Number of wives?
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Now for those Men who believe they can still practice Polygamy, 'because Muhammad did'
Allah addresses these Men in the following Sura and ayahs....
Wa-ith taqoolu lillathee anAAama Allahu AAalayhi waanAAamta AAalayhi
amsik AAalayka zawjaka waittaqi Allaha / amsik AAalayka zawjaka waittaqi Allaha = Keep your dignity with your wife/mate and have regard for Allahwa tukhfee fee nafsika / and Be aware of your soul;your inner feelings
ma Allahu mubdeehi watakhsha alnnasa waAllahu ahaqqu an takhshahufa lamma qada zaydun minha wataran zawwaj nakaha li-kaa (for YOU) la yakoona AAala almu/mineena harajun fee azwaji adAAiya-ihim itha qadaw minhunna wataran wakana amru Allahi mafAAoolan
Try fitting this understanding of yours with the rest of the verse. Your understanding is way off.
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Obviously, I don't agree with women not being able to pray. And I don't agree with polygamy be it multiple husbands or wives. But there is such a thing as paternity tests, you know. And there is evidence that we were created as monogamous mammals, regardless of our gender. It's in our neurochemistry -
http//nationalzoo.si.edu/Publications/ZooGoer/2004/3/monogamy.cfm
im not asking you to agree with anything this is my view, but explain to me why mohamad had so many wives and dont tell me hes a special case,id he is a prophet dont you tink he should have been the first no to have mulitple wives. or is there a different translation for that too. and by the way i really would like to know where thses translations are coming from because they are ver off of what quran is.
as for animals i beleive they do have mulitple mates or am i wrong in that, sorry im not very good with science -
Any excesses (i.e. polygamy, oppressing women, etc.) that were practiced in regards to females and marriage have now ENDED and those practices should cease.
So now polygamy is being put along side the oppression of women! There are unmarried and widowed women out there, women without family and children, who wouldn't mind being even fifth, sixth or seventh wife of a man. Monogamists deprive women of their needs. THAT'S oppression! THAT'S injustice! Selfish people!
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Peace,
I know I have read somewhere in Quran that the MEN/HUSBANDS are the head of the family. But even that statements from Quran, I think also the women have their responsibility to help and support her husband and work out of home.
In cases of widows, well there is the society who bear the responsibility to help the needy.
I think we women must declare us stronger and not only lean on the men and feel that a marriage is the only solutions for us.
In my opinion I would rather be single and fight for my children's wellbeings than to be a second or third wife.
Maria
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This is so people do not remain unmarried. There is no prohibition against polygyny here.
Assalaam Alaikum @Fahad
If you think rationally and logically regarding Sura 2432, the 'prohibition' you claim is NOT there is actually implied by the 'acceptance' of the ayah by BOTH Males and Females.
MARRY THOSE AMONG YOU WHO ARE SINGLE, and the virtuous ones among yourselves, male or female. if they are in poverty, Allah will give them means out of His grace. for Allah encompasseth all, and he knoweth all things.
Fahad, think as I mentioned in previous posts If all Females who are approached by Married Males gave the Men this ayah and vice versa.
Fahad, What is the affect upon the practice of polygamy/polygyny?
By the way I believe the ayah is Mukhamat / governing
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Assalaam Alaikum
Ok Lets just jump to the chase....
I will NOT post the english translation, because EVERYONE I have encountered is wrong.....
Wain khiftum alla tuqsitoo fee alyatama fa inkihoo {MA TABA lakum minna alnnisai mathna wathulatha warubaAAa} fain khiftum alla taAAdiloo fawahidatan aw ma malakat aymanukum thalika adna alla taAAooloo
Wain khiftum alla tuqsitoo fee alyatama fa VERBAL SENTENCE >>> inkihoo ADVERBAL MODIFIERS >>> MA TABA lakum minna <<< GENITIVE >>> alnnisai ADJECTIVES >>> mathna wathulatha warubaAAa <<< fain khiftum alla taAAdiloo fa ADJECTIVE Subject (Al Nisa) >>>> wahidatan <<< aw ma malakat aymanukum thalika adna alla taAAooloo
It is Ma = NOT Taba = good/lawful Lakum =TO/For YOU to be given the Minna = favor/gift/blessing/benefit of Al Nisai = (get married to) Women Mathna = 2, Thulatha = 3, and Rubaa = 4 TIMES
IT IS NOT LAWFUL to divorce get married, divorce get married, divorce get married again and divorce and get married again (and in doing so leave a family behind EACH time!)
'MA taaba la kum MIN an nisa' means 'WHO(MA) seem good to you FROM(MIN) the women'.
The verse is saying And if you fear that you shall not be deal justly with the yatama, so ankihu who seem good to you from the women, twos, threes and fours...
Do you even try to fit your understanding with the rest of the verse? Do you even read what the rest of the verse is says?
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why dont you wake up from your dream world and wake up to reality, all those broken homes or those phycological problems. they are casue becuase of what faith they do not have, you think god does not know what hes talking about .you know how many women divorce becasue there husbands cheat on them do you know how many broken homes and lost children because the men no longer are in love with there wives. thats reality. but if men were allowed to marry again even in the western society, life would be much simpler then what it is today, but then im dreaming because in order to ahve that people would have to have a great deal of faith and that unfortunatley we dont have, yes i am a female and even though i am divorced now, i was married once and i was hoping my ex husband would marry my friend for reasons or other. by the wway whats the count on men and women int his world wasnit it something like 7 to 1 or am i mistaken.
Is this a rational reply to the points I raised in my post?
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Try fitting this understanding of yours with the rest of the verse. Your understanding is way off.
Assalaam Alaikum @Fahad
Fahad, please address the ayah, your personal opinion does NOT take precedence above the Quran.
Wa-ith taqoolu lillathee anAAama Allahu AAalayhi waanAAamta AAalayhi
amsik AAalayka zawjaka waittaqi Allaha / amsik AAalayka zawjaka waittaqi Allaha = Keep your dignity with your wife/mate and have regard for Allahwa tukhfee fee nafsika / and Be aware of your soul;your inner feelings
ma Allahu mubdeehi watakhsha alnnasa waAllahu ahaqqu an takhshahuBeginning of a Verbal Sentence>>>>>
fa / conjunctive particle lamma qada zaydun minha wataran zawwaj nakaha li-kaa (for YOU) la yakoona AAala almu/mineena harajun fee azwaji adAAiya-ihim itha qadaw minhunna wataran wakana amru Allahi mafAAoolan
Fahad, Address the ayah properly and indicate to myself and the readers where my 'understanding is way off'
I await your response regarding the ayah.
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salam muslimthreadrevealed. you persist in misleading people. do you even realize your posts are utterly wrong
you make the false claim that
The verse in Sura 43 is very clear its NOT referring to number wives its referring to divorce!complete utter nonsense. there is no divorce in islam. there is talaq in islam. the word talaq is not present in 43. therefore, you are misleading people and lying.
allah is the truth.
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PEACE,
Please everyone say polygyny
once again please say polygyny
IT was already in a previus post that it was mentioned.... I forget which one. Its a very good thing that we all become educated in this word! I see polygomy written in religious articles! it shows that some people dont look up the words that they speak. I dont look up all the words i speak either but its a good time to start! like Cult,Ideology, Religion, Ritual. and how people use these words against people. I find myself explaining people words so they dont have a bad connotation. And I also see people in this forum having to explain words. Which i learn from at times.
Peace -
So now polygamy is being put along side the oppression of women! There are unmarried and widowed women out there, women without family and children, who wouldn't mind being even fifth, sixth or seventh wife of a man. Monogamists deprive women of their needs. THAT'S oppression! THAT'S injustice! Selfish people!
Assalaam Alaikum @Fahad
Yes, Fahad If you or any other man suggests to a woman that he can 'possess' her as an additional wife EVEN though YOU KNOW that Allah,swt has NOT given you that right....
Yes..YOU are oppressing that Female and Allah does NOT take that lightly
Fahad, Allah,swt did NOT say 'Go Forth and Multiply', thats Bible....
Allah,swt states in the Quran...
O mankind! reverence your Guardian-Lord, who created you from a single soul/ , created of like nature, its mate, and from that soul created countless men and women;- reverence / Allah, through whom you demand your mutual (rights), AND REVERENCE THE WOMBS (AL-Arhama)/ .
for Allah ever watches over you. /Fahad, Allah is indicating in the above ayah, that Women are a 'special creation' from Allah. Thus Allah is instructing the Males to have regard for Allah 'AND' the 'wombs' (AL-Arhama)/ .
We recognize as Muslims ONE entity worthy of worship that is Allah, the same regard and recognition we have for Allah is the same regard and recognition Allah is commanding us to have as it relates to Women, ONE lifetime commitment to ONE Woman, period.
Arhama (noun, plural) wombs;Rahim merciful;Rahima his mercy and love
Dictionary of the Holy Quran page 206 (rahima) -
Peace,
I know I have read somewhere in Quran that the MEN/HUSBANDS are the head of the family. But even that statements from Quran, I think also the women have their responsibility to help and support her husband and work out of home.
In cases of widows, well there is the society who bear the responsibility to help the needy.
I think we women must declare us stronger and not only lean on the men and feel that a marriage is the only solutions for us.
In my opinion I would rather be single and fight for my children's wellbeings than to be a second or third wife.
Maria
salam
i have written 4 responses to your post and i have deleted each and everyone.i can write a book on those few wordds you said and i wont lie to you i wouldnt have of said very nice things because unfortunaltey people are lacking the understanding of what god and his book are all about.
i will say one thing with that response that you posted i guarantee you do not come with the understanding of religion and the idea why we are here. -
'MA taaba la kum MIN an nisa' means 'WHO(MA) seem good to you FROM(MIN) the women'.
The verse is saying And if you fear that you shall not be deal justly with the yatama, so ankihu who seem good to you from the women, twos, threes and fours...
Do you even try to fit your understanding with the rest of the verse? Do you even read what the rest of the verse is says?
Assalaam Alaikum @Fahad...
Wrong! Address the ayah properly as I have taken the time to do....
Wain khiftum alla tuqsitoo fee alyatama fa VERBAL SENTENCE >>> inkihoo ADVERBAL MODIFIERS >>> MA TABA lakum minna <<< GENITIVE >>> alnnisai ADJECTIVES >>> mathna wathulatha warubaAAa <<< fain khiftum alla taAAdiloo fa ADJECTIVE Subject (Al Nisa) >>>> wahidatan <<< aw ma malakat aymanukum thalika adna alla taAAooloo
Ma is a negation Fahad...
Ma Negative particle when placed BEFORE a perfect verb (taba) or BEFORE a pronoun or BEFORE a demonstrative noun. Also used as a negative particle BEFORE a perfect tense among verbal forms.
Dictionary of the Holy Quran page 523-524 (ma)The TWO conditions have been met, the 'Ma' is BEFORE a perfect verb (taba) and BEFORE a perfect tense among a verbal form or sentence (inkihoo denotes the verbal sentence, 'Ma' is the FIRST adverbial modifier of the verbal form or sentence)
I await your 'cogent' response, that addresses the above grammatical references and context.
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salam muslimthreadrevealed. you persist in misleading people. do you even realize your posts are utterly wrong
you make the false claim that
complete utter nonsense. there is no divorce in islam. there is talaq in islam. the word talaq is not present in 43. therefore, you are misleading people and lying.allah is the truth.
Allah,swt is telling you in the ayah NOT to marry 2,3 & 4 times...what is Allah,swt telling you NOT to do?
Al Araf, let me give you an ayah to ponder, since you keep running from thread to thread calling me and others liars and accusing me of misleading people...
This is what Allah,swt wishes you to understand....
Those who brought forward the lie are a body among yourselves. think it not to be an evil to you; On the contrary it is good for you. to every man among them (will come the punishment) of the sin that he earned, and to him who took on himself the lead among them, will be a penalty grievous.
Al Araf the punishment for lying is on YOU! Your lying upon my character and effort is a blessing for me!
Why did not the believers - men and women - when you heard of the affair,- put the best construction on it in their own minds and say, "This (charge) is an obvious lie" ?
Al Araf, Do you see others following you and taking your position? name calling and character assassinations
Why did they not bring four witnesses to prove it? When they have NOT brought the witnesses, such men, in the sight of Allah, (stand forth) themselves as LIARS!
Al Araf I have invited several times to bring proof that I am lying and misleading....
Im still waiting...
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im not asking you to agree with anything this is my view, but explain to me why mohamad had so many wives and dont tell me hes a special case,id he is a prophet dont you tink he should have been the first no to have mulitple wives. or is there a different translation for that too. and by the way i really would like to know where thses translations are coming from because they are ver off of what quran is.
as for animals i beleive they do have mulitple mates or am i wrong in that, sorry im not very good with scienceThe Quran specifically says he is a special case - see 3350 "as a privilege given only to you and not to the believers."
However, I don't really believe this. He just did what he wanted. He gave no meaningful teachings about polygamy so this is something we should reason for ourselves. As my link pointed out - some animals are promiscuous and some are monogamous - you can tell by the chemistry in their brains. Human beings have the brain chemistry of a monogamous mammal, we form a neuro-chemical bond with a specific sex partner - we fall in love. So only monogamy is natural.
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Somewhere int he Quran regarding something which was being forbidden the exception is made "except what already passed", that is what was done already. The command to nt take any more wives was made to Muhammad when he already had a a number. Was any man compelled to divorce wives he already had when the injuction was given to marry the single? I doubt it. So I do not think that and exception was made for Muhammad, except to forbid him to divorce any of his wives or exchange them for others. He was not being allowed to marry more than he already had, but no other man was forced to divorce any wife he already had. So the exception was a restriction not a privilege.
Salaam
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The Quran specifically says he is a special case - see 3350 "as a privilege given only to you and not to the believers."
However, I don't really believe this. He just did what he wanted. He gave no meaningful teachings about polygamy
salam
please show me where it is he is privillaged.O prophet, we made lawful for you your wives to whom you have paid their due dowry, or what you already have, as granted to you by GOD. Also lawful for you in marriage are the daughters of your father's brothers, the daughters of your father's sisters, the daughters of your mother's brothers, the daughters of your mother's sisters, who have emigrated with you. Also, if a believing woman gave herself to the prophet - by forfeiting the dowry - the prophet may marry her without a dowry, if he so wishes. However, her forfeiting of the dowry applies only to the prophet, and not to the other believers. We have already decreed their rights in regard to their spouses or what they already have. This is to spare you any embarrassment. GOD is Forgiver, Most Merciful
if he didnt give any meaningful teachings is only because god beat him to it, its in the quran, and ppl can turn and switch the verses anyway they want, its very clear in arabic. translations are never 100% right.
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Somewhere int he Quran regarding something which was being forbidden the exception is made "except what already passed", that is what was done already. The command to nt take any more wives was made to Muhammad when he already had a a number. Was any man compelled to divorce wives he already had when the injuction was given to marry the single? I doubt it. So I do not think that and exception was made for Muhammad, except to forbid him to divorce any of his wives or exchange them for others. He was not being allowed to marry more than he already had, but no other man was forced to divorce any wife he already had. So the exception was a restriction not a privilege.
Salaam
Yes, and we also have a similar restriction to the general public in verses 422 "And do not marry the women your fathers married except what has already passed", and 423 "and two sisters in wedlock at the same time except what has passed". No command to divorce them.
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Assalaam Alaikum
All 'excesses' in regards to women are addressed here...
Wa-ith taqoolu lillathee anAAama Allahu AAalayhi waanAAamta AAalayhi
amsik AAalayka zawjaka waittaqi Allaha / amsik AAalayka zawjaka waittaqi Allaha = Keep your dignity with your wife/mate and have regard for Allahwa tukhfee fee nafsika / and Be aware of your soul;your inner feelings
ma Allahu mubdeehi watakhsha alnnasa waAllahu ahaqqu an takhshahuBeginning of a Verbal Sentence>>>>>
fa / conjunctive particle lamma qada zaydun minha wataran zawwaj nakaha li-kaa (for YOU) la yakoona AAala almu/mineena harajun fee azwaji adAAiya-ihim itha qadaw minhunna wataran wakana amru Allahi mafAAoolan
It is not lawful for you (to marry more) women after this / min baAAdu, NOR TO CHANGE THEM FOR (OTHER) WIVES
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salam muslimtruthrevealed. you continue to lie making the false claim that allah has prohibited more than one wife.
you have not produced a single verse that says what you claim. therefore you persist in lying. as i predicted you flood the thread with irrelevant verses, none of which say, more than one wife is prohibited. allah has already ordained a severe punishment for people who forge lies.
allah is the judge.