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Beating wife theory is negated by Qur'aan=4:34

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    No longer a Sunna-rejecter
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    Peace Q_s,

    Shabbir Ahmed is good for nothing as far as Quran is concerned.

    Says who?

    First step in the remedies described is "admonishing" so this 3rd step remedy cannot mean "admonishing".

    Admonish
    To warn or notify of a fault; to reprove gently or kindly, but seriously; to exhort.
    To counsel against wrong practices; to caution or advise; to warn against danger or an offense; ? followed by of, against, or a subordinate clause.
    To instruct or direct; to inform; to notify.

    Example

    Something that is representative of all such things in a group.
    Something that serves to illustrate or explain a rule.
    Something that serves as a pattern of behaviour to be imitated (a good example) or not to be imitated (a bad example).
    "Learn from me, if not by my precepts, then at least by my example, how dangerous is the acquirement of knowledge" - Mary Shelley, Frankenstein
    A person punished as a warning to others.
    A parallel or closely similar case, especially when serving as a precedent or model.
    An instance (as a problem to be solved) serving to illustrate the rule or precept or to act as an exercise in the application of the rule.

    "admonish them with more examples"...

    a. is in line with the meaning of "idribuhunne"
    b. fits the context well
    c. is initially the same as "punish them otherwise"

    Think about it.

    I am no longer a Sunna-rejecter. See 4:59-65, 62:2-4, 3:31, 4:156, 7:157 Messenger teaches and is to be followed and obeyed. Examples of revelation received which is not in the Qur'an: 3:123-126, 33:37, 2:187, 66:3, 62:9.

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      Samia
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      Peace

      Exposition by G A Pervaiz

      first admonish the women, then, if required, separate them temporarily from their husbands, or intern them, and finally, if necessary, punish them otherwise.

      http//www.tolueislam.com/Parwez/expo/expo_004.htm

      Regards

      Is this supposed to be a response to my question?

      How does "dharaba" become "punish"? Can you find such a meaning in classical arabic dictionaries?
      The translator simply couldn't say "strike them/beat them up", because he will have to say which part of the body and with what, and even then, it will no more be "dharaba", but "latama", sakka", rafasa"...many many words. The meaning "strike/beat" does not stand for "dharaba" by itself. Every strike or "dharba" has a diffrent word, depending on what part to strike and using what. The verb "dharaba" by itself means to strike with a sword, cane or whip; and this is from all arabic dictionaries. That's what they say in the beginning of the entry Dharaba known. I donot think "strike" in such ambiguity would be described as "known", but fighting and killing is.

      Also, who will punish her? The husband? he is the victim, the prosecutor, the judge and the executer? nope
      The community? Why punish her, then go for the mediation/court? nope

      It is more "value for money", to borrow the market's expression, for the wife to go straight for a full relation and the husband cannot lay a hand on her (246)

      As for those who accuse their spouses but have no witnesses except themselves; let the testimony of one of them be four testimonies, (swearing) by Allah that he/she is of those who speak the truth;

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        Is this supposed to be a response to my question?

        How does "dharaba" become "punish"? Can you find such a meaning in classical arabic dictionaries?
        The translator simply couldn't say "strike them/beat them up", because he will have to say which part of the body and with what, and even then, it will no more be "dharaba", but "latama", sakka", rafasa"...many many words. The meaning "strike/beat" does not stand for "dharaba" by itself. Every strike or "dharba" has a diffrent word, depending on what part to strike and using what. The verb "dharaba" by itself means to strike with a sword, cane or whip; and this is from all arabic dictionaries. That's what they say in the beginning of the entry Dharaba known. I donot think "strike" in such ambiguity would be described as "known", but fighting and killing is.

        Also, who will punish her? The husband? he is the victim, the prosecutor, the judge and the executer? nope
        The community? Why punish her, then go for the mediation/court? nope

        It is more "value for money", to borrow the market's expression, for the wife to go straight for a full relation and the husband cannot lay a hand on her (246)

        As for those who accuse their spouses but have no witnesses except themselves; let the testimony of one of them be four testimonies, (swearing) by Allah that he/she is of those who speak the truth;

        Peace
        MUHAMMAD ASAD

        And as for those women whose ill-will44 you have reason to fear, admonish them ; then leave them alone in bed; then beat them;45 and if thereupon they pay you heed, do not seek to harm them. Behold, God is indeed most high, great!

        HIS EXPLANATORY NOTE

        45 It is evident from many authentic Traditions that the Prophet himself intensely detested
        the idea of beating one's wife, and said on more than one occasion, "Could any of you beat his
        wife as he would beat a slave, and then lie with her in the evening?" (Bukhari and Muslim).
        According to another Tradition, he forbade the beating of any woman with the words, "Never
        beat God's handmaidens" (Abu Da'ud, Nasa'i, Ibn Majah, Ahmad ibn Hanbal, Ibn Hibban and
        Hakim, on the authority of Iyas ibn 'Abd Allah; Ibn Hibban, on the authority of 'Abd Allah
        ibn 'Abbas; and Bayhaqi, on the authority of Umm Kulthum). When the above Qur'an-verse
        authorizing the beating of a refractory wife was revealed, the Prophet is reported to have
        said "I wanted one thing, but God has willed another thing - and what God has willed must
        be best" (see Manar V, 74). With all this, he stipulated in his sermon on the occasion of
        the Farewell Pilgrimage, shortly before his death, that beating should be resorted to only
        if the wife "has become guilty, in an obvious manner, of immoral conduct", and that it should
        be done "in such a way as not to cause pain (ghayr mubarrih)"; authentic Traditions to this
        effect are found in Muslim, Tirmidhi, Abu Da'ud, Nasa'i and Ibn Majah. On the basis of these
        Traditions, all the authorities stress that this "beating", if resorted to at all, should
        be more or less symbolic - "with a toothbrush, or some such thing" (Tabari, quoting the
        views of scholars of the earliest times), or even "with a folded handkerchief" (Razi); and
        some of the greatest Muslim scholars (e.g., Ash-Shafi'i) are of the opinion that it is just
        barely permissible, and should preferably be avoided and they justify this opinion by the
        Prophet's personal feelings with regard to this problem.

        Regards

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          nsws1988
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          So prophet Mohammed beat his slaves?
          And you can beat your wife with a toothbrush? How can you beat someone up without causing any pain?

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            So prophet Mohammed beat his slaves?
            And you can beat your wife with a toothbrush? How can you beat someone up without causing any pain?

            I don't think he beat slaves, he'd set them free!

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              I don't think he beat slaves, he'd set them free!

              I'm sure he did

              I was referring to this hadith Could any of you beat his
              wife as he would beat a slave, and then lie with her in the evening

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                Beating is humiliation, no matter how, from the moment a hand is raised. Try do it to a child, just touching them with one finger. They will burst crying, not because it was painful, but because they know you are angry and are punishing them.

                Moreover, why respond to me with the silly traditionalist justification? Where does it say in the verse (lightly) or with anything? Just as I guessed, they water down their sick explanation by adding mitigating words to the verse such as "lightly", "not painful", "with a handkershief"...his

                With all this, he stipulated in his sermon on the occasion of
                the Farewell Pilgrimage, shortly before his death, that beating should be resorted to only
                if the wife "has become guilty, in an obvious manner, of immoral conduct",

                Does this mean the prophet did know the qur'aan, and could not recollect that the quraan explains what to do in case of the obvious manner of immoral conduct (246)?
                And why are you quoting hadith?

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                  So prophet Mohammed beat his slaves?
                  How can you beat someone up without causing any pain?

                  it is difficult but not impossible. it needs lil practice. peace

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                    No longer a Sunna-rejecter
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                    Peace
                    MUHAMMAD ASAD

                    HIS EXPLANATORY NOTE

                    Regards

                    rotfl looooooooooooool Q_s.... you get mad at me for quoting Hadiths when I mock them bu then quote Hadiths with a silly explanation of a Quarnic verse.

                    I am no longer a Sunna-rejecter. See 4:59-65, 62:2-4, 3:31, 4:156, 7:157 Messenger teaches and is to be followed and obeyed. Examples of revelation received which is not in the Qur'an: 3:123-126, 33:37, 2:187, 66:3, 62:9.

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                      rotfl looooooooooooool Q_s.... you get mad at me for quoting Hadiths when I mock them bu then quote Hadiths with a silly exmplanation of a Quarnic verse.

                      give him another chance he would come with better explanation inshaAllah.

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                        rotfl looooooooooooool Q_s.... you get mad at me for quoting Hadiths when I mock them bu then quote Hadiths with a silly exmplanation of a Quarnic verse.

                        Peace
                        I am not quoting Hadiths. I am quoting "Muhammad Asad".
                        Regards

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                          Peace
                          I am not quoting Hadiths. I am quoting "Muhammad Asad".
                          Regards

                          Are you serious ? confused

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                            Are you serious ? confused

                            Sure
                            Regards

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                              Peace
                              I am not quoting Hadiths. I am quoting "Muhammad Asad".
                              Regards

                              yes that is not same, its different when you quote one of the most latest authorities.

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                                yes that is not same, its different when you quote one of the most latest authorities.

                                HAHAHA

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                                  No longer a Sunna-rejecter
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                                  I am not quoting Hadiths.

                                  Of course not...

                                  I am no longer a Sunna-rejecter. See 4:59-65, 62:2-4, 3:31, 4:156, 7:157 Messenger teaches and is to be followed and obeyed. Examples of revelation received which is not in the Qur'an: 3:123-126, 33:37, 2:187, 66:3, 62:9.

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                                    Is this supposed to be a response to my question?

                                    How does "dharaba" become "punish"? Can you find such a meaning in classical arabic dictionaries?
                                    The translator simply couldn't say "strike them/beat them up", because he will have to say which part of the body and with what, and even then, it will no more be "dharaba", but "latama", sakka", rafasa"...many many words. The meaning "strike/beat" does not stand for "dharaba" by itself.

                                    Salaam,

                                    what do you think about 273 and 3793 in these verses there is no mention of any specific part of body

                                    http//www.submission.org/efarsi/arabic/Surat2_files/2_73.gif

                                    http//www.submission.org/efarsi/arabic/Surat37_files/37_93.gif

                                    I havn't seen any example where darb mean "beat" without mentioning of "with what" so you seem right about that though.

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                                      No longer a Sunna-rejecter
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                                      Salaam,

                                      what do you think about 273 and 3793 in these verses there is no mention of any specific part of body

                                      I havn't seen any example where darb mean "beat" without mentioning of "with what" so you seem right about that though.

                                      That is truly a very interesting observation. This alone would prove that "idribuhunne" in 434 does not say "beat them".

                                      I am no longer a Sunna-rejecter. See 4:59-65, 62:2-4, 3:31, 4:156, 7:157 Messenger teaches and is to be followed and obeyed. Examples of revelation received which is not in the Qur'an: 3:123-126, 33:37, 2:187, 66:3, 62:9.

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                                        No longer a Sunna-rejecter
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                                        Most Christians believe in one God, they just get a little confused with this trinity thing (which, of course was not in the early Christian Church, was put there by the Church of Rome about 900 years ago)

                                        Actually, that happened a bit less than 1700 years ago.

                                        I am no longer a Sunna-rejecter. See 4:59-65, 62:2-4, 3:31, 4:156, 7:157 Messenger teaches and is to be followed and obeyed. Examples of revelation received which is not in the Qur'an: 3:123-126, 33:37, 2:187, 66:3, 62:9.

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                                          Salaam,

                                          what do you think about 273 and 3793 in these verses there is no mention of any specific part of body

                                          http//www.submission.org/efarsi/arabic/Surat2_files/2_73.gif

                                          http//www.submission.org/efarsi/arabic/Surat37_files/37_93.gif

                                          I havn't seen any example where darb mean "beat" without mentioning of "with what" so you seem right about that though.

                                          Peace ;
                                          Brother ! your observation is not correct.It is not essential to describe the "weapon" with which to do "dharaba".

                                          Regards

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