I would expect my wife to be a bad person, but for every rule there is exceptions for sure.I cant agree on that one coz I have seen loads of wonderful people stuck with incompatible partners and in miserable marriages.
U have been lucky, indeed.
Allah also tells us to choose our partner based on virtue, Doesnt He? I dont remember the verse but I have read it. so, that would imply Allah tells us to choose our partner.
And arranged marriage is a huge gamble. u r one of the very few lucky ones! -
Arranged marriages are a source for unhappiness and injustice in a person's life. If you're going to commit to one person for the rest of your life (ideally) it better be one you actually love and that loves you back.
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Salaam PM
I have seen some couples who have an arranged marriage and discover that their partner is the ideal one for them. But this happens only in less than 5% of the cases.
Wow! and over 90% of arrranged married couples are living an unhappy existance. Where has this 5% come from.
Salaam -
SaLaM stillearning
Loooll its a joke. I guess it sounds better when said instead of written. But i tried.Its hard to make some people laugh Jaxal wink
Arranged marriages hold because there is a social stigma attached to divorce in these societies...even though those marriages are terrible.
Regards,
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Hi stillearning,
Wow! and over 90% of arrranged married couples are living an unhappy existance. Where has this 5% come from.
Yeah, only in less than 5% cases, the partners discover that they are ideal for each other. Well, not all of the others live in misery. Some just try to get along,by working hard on the marriage. And some live in misery.
Like I said, the odds that u will find the ideal partner in an arranged marriage, is only as good as marrying the first person u see on the street today.
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salaam PM
Like I said, the odds that u will find the ideal partner in an arranged marriage, is only as good as marrying the first person u see on the street today.
An ideal partner! I suppose that is why so many divorces in so called love marriages(before jaxal asks me what love is) I suppose it is search for the ideal partner!
salaam jaxal
especially in 3rd world countries like pakistan, india, bangla, malay, ... etc. They rather lead a miserable life than divorce.
very judgemental here. I suppose divorce must be some form of happiness!
salaam LT
Its hard to make some people laugh Jaxal
I yes I do laugh first thing in the morning it gets it over and done with for the rest of the day.
Arranged marriages hold because there is a social stigma attached to divorce in these societies...even though those marriages are terrible
Please everyone what is with you guys is this a competetion for who can come up with most cliches and stereotypes.
It might be that people like each other, and their kids, work on their marrages and that is why they hold.One suggestion by those bamboozled by so called love marriages(sorry jaxal point taken) why not spend a day in the family division of any court>
regards
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Hi Stillearning,
let me rephrase it, coz this is very true as well.
The odds that u find a compatible partner in an arranged marriage, is only as good as marrying the first person u see on the street today. -
SaLaM stillearning
Not being judgemental. Its the truth. They rather stay in their miserable marriage than get a divorce becoz those who get divorce in those countries are looked down upon. Especially women. Society labels them as 'defected' equipment. There is a reason those countries are called 3rd world.
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wait. can i just ask where these percentages are coming from? about arranged marriages being unhappy. just wanna know.
And Jaxal, here's what "3rd world" really means. And i dont think Malaysia is a poor country. is it?
The term "Third World" was coined by economist Alfred Sauvy in an article in the French magazine L'Observateur of August 14, 1952. It was a deliberate reference to the "Third Estate" of the French Revolution. Tiers monde means Third World in French, but in the sense of "one-third" -- it does not mean "third in rank" (which would be troisi?me monde). The term gained widespread popularity during the Cold War when many poorer nations adopted the category to describe themselves as neither being aligned with NATO or the Warsaw Pact, but instead composing a non-aligned "third world" (in this context, the term "First World" was generally understood to mean the United States and its allies in the Cold War, which would have made the East bloc the "Second World" by default; however, the latter term was very seldom actually used).
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Hi Sis Taj,
Are you a social worker?
Where did that come from? )
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Salaam LT
Its hard to make some people laugh Jaxal
I yes I do laugh first thing in the morning it gets it over and done with for the rest of the day.
People who laugh by themselves in the morning surely they need to see a shrink wink
Arranged marriages hold because there is a social stigma attached to divorce in these societies...even though those marriages are terrible
Please everyone what is with you guys is this a competetion for who can come up with most cliches and stereotypes.
Oh please don't flatter yourself. Go and study past Victorian attitudes to divorce! And the attitude to divorce in countries like Pakistan, Bangladesh, India etc...
It might be that people like each other, and their kids, work on their marrages and that is why they hold.
Work on their marriages? Ha ha, yes I have seen many arranged couples worked on their marriages but usually with their fists!!! It is so unfair to live in an abusive and degrading marriage for the sake of the kids. It is best for the kids that these marriages end!
One suggestion by those bamboozled by so called love marriages(sorry jaxal point taken) why not spend a day in the family division of any court>
regardsIt is best to LOVE and lost than never to loved at all wink
But you would not know that yet because you are "stilllearning" winkRegards,