Arranged Marriages are an INJUSTICE?
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Hello Tahira,
salam LoteTree
you guessed right. We are pakistani and yes we do get forced to marry our first cousins.Oh Tahira, it is so sad to hear that people forced into marriages -(
Arranged marriages perhaps may be acceptable when the boy and the girl has a say but forced marriages are despicable!At the moment there are some debates going on in Bradford about marrying 1st cousins.
Yes, I heard that some MP is setting out some bill to outlaw first cousin marriages in Pakistani communities...
Apparently ther are diseases and disabilities linked to marrying 1st cousins then their children marrying 1st cousins also etc.
Yes, this is the case Tahira, lots of inherited genetic diseases. Thalacyma is one of the common diseases to be passed in first cousins marriages.
It is about time that Women of the Indian Subcontinent and also in all the Traditionalist must Societies must stand up and reclaim their human diginity...
Regards,
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It is about time that Women of the Indian Subcontinent and also in all the Traditionalist must Societies must stand up and reclaim their human diginity...
In our societies, we dont marry first cousins at all.
They are like our siblings and we grow up like that.
There is no marrying them.
And the other reason being, ' the risks of inherited disorders' are well recognised. -
Hi Tahira,
Surrey currently.
Peace! -
LoteTree are you from the uk?
Yes, from Merry England -)...But my family roots are in the Indian Subcontinent...
Regards,
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You guys are so lucky you're not living in pakiford. OOPS i meant bradford. It is like the Big Apple for immigration up here.
Bradford 3 is the worst. The majority are muslims and the men are completley out of control while the women have to wear hijabs and stay inside. Its like all the criminal activity in bradford starts there. -
You guys are so lucky you're not living in pakiford. OOPS i meant bradford. It is like the Big Apple for immigration up here.
Bradford 3 is the worst. The majority are muslims and the men are completley out of control while the women have to wear hijabs and stay inside. Its like all the criminal activity in bradford starts there.My mate lives in Baradford near the city centre, reminds me actually, got to see him, aint seen him for somewhile now. Bradford does have it's share of nice asian girls and the accent to go with it OOOOOH!! lol
PEACE
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Bradford does have it's share of nice asian girls and the accent to go with it OOOOOH!! lol
PEACEBut how do you get to see them since they are all covered in Hijabs? -)
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It's got popular since all this talk about whipping Jaxal started. wow
You are not suggesting that women get turned on by the prospect of whipping a guy? wink
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JAXAL JAXAL JAXAL!!!!!!!!
HOW WILL THIS END???
Majidah
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No sweet LoteTree not just any guy.
I think it's got something to do with whipping Jaxal.I am glad to hear that Tahira -)
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Hi Guys,
Here's a piece of news I came across today.
The outcome of an arranged marriage.evilNovember 22, 2005 Deccan Herald
Greed for dowry claims a life on Ramzan feast
DH News Service Bangalore
For Noor Jaan alias Jelu (22), the day of Ramzan festival turned out to be a day of starvation and torture in the hands of her sadistic husband Shoukath Ali.For Noor Jaan alias Jelu (22), the day of Ramzan festival turned out to be a day of starvation and torture in the hands of her sadistic husband Shoukath Ali. She arranged for the feast after borrowing some money from her brother. When she served the food to Ali (25) who expected her to be starving when he returned, he set her ablaze and sat on the cot with her seven-month old child watching her burn. He guffawed when she writhed with pain and asked her ?Are you enjoying it??.
She narrated this to the police and Dr M Shankarappa at Victoria Hospital before her death on Sunday. She battled for life for nearly a fortnight in three hospitals.
Jelu had married Ali 21 months ago. She stayed with her in-laws in J J Nagar during the initial days of her marriage, where her in-laws -Shamsunnisa, Suban Saab, Yaseen and Keshar started harassing her for dowry. Husband Ali even set all her clothes on fire dubbing them as ?cheap?. Jelu lodged a complaint with JJ Nagar police when her sister-in-law Keshar burnt her hand with a heated knife.
But the police settled the dispute and Ali and Jelu started living separately in a rented house at Gangondanahalli. However, the torture did not stop.
He started forcing her to get Rs 50,000 from her parents, which she failed to arrange. He punished her by keeping her starved on the day of Ramzan feast. Jelu?s brother Salim, who visited her gave her Rs 50 and a new salwar kameez.
Ali who was enraged by this, assaulted her and set her ablaze after bolting the door from inside. She broke open the door and ran out screaming for help.
The neighbours admitted her to a private hospital. Chandra Layout police have registered a case of murder against Ali and dowry harassment against Jelu?s in-laws.
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Peacefulmuslim
That article sickens me. The poor girl, I could just imagine what she must have gone through when she realised what he was about to do with her.
Where was her family when all this was going on?
I bet they are just like the rest of the parents in the world that force their daughters to get married and then turn away blindly when the poor girls need help.
They should get punished too for ignoring her.