Marriage and muslim women?
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Al Araf
That's a bit ridiculous
Give me your evidence that Allah has established a hadd that a women must obey her husband? What?s the husband?s job? to boss the wife around?
So a person must never turn down any sort of offer otherwise that makes one a sinner. Sorry! the wife a sinner because you?re implicated the husband shouldn?t listen to the wife. Damn image she?s in the toilet and the husband commands her to make a coffee goodness, she?s going to hell people for being disobedient. Great logic mate. Seriously that?s silly, this almost sounds like sunnis. Normal people in normal relationships would listen to one another and compromise.
Things can screw up in good times and bad times even with ?momin?. People are human remember.
Something i noticed in the sunni world. Men who earn an income think they?re greater and worthy of obedience simply because they?re earning money.
Share your knowledge of hadood.
BTW i don?t entirely disagree, people mesh better with people who have similar focuses. Otherwise some might have hopeful intentions of 'one day they'll change' people have different criteria's depends what they go by.
Sanita
monotheistic in a sense? I'll quote the Irish on this one and say be sure, be sure, be sure, be sure and in case you didn't notice, be sure!some things to keep in mind
- do you want to have children, if so how do you want to raise them and is there mutual agreement.
- does the other have full awareness of your belief
- are you prepared to live the rest of your life with them, as they are (can't expect them to change)
Salam
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Al Araf
That's a bit ridiculous
Give me your evidence that Allah has established a hadd that a women must obey her husband? What?s the husband?s job? to boss the wife around?
So a person must never turn down any sort of offer otherwise that makes one a sinner. Sorry! the wife a sinner because you?re implicated the husband shouldn?t listen to the wife. Damn image she?s in the toilet and the husband commands her to make a coffee goodness, she?s going to hell people for being disobedient. Great logic mate. Seriously that?s silly, this almost sounds like sunnis. Normal people in normal relationships would listen to one another and compromise.
Things can screw up in good times and bad times even with ?momin?. People are human remember.
Something i noticed in the sunni world. Men who earn an income think they?re greater and worthy of obedience simply because they?re earning money.
Share your knowledge of hadood.
BTW i don?t entirely disagree, people mesh better with people who have similar focuses. Otherwise some might have hopeful intentions of 'one day they'll change' people have different criteria's depends what they go by.
Sanita
monotheistic in a sense? I'll quote the Irish on this one and say be sure, be sure, be sure, be sure and in case you didn't notice, be sure!some things to keep in mind
- do you want to have children, if so how do you want to raise them and is there mutual agreement.
- does the other have full awareness of your belief
- are you prepared to live the rest of your life with them, as they are (can't expect them to change)
Salam
Peace ;
You are right.
The things can go vice versa.
The woman can go out to earn and run the house ,the husband should stay at home to
1 look after children/house
2Cook for the wife
Of course it seems ideal situation.
Regards -
Peace ;
You are right.
The things can go vice versa.
The woman can go out to earn and run the house ,the husband should stay at home to
1 look after children/house
2Cook for the wife
Of course it seems ideal situation.
RegardsI don't see a problem with that. Equality is the thing.
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No such thing as equality, well there is but I reckon people drum it in too much.
People take on different roles, no biggie. What those roles are would depend on each relationship. people agree on different things, some might even rotate.
most women work nowadays yet men still expect wonder women, good luck guys! Some men can cook and prefer cooking, some don't. even some couples don't even cook for themselves! they got inlaws/family, restaurant food bla bla bla.
Everyone's mind is blocked on tradition i think
BTW not all people have children in a relationship, it's funny how people think.
I'd think if you cook, you cook for yourself and others. the way people put it is like a chore "cook for the wife".
I would have been very happy if I am allowed to stay at home and my wife goes out to earn. It will be an ideal situation for me.
Regardsyou lazy... haha kidding
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No such thing as equality, well there is but I reckon people drum it in too much.
People take on different roles, no biggie. What those roles are would depend on each relationship. people agree on different things, some might even rotate.
most women work nowadays yet men still expect wonder women, good luck guys! Some men can cook and prefer cooking, some don't. even some couples don't even cook for themselves! they got inlaws/family, restaurant food bla bla bla.
Everyone's mind is blocked on tradition i think P
BTW not all people have children in a relationship, it's funny how people think.
I'd think if you cook, you cook for yourself and others. the way people put it is like a chore "cook for the wife".
you lazy... haha kidding
peace
BTW what you suggest for a family
Husband + wife + two kidsSituation - A
Husband should go out for earning to run the house.
Wife should stay at home looking after the house and childrenSituation - B
Wife should go out for earning to run the house.
Husband should stay at home looking after the house and childrenWe are not talking about exceptional cases
Regards
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Dude I can?t give you a straight answer, every relationship differs there are too many variables and i ain?t talking exceptional cases. Ideally set roles have stability however they can still differ. They don?t have to be as concrete as ?you stay home cook clean, I work and make money?.
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exactly. Why should she be the one to make him coffee anyway? It's really easy to make, and he should make a cup for her too
so what is the point of having a wife then? wife should give respect and fulfil the needs of her husband.
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Like there are no women who believe in the sunnah of our beloved prophet Muhammad SAW. May you women get husbands who have coffee shops and you have to work their and make coffee all day long.
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Who said I'd have to work there?
says the husband.