Was the term "daraba" sneakily turned to "beating" by hypocrites?
-
Salam,
A woman can be Nashooz (deviate) because of herself or as a consequence of her having a bad husband. BUT ...
Another proof that the word "edrebhunna" means strike against them/ take a (temporary) break away from them is the verse which actually follows verse 34. So the couple have reached a bad stage in the relationship and they're on strike. E.g. He's at his friend's house or in a hotel OR she went to stay at her family's house etc. ((They've obviously parted each other at this stage))
... So then verse 35 says if you fear "shiqaq baynihima" = being torn apart from each other (permanently) then send (eb3athu) a judge from his family and a judge from her family if they want reconciliation God supports what's between them. God is Knowledgeable, Expert.
(what's between them = the 2 judges that are trying to help)In a later revelation it is clear that the strike period (when couples have extreme problems) is 3 months or wait till she gives birth. God's values are clear and they don't change. If you know what God values from his book (as a whole), you understand him completely! it goes straight in your heart and you know it like you know your children. It is clear.
No need for linguistic confusions ... it's about what God values (loves reconciliation, hates divorce, loves equality etc.)
So what's so confusing about what God says? God is clear and straight forward. Always cross-refrence! God repeats himself in different verses (ayats) using different expressions, but his values always stay the same . You don't need Linguistics. angel
SALAM peace
-
"Is Quran a clear book or not? If it is a clear book then why an arab speaker has to consult a dictionary to know what a very ordinary and popular word like 'dha-ra-ba' means in the Quran? Why didn't god also send down a dictionary with Quran because if you send a code to me without the key I wouldn't be ablet o read it and your message is not complete."
Peace be on to you all !
First of all Quranic arabic is not the spoking language of arabs. I will answer your questions 1 by 1 through Quran.
"Is Quran a clear book or not?"
Chapter The Moon (Al-Qamar) 5417
And We have indeed made the Qur'an easy to understand and remember then is there any that will receive admonition?
it is easy only for those who really want to take guaidance from it."If it is a clear book then why an arab speaker has to consult a dictionary to know what a very ordinary and popular word like 'dha-ra-ba' means in the Quran?"
Chapter Detailed (Fussilat) 4144
And if We had made it a Quran in a foreign tongue, they would certainly have said Why have not its communications been made clear? What! a foreign (tongue) and an Arabian! Say It is to those who believe a guidance and a healing; and (as for) those who do not believe, there is a heaviness in their ears and it is obscure to them; these shall be called to from a far-off place."Why didn't god also send down a dictionary with Quran because if you send a code to me without the key I wouldn't be ablet o read it and your message is not complete."
Chapter (Muhammad) 4724
Do they not then earnestly seek to understand the Qur'an, or are their hearts locked up by them?Chapter The Children of Israel (Ban? Israel) 1789
And We have explained to man, in this Qur'an, every kind of similitude yet the greater part of men refuse (to receive it) except with ingratitude! -
Salam,
I have already explained it. Cross-reference and see God's values.
the word itself in the Quran is not Adhrebuhunna and it's not Idhrebuhunna. It's actually got a silent Alif (A). hdrebuhunna.
Salam
-
Salam sister samia,
According to the Ayat/verse of Al-Quran in Chapter Women (Al-Nes??) 482
Do they not then meditate on the Quran? And if it were from any other than Allah, they would have found in it many a discrepancy.So the point is if we took wrong translation of any word it will not be fit into another ayat/verse in which the same word was used.
-
Few times, when i have engaged in discussions regarding correct meanings of a certain Arabic word, i have come to realize, that searching out the correct meaning of a word in a given sentence, is much more than picking up a dictionary or lane, and randomly replacing it with a meaning of one's suiting.
It requires plenty of skills and a decent amount of experience in making an accurate/correct choice.lets take the example of the same word Darraba or strike in English , which i posted earlier.
"strike" , meaning hit
strike out , meaning cancellation
on strike, or the union called for a strike,
The word strike gives three different meanings , and to pin point the correct meanings in context of the sentence, the words used before or after are very important.
Any person who does not have a basic knowledge of the language or its grammar, is at a significant disadvantage . It becomes tricky for a novice to determine, or to give his/her opinion on an advanced " evolved meaning of a certain word," let me give one more example.cold, means cool,
But when used for a man/woman, means disintrested in sex.
And Coool ,, when used for man/woman, yet would convey a different meaning.
One can pick up any word of english, and it would convey different meanings in a given sentence with a certain combination of words or/ vowels.
This forum badly needs expert/experienced people, and i am afraid we have lost one of them , I mean brother A Bhagat. He was a great asset to the forum, and i would give due respect to his opinion on any controversial issue. Brother A.B! if you read this , please come back. I dont know about others , but i do miss you
Meanwhile , i dug up some old threads regarding the use of "Darabaa" in 4-34, and my opinion is strengthen about the use of this word in this sentence, which means, "strike" , and oh yes , in my earlier post i had said , that show me one women who is willing to accept a gender biased commandment, i did come across one, and her name is Boost" Madam ! i am impressed bravo
peace
siki
-
Salaam siki
On your quest for the meaning of a word, you should also consider, not just what it means, but also what it CANNOT mean. It is not only because I am a woman, but because I believe in the attributes of God as fair, non biased and has consistency in his commands, rewarding and punishment. One should also consider how He used the same word in the qur'aan.
I posted the word daraba, meaning to strike, as used in the qur'aan. All your comment was you wanted to see the other usages of daraba with different meanings, completely missing the point. Many others, including me, also posted messages showing why it cannot mean daraba, your comment after the first of my posts was that you were disappointed! Everyone on this forum, except you and hairfm, were trying to refute this meaning, not just based on dictionary meaning, but mainly on common sense, and if there is any kind of justice which condones inflictng punishment for a "crime" not yet committed. But it seems you are fine with all these flows brought in if we accept "to beat" as the best option.
This forum badly needs expert/experienced people, and i am afraid we have lost one of them , I mean brother A Bhagat. He was a great asset to the forum, and i would give due respect to his opinion on any controversial issue. Brother A.B! if you read this , please come back. I dont know about others , but i do miss you
If you miss AB so much, go to his forum. For me, manners, humility and rationality, and above all avoiding aggressive and very rude language, are more important than expertise in Arabic, which, surprisingly, you believe he has.
show me one women who is willing to accept a gender biased commandment, i did come across one, and her name is Boost" Madam ! i am impressed bravo
I do not see BOOST posting on this thread, and I wonder if she explicitly accepts this understanding.
-
Gender biased commandments? Let's see men getting pregnant first.
Then you can use that argument.
-
Salaam siki
If you miss AB so much, go to his forum. For me, manners, humility and rationality, and above all avoiding aggressive and very rude language, are more important than expertise in Arabic, which, surprisingly, you believe he has.
I do not see BOOST posting on this thread, and I wonder if she explicitly accepts this understanding.
Samia !you too are an asset of this forum , and i do appreciate your language expertise. but A.B probably has more experience under his belt . I agree with you regarding his temper.May be he gets frustrated when he finds drastic twisting of the words of Quran by some inexperienced learners.
About boost , ya you are right she is not posting in this thread , but i found her posts in a similar old thread, i do not know her stance now, but i found her attitude to be simply fantastic.
About the term darabaa , i shall post later,
peace
siki
-
In answer to the question, it was not necessarily done so 'sneakily' as you put it. Its just simply the interpretation at the time which endured till now, also based upon the social structure and the standing of males and females in those societies.
I don't think it was done maliciously on purpose >D
-
In answer to the question, it was not necessarily done so 'sneakily' as you put it. Its just simply the interpretation at the time which endured till now, also based upon the social structure and the standing of males and females in those societies.
I don't think it was done maliciously on purpose >
Allow me to disagree with you. When scholars try to add to the verse descriptions to what daraba means to water it down, I then know they know very well what daraba means, supported by its usage in the qur'aan strike to kill/cause harm. When scholars twist the meaning of nushouz in a way that fits women only, forgetting, or rather ignoring the fact that a husband can also be nashez as mentioned in the qur'aan, and ignoring the verb "yakhsha" which indicates that nushouz is not yet committed, I know they are trying to deceive. And most of all, when I see that they are not looking into God's attributes as fair and just, and at His system of reward and punishment that does not distinguish between male and female, I know where they are looking at and where they get their information and teachings from. These interpretations came to us centuries after the death of the prophet. I do not believe that was the way the prophet understood it or that he allowed it to be understood in this way. These interpretations stand as a lame duck between their pre and post eras.
-
Salaam siki
. Many others, including me, also posted messages showing why it cannot mean daraba, your comment after the first of my posts was that you were disappointed! Everyone on this forum, except you and hairfm, were trying to refute this meaning,.
My dear sister samia
assalamo alakumi had already explained to you as to why was i disappointed, not because what you think of Darraba means in this ayat , but because of the kind of arguments you presented in support. during my recent search i was surprised to find , sister Boost replying you almost the same when you posted your arguments , here are they for your reference.
Quote by samia
If this is considered a punishment,; how wouldn't God give the details of which part of the body to beat, with what and/or how many (beats)?reply by boost
There are many topics in the quran that don't have such details. The salat for one has virtually no detail of how to do it. Does that mean that salat should have a different meaning?Quote by samia.
Secondly where in the quraan do individulads apply / excute the punishment?reply by boost
Is there an example of everything stated in the quran?samia ! it is quiet comfortable/ helpfull to have a person like you around. but sometimes when one is not very careful in posting arguments, they leave a dent on ones credibility
peace handshake
siki
-
samia ! it is quiet comfortable/ helpfull to have a person like you around. but sometimes when one is not very careful in posting arguments, they leave a dent on ones credibility
siki
Salaam siki
I do not understand what you mean concerning my credibility.
Is this a comment on the following sentence?
I do not see BOOST posting on this thread, and I wonder if she explicitly accepts this understanding.
The sentence starting with "I wonder" does not hold any specific value to whether Boost does or does not accept this understanding. I "wonder" entails a sense of uncertainty.
Here is the link to this thread , and I leave it to whoever is interested to see why "I wonder"
http//free-minds.org/forum/index.php?topic=13171.msg109427#msg109427
To those who do not have time to click, here is a message by Boost on the same thread before I posted mine
Peace Bro AB
So it really does mean to beat your wife? This is serious now for me. What is the hikma found in this verse? I am not questioning God i'm just trying to uderstand the verse.
Doesn't sound like someone who finds it easy to accept this understanding, unlike you and a very few others.
-
Salaam siki
I do not understand what you mean concerning my credibility.
Is this a comment on the following sentence?
peace be upon you
Samia, if you still din't get what i meant to convey here, or when i commented, That " i was disappointed" , i decline to make further comments on this trivial issue . lets bury it here handshake
To those who do not have time to click, here is a message by Boost on the same thread before I posted mine
Doesn't sound like someone who finds it easy to accept this understanding, unlike you and a very few others.
sis ! i only appreciated Boost's unbiased approach to learning, keeping her women hood aside . It was, and is totally insignificant/irrelevant as to what is her opinion now, or was then, regarding any issue.
God bless you
siki
-
I have glanced through excellent discussion on the question whether or not Allah, the most merciful, has allowed beating one?s wife but it seems that the matter is scattered at other places. Therefore the points towards which I am going to draw attention of friends may or may not have been discussed earlier. If these have been elaborated, I may be excused and told about the reference of those contacts.
In the verse, the apprehension, fear is merely about ?Noshoozohunna?. Similarly wives can fear ?Nashoozan? or even husband?s indifference. Such a situation can be caused even by very trivial matters/difference of opinion.
Husbands are advised to tactfully handle the situation
1- fa'izu_hunna ?When it so happens (Fa), advise them with love and affection. (if it yielded no result then)
2- wahjuru_hunna- move/separate them away (hijr)- where they are made to go/part/separate? Hijrat always involves physical separation.
3- fil mada_ji Inside your bedroom-
Here permission is to separate them inside the bedroom, not separating her to some other place in the house (ba it). Bedroom is the place where husband and wife meet (it is for them majma al bahrain-meeting point of two rivers) and so long they live in their bedroom all members of the family in that house know that they enjoy good matrimonial relationship. At this point things should be kept between wife and husband to resolve the problem themselves.
Even after this, the situation does not improve; natural next step would be to separate her from the bedroom (wahjuru hunna an il mada ji) into the house so that everyone in the house/family comes to know about existing bad relations between this couple.4- wadribu_hunna.
Immediately after ?wahjuru_hunna- fil mada_ji? was there any need to add words ?min or an il madaji? after wadribu_hunna??There is no denying that the word ?Zarb? is used, 9 or 10 times out of perhaps 58 times, with reference to physical striking, 4-5 times with reference to Asa of Musa a.s. I cant? understand why an Arab would always immediately take it for beating only ignoring its major use (48 times) in the Quran Majeed for other purpose.
?Zarb? is used going out, the end result is separation/segregation from family.
?Zarb? is to create demarcation/separation (Hadd-e-Fasil)
?faduriba bainahum bisu_r?
? A partition/separation (duriba) shall be made between them with a wall? (Refer 5713)?Zarb? makes things distinct/separate. Missal is ?yazrebo? because Missal makes things distinct and clear.
During the discussion a friend also referred 482. If we insist that wadribu_hunna is beating the wives, how could it be reconciled?
Ya_ ay yuhal lazina a_manu_ in na min azwa_jikum wa aula_dikum aduw wal lakum
O ye who believe! truly among your WIVES and your children are some that are your ENIMIESFriends will agree that a wife ?guilty? of Noshooz is much less a ?criminal? than the other wife who is Enemy. If the ?punishment? for Noshooz is beating, the enemy wife should be liable to much harsher punishment. Let us have different perception and understanding about our conduct about wives because Allah has directed
fahzaru_hum wa in tafu_ wa tasfahu_ wa tagfiru_
so beware of them! But if ye forgive and overlook and cover up (their faults)
{I lament this translation does not depict the beauty of words used in ayah-someone may try to give us translation that nearly match the depth of the words used}
This is the only place in the whole of Quran Majeed where these three words have been used jointly.In the presence of this direction how wadribu_hunna could be translated and understood as beating wives. Beating is not allowed even to that husband who is 100 percent sure in his doubt about the bad character of his wife. As compared to that Noshoozhunna is too small a thing.
After the husband has separated his wife from the bedroom into the house, it is like beating the drum that matrimonial relations of this couple are at stake. This will create the fear of their permanent separation. In such a situation, further advice to handle the deteriorating matters is given 435. If every thing fails, the natural result will be divorce and end result again final separation ?Farqoohunna?.
May Allah bless everyone.
-
Salaam mazhar
Good job!
As I understand it
- Talk to her
- Keep away from her in the bed room
(so far, the matter is kept private) - Take the matter to a different level declare it by seperation (or just declaration as in "daraba masalan" by telling other family members/friends) which will logically lead to
- case being discussed by members of the two families.