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Can a women lead a congregational prayer with men and women mixed behind her?

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    reel
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    Reel,

    It is much more prevalent in the man to think about sex when he sees a woman than vice-versa. I think this is established scientific fact. It doesn't mean that he become a ravenous animal. But it does imply more inner struggle. As far as being grandma's age, what if the man standing behind her is also grandma's age? I see what you are trying to say but situations can arise that easy cancel out the 'safe' situations that you are insinuating. That is why I said that I do not believe that it is the best practice.

    I studied with men in school and university. God knows, how they got A's when the exams were based on lectures. After all, we women in the class were the distraction huh?
    But show me a paper that says men during prayer think about sex when they see a woman. What I know is that two Zoroastrian men thought like that and they were no men of science. One claimed of inventing some weird thing that could correct stories from chinese whisper, but never left any evidence of how he did so and thus, no one was able to apply it.

    At present, however, this is what I have got from research https//www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-sexual-continuum/201112/how-often-do-men-and-women-think-about-sex

    Yet if men have such impure mind, by your own logic, it would be best to ban them from praying in groups. Do note that among men, there can also be homosexuals.
    You still allow hadiths to guide your mind and that's pretty sad.

    By the way, we know from Sodom and Gomorrah that straight men can have sexual thought about people of their own gender. So it seems that the man leading the congregational prayer can also be distraction for men behind him.

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      agphys
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      (Reminder)

      "O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other. Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you. And Allah has full knowledge and is well acquainted (with all things)."
      (Quran 4913)

      "The Believers, men and women, are protectors one of another they enjoin what is just, and forbid what is evil they observe regular prayers, practise regular charity, and obey Allah and His Messenger. On them will Allah pour His mercy for Allah is Exalted in power, Wise."
      (Quran 971)

      God knows best

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        huruf
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        I studied with men in school and university. God knows, how they got A's when the exams were based on lectures. After all, we women in the class were the distraction huh?
        But show me a paper that says men during prayer think about sex when they see a woman. What I know is that two Zoroastrian men thought like that and they were no men of science. One claimed of inventing some weird thing that could correct stories from chinese whisper, but never left any evidence of how he did so and thus, no one was able to apply it.

        At present, however, this is what I have got from research https//www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-sexual-continuum/201112/how-often-do-men-and-women-think-about-sex

        Yet if men have such impure mind, by your own logic, it would be best to ban them from praying in groups. Do note that among men, there can also be homosexuals.
        You still allow hadiths to guide your mind and that's pretty sad.

        By the way, we know from Sodom and Gomorrah that straight men can have sexual thought about people of their own gender. So it seems that the man leading the congregational prayer can also be distraction for men behind him.

        Regarding this temptation thing, indeed, the kind of "landscape" before the eyes of those men that would not be in the first row of the prayers, if the have any homosexual atom, would be really trying for their morals. rotfl rotfl rotfl For them women would be much better.

        Salaam

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          Wakas
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          peace Anwar,

          I've read your post several times but I still dont follow. You seem to be saying its non-conditional but the options you gave for "bima" still make the statement conditional.

          434 says...

          the men are the qawwamoon of women
          because / due to how / with what
          God preferred/bestowed SOME of them over others (masculine plural)
          AND
          because / due to how / with what
          they spent of their money

          Points to note
          Not all men, some. And due to what they spent.
          e.g. if a man does not spend on women the man cannot be considered qawwamoon.

          Ergo, conditional.

          Wakas,

          bi-anna = 'in that' literally and more eloquently 'because'

          bi-kaifa = 'with how' or 'in how' and more eloquently 'due to how'

          ma'a alladhee = 'with what' or 'with that which'

          If there are other subtleties that I remember later I will try to post them.

          Salaam

          All information is correct to the best of my knowledge only and thus should not be taken as a fact. One should always seek knowledge and verify for themselves when possible: 17:36, 20:114, 35:28, 49:6, 58:11.

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            As-Salaatayn
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            Ba3dh bi-ba3adh or ba3dh 3ala ba3dh does not mean 'some' it means 'each other.' It distinguishes one distinct group from another distinct group.

            Also none of them are conditional, they are factual. I would translate faddala as 'graced' or 'blessed'

            Salaam.

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              Bender
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              Whether you hate religion or not the Quran is a book of religion. God's religion.

              Salaam

              Hi,

              Can you define what you understand under "religion".

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                As-Salaatayn
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                Religion (Merriam Webster)

                1
                a the state of a religious <a nun in her 20th year of religion>
                b (1) the service and worship of God or the supernatural (2) commitment or devotion to religious faith or observance
                2
                a personal set or institutionalized system of religious attitudes, beliefs, and practices
                3
                archaic scrupulous conformity conscientiousness
                4
                a cause, principle, or system of beliefs held to with ardor and faith

                Deen

                Discipline (include law), Duty, Dues, Judgement.

                It's meaning of religion is in it's meaning of discipline and duty.

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                  huruf
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                  Ba3dh bi-ba3adh or ba3dh 3ala ba3dh does not mean 'some' it means 'each other.' It distinguishes one distinct group from another distinct group.

                  Also none of them are conditional, they are factual. I would translate faddala as 'graced' or 'blessed'

                  Salaam.

                  That is correct.

                  Salaam

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                    Bender
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                    Religion (Merriam Webster)

                    1
                    a the state of a religious <a nun in her 20th year of religion>
                    b (1) the service and worship of God or the supernatural (2) commitment or devotion to religious faith or observance
                    2
                    a personal set or institutionalized system of religious attitudes, beliefs, and practices
                    3
                    archaic scrupulous conformity conscientiousness
                    4
                    a cause, principle, or system of beliefs held to with ardor and faith

                    Deen

                    Discipline (include law), Duty, Dues, Judgement.

                    It's meaning of religion is in it's meaning of discipline and duty.

                    I can understand that you think the quran is a book of discipline and duty.
                    But I do not understand Gods discipline and duty. God has no religion, people do but not God.

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                      As-Salaatayn
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                      God's religion means the Religion from God or sanctioned and promoted by God. Possessives work like that grammatically.

                      Salaam

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                        Wakas
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                        peace Anwar,

                        434 does not say "Ba3dh bi-ba3adh" or "ba3dh 3ala ba3dh", it says "baAAdahum AAala baAAdin", thus your translation would seemingly be

                        the men are the qawwamoon of women
                        because / due to how / with what
                        God graced each other (of) them* over others*
                        AND
                        because / due to how / with what
                        they spent of their money

                        *masculine plural

                        Perhaps you can give us your explanation of what is being said here, with specific reference as to whom the masculine plurals are referring to.

                        And answer this simple question can a man be considered qawwamoon if he does not spend on the women yes/no?

                        Ba3dh bi-ba3adh or ba3dh 3ala ba3dh does not mean 'some' it means 'each other.' It distinguishes one distinct group from another distinct group.

                        Also none of them are conditional, they are factual. I would translate faddala as 'graced' or 'blessed'

                        Salaam.

                        All information is correct to the best of my knowledge only and thus should not be taken as a fact. One should always seek knowledge and verify for themselves when possible: 17:36, 20:114, 35:28, 49:6, 58:11.

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                          huruf
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                          This is exctly the same construction as in several other cases i the Qur'an and in grammars it is perfectly defined and described, and it is reciprocal clause. why in this particular 4.34 SOME translators mke a mess of it, I do not know, but there is no ambiguity in it. It is the very same clause which appears repeatedly in the Qur'an and always translated as reciprocal.

                          Salaam

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                            As-Salaatayn
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                            421

                            The logic of

                            Al-ba'dh ilaa/bi/3alaa ba3din is always one group doing to another, where both groups belong to each other. The believing men and women are one community and we all have our roles to play. God is distinguishing them here. 'God has made men caretakers, leaders and managers over women in how he has grace one (part of the group) over the other (part of the group) and in how men spend/invest'

                            Here, two parts of one group are distinguished. Ba'dh can also be used for multiple groups engaging in one event. It's really pretty simple. It is only complicated if you don't want to deal with the reality of what it's saying. What it is NOT saying is that men have the right to be rogues and tyrants over women. Nor do women have the right to act like rogues and tyrants with men. This is about our duties and responsibilities to Allah and fulfilling what he commands of us. That's it.

                            Salaam

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                              As-Salaatayn
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                              Wakas,

                              There is no difference grammatically. I should have been more specific. It is either al-ba'dh bi/3laa/ilaa/fee-ba3dh or ba3duhum/kum/hunn/hu/haa bi/3alaa/ilaa/fee-ba3dh.

                              There is no way around the fact of this matter Wakas. As much as our Libertine and Liberal Greco-Roman palates may not like it. Allah has a plan for us in this life so that we can obtain the glory of the next. That's it.

                              Salaam

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                                Wakas
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                                peace Anwar,

                                Perhaps I'm not being clear enough, so I will clarify. For the words in coloured bold below, whom are they referring to

                                God graced each other (of) them* over others*
                                *masculine plural

                                1. You have 3 options them

                                A) men
                                B) women
                                C) men+women

                                1. You have 3 options others

                                A) men
                                B) women
                                C) men+women

                                My question is real simple, and needs no more than a 4 letter response, e.g. 1a 2a
                                Thanks.

                                All information is correct to the best of my knowledge only and thus should not be taken as a fact. One should always seek knowledge and verify for themselves when possible: 17:36, 20:114, 35:28, 49:6, 58:11.

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                                  huruf
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                                  421

                                  The logic of

                                  Al-ba'dh ilaa/bi/3alaa ba3din is always one group doing to another, where both groups belong to each other. The believing men and women are one community and we all have our roles to play. God is distinguishing them here. 'God has made men caretakers, leaders and managers over women in how he has grace one (part of the group) over the other (part of the group) and in how men spend/invest'

                                  Here, two parts of one group are distinguished. Ba'dh can also be used for multiple groups engaging in one event. It's really pretty simple. It is only complicated if you don't want to deal with the reality of what it's saying. What it is NOT saying is that men have the right to be rogues and tyrants over women. Nor do women have the right to act like rogues and tyrants with men. This is about our duties and responsibilities to Allah and fulfilling what he commands of us. That's it.

                                  Salaam

                                  No God has not made men leaders tht is absolute onse and not what the text says. they owe womenn care and money spent, but they are not leaders of the women. That is such a nonsense that you would have any man leading any woman regardless. Leadership is something thagt goes with the person not with the sex, same as intelligence and same as talent for anything in particular. That is something completely clear an visible

                                  The innjunctions in 4.34 arenot there to prohibit women anything or pput any burden on them but to put the balance in the burdens supported by the sexes. Men are free of the burden of reproduction, God balances providing for the men to give women them economical and other support. That is it. Other than that trying to get from that injunction privileges for the males againt the women is puttingg inn the text human innventions that God has ot put.

                                  Imagining in this aya purported roles of ledership is a wet dream of some people and in fact would burden many males beyond their means because it is a fact that neither all men no all women have leadership qualities and it woud be cruelty to expect such a thing from all of them.

                                  Salaam

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                                    Noon_waalqalami
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                                    ...'God has made men caretakers, leaders and managers over women ...

                                    Peace --

                                    285 and we wanted that favor upon the ones oppressed they of in the earth and we make them a-immatan/leaders and we make them the inheritors

                                    434 the menfolk qawwmna/steadfast being upon the womenfolk in what favor the god some them upon/over others and in what spends they of from wealth theirs so the righteous (f/p) obedient (f/p) guardians (f/p) to the unseen in what safeguarded the god and the ones whom (f/p) thou fearing recalcitrant theirs (f/p) so admonish ye them (f/p) and leaves ye them (f/p) in the rest place wa-iribuhunna/and strikes (i.e. shuns) ye them (f/p) so if hearken you so not seek ye of over them (f/p) way of surely the god be height of immense of

                                    Arabic-English Lexicon by Edward William Lane

                                    • signifies also he was silent; he spoke not or he lowered his eyes, looking towards the ground

                                    4135 O you the ones believe ye of be ye of qawwmna/steadfast in/concerning the justice witnesses to god and in case upon/against yourselves or the parents dual and the nearer/relatives being ?

                                    58 O you the ones believe ye of be ye of qawwmna/steadfast to god witnesses? in/concerning the justice ?

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                                      agphys
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                                      "O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other. Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you. And Allah has full knowledge and is well acquainted (with all things)."
                                      (Quran 4913)

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                                        Bender
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                                        God's religion means the Religion from God or sanctioned and promoted by God. Possessives work like that grammatically.

                                        Salaam

                                        Hi,

                                        Thank you, I still do not understand but if you say it's promoted by God then for sure it has to be the best religion there is and it must be also available for everyone.
                                        So what exactly is this religion you are talking about?

                                        Salaam,
                                        Bender

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                                          As-Salaatayn
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                                          Devil's Advocatism and Feminism have destroy the Ummah of the Qur'an.

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