Thank you, guys.
Hallo Captain Awesome and welcome!!!
I am, just as you, a resident of a Scandinavian country and I know, just as you, that people here are quite islamaphobic. Ironic because the scandies are in other instances very open to new ideas and concepts...I guess it is up to you and me and others like us to show them what islam is not as horrible as they think.
My journey to God Alone is a bit different than yours though. I was introduced to islam by my wife. I was a bit sceptical at first but the more I read of the Quran I realized that it was a book of love and understanding. It gives guidance in those areas where we need guidance, it gives the rules of morality and teaches us to respect one and another and never ever judge someone in the name of God.
It was not until I finished reading the Quran I started wondering why the Muslims were not following what the Quran said. Why is my wife not allowed to pray/fast when menstruating, why must she cover her hair, why am I not allowed to sit down with my family (non Muslims) for a nice dinner just because they enjoy a glass of wine, why do I have to think that my sister is a lesser/lower person than me just because she is homosexual.......some of the questions I had, there were a lot more.....
I went to the local mosque and asked the Imam. He gave me answers to all my questions, some good thoughtful answers, some in total contradiction to the Quran, and some so obviously connected to his country's traditions that it was not even close to the Quran or any Hadith.........Anyways we were discussing almost arguing, but what made me shun all Hadiths were the following;
I asked the Imam "So if a person comes to you and says he wants to learn about Islam, you give him the Quran and ask him to read it, right?"
The Imam said "Yes"
I asked "And then after he has read the Quran and says he wants to become a Muslim you will then give him the collection of Hadiths and ask him to use those to implement the rules of the Quran?"
The Imam said "Yes"
I asked "And then you will ask him to reject some of the Hadiths so he is able to choose side, right?"
The Imam said "What do you mean?"
I said "Well, he has to, since you are not allowed to do it for him, choose for himself which Hadith he wants to follow. If he believes in all he will be Sunni, Shia and Sufi all on the same time, and that is impossible since they contradict eachother in some areas. So in other words he must choose a side, Sunni, Shia or Sufi and then reject the Hadiths that must be rejected in order to follow that group"
The Imam said "Eh, you don't understand"
I said "Yepp, I don't understand. Why does this person have to segregate himself from others just because they do not follow what he follows? Isn't it enough that he only believes in the only thing that connects all us Muslims, namely the Quran?"
The Imam said "My brother, you have not understood what the Islamic way is all about. We cannot rely solely on the Quran, we need guidance from our Prophet and that guidance can be found in Sunnah and Hadith."
I asked "Even though it means that it will separate him from other believers, and those can even be his own family members"
The Imam said "Yes"
I said "Well then, I am sorry to say that I cannot do that, I refuse to build barriers between me and my brothers. I will believe in the core and if they so want they can reject me, but I will not reject them."
The Imam said "Then you cannot call yourself a Muslim."
This my path to God Alone.
I find this Imam's level of ignorance is unfortunately very common among Sunnis. Sometimes it seems like they simply won't approve of your opinion, no matter how strong your aguments might be. It is very unfortunate...
Out of curiosity Which country do you live in?