Confused about my non-Believing boyfriend
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peace phil
Mumin
Peace Imran K,
Refering to 49.14, my understanding is that, the God is asking the Arabs to be the submitters.
Say for instance, if the Arabs say they are Mu'mens (believers) and if, by its definition is in conformity with God's system, then I think God will say yes, this (being Mu'mens) is the right choice. period. end of story.
But the verse continues, "...what you should say is, `We are Muslims (submitters)."
What I can see from logical point of view, being submitters is to take precedence over as being Mu'mens.
Now let's examine your logic on the other possible scenario (if you don't mind).
According to 49.14, When the Arabs said, "We are Mu'mens (believers)", God tells them that they are infact only Muslims (submitters), just a step before becoming full-fledged Mu'mens (believers). The moment the Arabs start praying, fasting, performing Hajj, etc. then only they are elevated to become Mu'mens.
If this is the correct understanding, then I think the passage of 49.14 should be read as the following
The Arabs said, "We are Mu'mens (believers)." Say, "You have not believed", until belief is established in your hearts, you should say, "We are Muslims (submitters)". If you obey GOD and His messenger, He will not put any of your works to waste. GOD is Forgiver, Most Merciful.
Appreciate your feedback.
Peace
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I am a convert to Islam and have been struggling with the issue of marriage and dont have anyone to talk to about this problem. I sincerely wanted to marry a believing man and so over a year ago began looking online for someone I felt I would love and be compatible with. I feel that I want and need to be married sometime soon, so that is not the issue. During my search I met some...interesting...Muslim men who turned out to really just want some brainless mother-figure to marry and take care of them. And then I was contacted by a man who saw my profile and we began to talk. He turned out to be the most wonderful man I have ever known, someone that I have grown to adore and want to have a family and life with, BUT he is not a Muslim. Not only is he not a Muslim, but he doesnt really believe in God or anything else of a spiritual/religious nature. I overlooked this because I was so amazed that I had found someone that I felt so connected to, trusted, and had so much in common with. Now however, he has started talking about wanting to get married, and I am confused about the future of my faith. I am afraid that I will yearn for a spiritual/religious connection that will no be there, but I am also afraid that NOT marrying him will be the biggest mistake of my life. I dont know what to do and I am freaking out because our anniversary is coming up and I am afraid he is going to ask me... Advice would be great.
As salamu alaykum.
Respectfully.I would suggest you look in the Qur'an.
Also, Imran was right.
Believer is much better then non-believer, not because he doesn't believe, but because you'll constantly be worrying about where he will end up and the fact that you know he'll end up in Hell, will destroy your health and brain, not his.
Unless he changes.Just follow the Qur'an.
As salamu alakyum.