The Sin of Sodom/ Lot's People
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Greetings and Peace, all group
Doesn't the Koran suggest in places that masturbation and sex acts outside marriage may be permissible? Like the Koran says something about what their right hands possess, which sometimes gets interpreted as concubines or something, but I've always thought about what the right hand could "possess", if you catch my drift.
No, AQ states that if one can't marry a free believer, then one should marry a believer that is not free. This sort of begs the question "What is real marriage?" hmm
Masturbation is not addressed, except perhaps in the Guidance about abstaining from lewdness.
peace
~Abdul-Hadi
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Okay I'm gonna come out with the real question playing on my mind. Thanks for the responses guys. I'm gay, and it's how I am, it's an attraction, and I need to ask.
Can I be gay and Muslim? Is it wrong? Does God forbid it?
A Sunni told me I have no place in Allah's creation and should be killed.
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Okay I'm gonna come out with the real question playing on my mind. Thanks for the responses guys. I'm gay, and it's how I am, it's an attraction, and I need to ask.
Can I be gay and Muslim? Is it wrong? Does God forbid it?
A Sunni told me I have no place in Allah's creation and should be killed.
Being gay or not is not a criteria of faith or charcter. When you talk about faith you must look at how the Koran understand the criteria of faith. The Koran established faith in God and the hereafter as the criteria for faith. It then established righteous deeds like salat, zakat, feeding of the poor, honesty, forgiveness etc as rghteous acts. Those who have faith and are righteous go to heaven.
Surely those who believe, and those who are Jews, and the Christians, and the Sabians, whoever believes in Allah and the Last day and does good, they shall have their reward from their Lord, and there is no fear for them, nor shall they grieve.
2.111-112 And they say "None shall enter Paradise unless he be a Jew or a Christian." Those are their (vain) desires. Say "Produce your proof if ye are truthful." Nay,-whoever submits His whole self to Allah and is a doer of good,- He will get his reward with his Lord; on such shall be no fear, nor shall they grieve
Surely those who believe and those who are Jews and the Sabians and the Christians whoever believes in Allah and the last day and does good-- they shall have no fear nor shall they grieve
Anyone who works righteousness, male or female, while believing, we will surely grant them a happy life in this world, and we will surely pay them their full recompense (on the Day of Judgment) for their righteous works
So the Koran does not care what religious community you come from, whether Muslim, Jewish or Christian. What it cares about is faith in God and the hereafter.
This then leaves us with the issue of whether being homosexual goes against righteousness. However homosexuality is one issue a person can have, it says nothing whether he is a believer or a person of good character. One sin or one lifestyle issue does not dominate the scale on day of Judgement. So even if we say homosexuality is a sin, it can not be a grave sin. A person can be a homsexual and he is a disbeliever, rude, arrogant, stingy and vengeful and a person can be a homosexual and faithfull, kind, generous and God fearing.
So saying a person who is gay can not be a Muslim is impossible unless you are either saying that being gay means you can not believe in God and the hereafter or being gay means you have an evil character. There is no proof of that.
I think for Koranist the issue is whether homosexuality is a sin or not. It may not be the sin that will lead to hell fire but there are many such sins like occasional lying, or occasional stealing that also do not lead to hell fire.
The issue that lead to hell fire in the Koran are polytheism, stinginess especially towards the needy, injustice, denying truth, creating conflicts between people, arrogant, murder, lying while swearing by God, and adultery. These sins are specifically mentioned in the Koran as the chartacter of the poeple of hell. Only repentance from them can prevent retribution on Judgement day.
It is far worse to be stingy towards the needy than to be gay.
Right hand possess (Ma Malakat Aymanukum) in a concubine which in the Bible means a relationship established by oath only and without dowry or engagement. Hagar was a concubine. A concubine in Biblical sense has the same rights as a wife, except she has nop financial protection as a wife does since no dowry was paid.
Among the Israelites, men commonly acknowledged their concubines, and such women enjoyed the same rights in the house as legitimate wives. The principal difference in the Bible between a wife and a concubine is that wives had dowries, while concubines did not.
The concubine may have commanded the same respect and inviolability as the wife. The Hebrew word used in the Levitical rules on sexual relations, which is commonly translated as "wife", is distinct from the Hebrew word that means "concubine". (However, on at least one other occasion it is used to refer a woman who is not a wife - specifically, the handmaid of Jacob's wife.) In the Levitical code, sexual intercourse between a man and a wife of a different man was forbidden and punishable by death for both persons involved. The Bible notes several incidents of intercourse between a man and another man's concubine, and none of them result in capital punishment for either party, although the man to whom the concubine belonged was dishonored by such a relationship. For instance, David is portrayed as having been dishonoured when his concubines had a sexual relationship with his son Absalom. However, this instance is as likely dishonoring to David because it involves a form of incest, as David's concubines would have been somewhat like step-mothers to David's children.
Since it was regarded as the highest blessing to have many children, legitimate wives often gave their maids to their husbands to atone, at least in part, if they were barren, as in the cases of Sarah and Hagar, Rachel and Bilhah. The children of the concubine had equal rights with those of the legitimate wife; for example, King Abimelech was the son of Gideon and his concubine. Later biblical figures such as Gideon, David, and Solomon had concubines in addition to many childbearing wives. For example, the Books of Kings says that Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines.
In Judaism
In Judaism, concubines are referred to by the Hebrew term pilegesh. The term is a non-Hebrew, non-Semitic loanword deriving from the Greek word pallakis, Greek , meaning a mistress staying in house. Or the Aramaic phrase palga isha, meaning half-wife.
According to the Babylonian Talmud, the difference between a concubine and a full wife was that the latter received a marriage contract (Hebrewketubah) and her marriage (nissu'in) was preceded by a formal betrothal (erusin), neither being the case for a concubine. But, one opinion in the Jerusalem Talmud argues that the concubine should also receive a marriage contract, but without including a clause specifying a divorce settlement.
http//en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ConcubinageSunnis and Shias believe a MMA is a slave who a Muslim can have sex with whenever he feels. They believe that a female prsioner of war can be sold as a slave and that the person who owns her can have sex with her. This is clear cut rape and nothing else. These are the kinds of thigs that can get you into hell and not homsexuality.
So you can tell this Sunni friends of yours who said a gay can not be a Muslim, why is raping female prsioners Islam while two male adults having sex by their free will is not Islam. The issue that differentiate the two situations is freedom. I don't know about you but I would rather face God as a homosexual than a slave trader and a rapist and abuser of female prisoners.
(Pharaoh) said "Did we not cherish thee as a child among us, and didst thou not stay in our midst many years of thy life? "And thou didst a deed of thine which (thou knowest) thou didst, and thou art an ungrateful (wretch)!" Moses said "I did it then, when I was in error. "So I fled from you (all) when I feared you; but my Lord has (since) invested me with judgment (and wisdom) and appointed me as one of the messengers. "And this is the favour with which thou dost reproach me,- that thou hast enslaved the Children of Israel!" [Qur'an 2618-22
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I do not believe in this division beteween homo, hetero, bi... It is a labelling assuming certain thins which are not proved and without going into depth as to what conditions one thing or the other, even promiscuity...
Sex mostly is in the mind, and the mind is conditioned by many emotional events. I think we are being cheated out of finding out more about human character and behaivour thnak to the very expeditive procedure of labelling a, b, c... Many persons can feel inclined to many things, sexually too, and that doesn't force them into any pattern, except that they decide or assume that they should fit some pattern.
Salaam
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Well its not so easy for me to deny the distinction when its about my attraction. I cannot really flick a light switch on and decide to like women.
Anyhow, that's what I do now, as a Christian @bigmo. I try to follow what Jesus taught through love, charity, kindness, etc. I feel like Christianity is where I belong right now, unless something changes.
I can only do what I feel like God wants me to do. I know that before I embraced Christianity and also started practicing some in my Jewish background, I was in severe idolotry. I was believing Pantheism, which means I basically made God myself.
I had to repent of that, I really did.
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There is a reason for everything, just that and why is the most human question that exists. It seems that putting a name or a label to anything ends the questions and the whys... Fine with me, whoever wants to do that. For me the question does not end there.
Salaam
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Greetings and Peace, all group
5332 They avoid major sins and lewdness, except for minor offences. Your Lord is with vast forgiveness. He has been fully aware of you since He initiated you from the earth, and while you were embryos in the wombs of your mothers. Therefore, do not ascribe purity to yourselves; He is fully aware of the righteous.
peace
~Abdul-Hadi
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Note that Lot's wife, a woman, is included among the people. It is quite a stretch to claim that the women and children were homosexuals!
It's also quite a strech to claim that it was only about male rape, since Lot's wife, a women was among the people. Was she, the other and children all male rapists too?.
However Why were the women and children destroyed? Collateral damage? <I don't think so!> If they were "collateral damage", it MUST be okay for people to attack targets without regard to collateral damage, as shown by the example of the people of Lot!
Good question, why were the women and children destroyed becuase of a few male rapists?. I spose it MUST also be okay to kill all women and children all becuase a few men tried to rape other men.
6164 Say "Shall I seek other than GOD as a Lord when He is the Lord of everything?" And every soul earns what is for it, and none will carry the burden of another. Then to your Lord is your return and He will inform you of what you disputed in
I agree with this verse. So why then why would a just GOD (which GOD is) destroy a whole city (of Lots people) all be a few people in it wanted to rape the messengers/angel that came to his house?.
Salaam brother,
Please take a look at these verses to understand better
1174 So when the shock left Abraham, and the good news was delivered to him, he began to argue with Us for the people of Lot.
1175 Abraham was compassionate, kind, obedient.
1176 "O Abraham, turn away from this. The command of your Lord has been passed, and a retribution that will not be turned back is coming for them."2931 And when Our messengers came to Abraham with good news, they said "We are to destroy the people of such a town, for its people have been wicked."
2932 He said "But Lot is in it!" They said "We are fully aware of who is in it. We will save him and his AHL, except his wife; she is of those doomed."Who are the AHL of Lot?
To understand better who are the AHL of a certain person please take a look at the next verses2176 And Noah when he called out before that, thus We responded to him, and We saved him and his AHL from the great distress.
Allah knows exactly who the AHL of Noah are. Even Noah himself doesn't know.
1145 And Noah called on his Lord, and he said "My Lord, my son is from my AHL, and your promise is the truth, and you are the Wisest of all Judges."
1146 He said "O Noah, he is not from your AHL, he was of an unrighteous deed, so do not ask what you have no knowledge of. I advise you not to be of the ignorant."
1147 He said "My Lord, I seek refuge with You from asking You what I do not have knowledge of. And if You do not forgive me and have mercy on me, I will be of the losers!"Everyone from the AHL of Lot were saved, the ones who were not saved were not from his AHL, see 2932.
Also please note the word THALIMEEN used in 2931 which is translated as wicked, it doesn't mean homosexuality.If there were childeren and women and men who where not thalimeen then they were saved as they are of the AHL of Lot. AHL does not mean family, see 2176. The people who were with Noah on the boat were his AHL his son and his wife not.
If you still doubt about little childeren, it never says something about childeren in the town, see also what Ibrahim says, he never mentions childeren.
But even if there were childeren in that place, Allah is full aware of who there are. Please read the next verses1874 So they ventured forth until they came upon a youth, and he killed him. He said "Have you killed an innocent person without justice? You have done something awful!"
1875 He said "Did I not tell you that you will not be able to have patience with me?"1880 "And as for the youth, his parents were believers, so we were concerned that he would oppress them by his transgression and disbelief."
1881 "So we wanted their Lord to replace for them with one who is better than him in purity and closer to mercy."Salaam and may Allah increase us in knowledge,
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In AQ 2221 there is no shift in audience. Where else does such a shift occur in AQ? In the few places where females/women are specifically addressed apart from men, they are specially identified. Example
~Abdul-Hadi
Salaam brother,
You are right that there is no shift in audience but who is the audience in the verse?
2221 And do not marry the female polytheists until they believe. For a believing female servant is better than a polytheist even if she attracts you. And do not marry the male polytheists until they believe. For a believing male servant is better than a polytheist even if he attracts you. Those invite to the Fire, while God is inviting to the Paradise and forgiveness by His consent. He clarifies His revelations for the people that they may remember.
Does that mean men only?
Salaam,
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Greetings and Peace, all group
@Bender Both of your posts were insightful reading. handshake sun
I got tunnel vision on the audience in 2221; it appears that you are correct.
peace
~Abdul-Hadi
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Forgive me if I sound defensive, but I never claimed that the people of Lot were destroyed for rape or homosexual acts or any one transgression.
I never said that you did say that but you did say that the verses where GOD is telling Lot to tell his people (the men) not to approach other men sex, as only about male rape and not about homosexuality.
The fact that there are same-sex marriages does not mean that we can say with certainty if ALLAH counts them as marriage or not.
In AQ 2221 there is no shift in audience. Where else does such a shift occur in AQ? In the few places where females/women are specifically addressed apart from men, they are specially identified.
ALLAH knows best.
peace
~Abdul-Hadi
There is a change in the gender of the audience in AQ 2221 because if there isn't then it would contradict these verses
2755 "You are approaching the men out of lust
instead of the women!No, you are an
ignorant people!"If GOD was alright with homosexual intercourse then why would he tell Lot to tell the men of his people that they were ingnorant for approaching the men instead of the women for lust?, meaning the GOD intended for the men to only have sex with their women/wives.
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26165 "Do you approach the males of the
worlds?"
26166 "You leave what your Lord has created
for you of mates? You are an intrusive
people!"Now who are the mates that GOD as created which Lot is telling off his people for leaving if it's not the women?.
How can verse 2221 be allowing same sex marriages, but verses 2755, 26165, 26166 be against men having sex/lust with someone other than or instead of the mates/women that GOD created?.
I think we can both agree that GOD does not contradict himself.
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Notice that the Koran only seems to put that forward in the context of heterosexual men choosing to go with other males. Not in the context of an actual homosexual attracted to other men by their natural makeup. A point you seem hesitant to address. Another point you won't address is it says they leave their wives, which would be adultery.
This is just like people who cite Romans 1 out of context when it comes to the New Testament.
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Notice that the Koran only seems to put that forward in the context of heterosexual men choosing to go with other males. Not in the context of an actual homosexual attracted to other men by their natural makeup. A point you seem hesitant to address. Another point you won't address is it says they leave their wives, which would be adultery.
This is just like people who cite Romans 1 out of context when it comes to the New Testament.
How are those men who leave their wives for other men hetrosexual because if they were they would leave their wives for other women, which is a point you won't address.
Why do you think those verses i posted are only for married men and not for single men also?.
Another point you wont address.I have already adressed the point that sex outside marriage (gay or straight) which also includes adultery, according to the Quran is wrong.
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I just wanted to say I am sorry that someone told you, that you should be killed and that there was no place for your in Islam. That is horrible. Just know that God created you and God truly loves you and has a plan for you. I am not Gay but this is an issue I am still trying to understand myself.
I truly believe that as long as you believe in God, and are a kind, compassionate person you will not have anything to worry about.
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I just wanted to say I am sorry that someone told you, that you should be killed and that there was no place for your in Islam. That is horrible. Just know that God created you and God truly loves you and has a plan for you. I am not Gay but this is an issue I am still trying to understand myself.
I truly believe that as long as you believe in God, and are a kind, compassionate person you will not have anything to worry about.
On the authority of
Abdullah ibnAbbas that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, "If you find anybody committing the act of the People of Lot (i.e. sodomy), then kill the one doing it and the one with whom it is done."This hadith is recorded by Imam Ahmad, Imam Abu Dawud, and Imam At-Tirmidhi among others.This hadith was probably taken from the Old Testament
Leviticus 1822 "And if a man lie with mankind, as with womankind, both of them have committed abomination they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them."
These laws were laid upon the Israelites after they took the calf as a god and were told to take their lives. God forgave them for that sin but instead placed harsh laws on them.
However Ezekiel in the Bible talks about the sins of the people of Lot and he did not mention homosexuality as one of them. In fact he mentioned the very same things I said the Koran said it will detsroy nations over. Homosexuality by itself is really meaningless.
Ezekiel 16
1649 Behold, this was the iniquity of thy sister Sodom, pride, fulness of bread, and abundance of idleness was in her and in her daughters, neither did she strengthen the hand of the poor and needy -
These laws were laid upon the Israelites after they took the calf as a god and were told to take their lives. God forgave them for that sin but instead placed harsh laws on them.
How can you say this when Allah in the Qu'ran, clearly and explicitly says that he never changes his Sunnah? To ascribe such a law to your creator is shameful.
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Just like others said similar things before,
Yes it is the ACT of same-gender intimate relationships that would be spoken of in the negative spectrum...as well as rape/oppression etc
for your case, as being unable to change what you?re attracted to...
It wouldn?t really matter what you are attracted too, whether men, women, or children,
One must practice self control, this would go for everyone
There is a commandment stipulating the GUARDING of your private parts (2430),
This would be for a reason. Notice the word used is ?Guard?, obviously there would be some inclination/desire that we would have to literally ?guard? ourselves from too.You may not be able to change what you?re attracted to, but abstinence would be one of the solutions here, whether homo or hetero gender relationships.
Can you be gay and be muslim?
it would not really matter what you?re attracted to mentally, practice self control and abstinence. This is what i would be doing right now.personally, before having a core belief( i was kind of agnostic), i was attracted to males and maybe females... then i just started to not care and became kind of asexual, and also kind of anti-social and to myself. Nevertheless To say, I started to look into self betterment of myself, learning, being a positive person, doing good things.....then i was kind of hit hard and debased and was on the streets, then out of nowhere i prayed to God for the first time in years, and that's when i became a believer in God again.
yes, i don?t have an intimate life, and personally, i would find more euphoria in striving and doing good deeds and works than intimacy )
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self control and abstinence is not a solution!
It is a kind of self mutilation psychologically, like dying slowly, and that is precisely what the majority of religious mob wants anyway! If they cannot openly kill gays they would induce them to other means of annihilation, and then young gays just self-impose the torture on themselves...
http//www.jaymichaelson.net/does-the-bible-really-call-homosexuality-an-%E2%80%9Cabomination%E2%80%9D/
watch the movies
http//www.imdb.com/title/tt0912583/ The Bible Tells Me So
http//www.imdb.com/title/tt0780046/ Jihad for Love -
Greetings and Peace, all group
self control and abstinence is not a solution!
It is a kind of self mutilation psychologically, like dying slowly, and that is precisely what the majority of religious mob wants anyway! If they cannot openly kill gays they would induce them to other means of annihilation, and then young gays just self-impose the torture on themselves...
http//www.jaymichaelson.net/does-the-bible-really-call-homosexuality-an-%E2%80%9Cabomination%E2%80%9D/
watch the movies
http//www.imdb.com/title/tt0912583/ The Bible Tells Me So
http//www.imdb.com/title/tt0780046/ Jihad for LoveHeterosexuals practice self control by being faithful to their respective spouses and by not having sex before marriage. Is this somehow bad? Why would it be any different for another sexual orientation; is someone of a different orientation somehow exempted from having to practice self control? Homosexuality is not a special kind of license or permit!
What is marriage PRIMARILY, a contract or a commitment? Are there not homosexuals in committed relationships (with same OR different gender)?
Isn't the main purpose of a marriage contract to protect? How are same-sex couples protected by being denied a marriage contract? For the sake of example, is it somehow more fitting if a person were to get a sex-change so that they could marry the gender they changed from? )
The first link had interesting info; it would seem that the Bible is (also) sometimes mistranslated. Oh, and shellfish are hardly "abominations." Homosexuality is exactly as "abominable" as shellfish! sun
ALLAH knows best.
peace
~Abdul-Hadi