Why does God sometimes give us suffering with no way out
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Peace brother Jkhan,
Sorry for the late reply!I agree, I am living a better life than a lot of people (but I do worry for my future because if I didn't have a family to live with then I might not even have a home to live in because I don't earn enough but insha'Allah I will earn more than enough in the future). I don?t really have any diseases as far as I?m aware of but I do have some health problems, but they are manageable thank God.
What?s my job? Never mind, I don?t wanna say but I will insha?Allah get a better one in a different field. Just need some experience (I really lack experience on my CV).
It?s true, I shouldn?t blame God. I should have more patience. Sometimes it gets really hard and I get stuck?.it?s hard to explain. It?s like I get stuck in trying to feel better whilst being in the midst of the horrible experience. You know how there?s some pain and you know exactly how to deal with it even though it hurts? For example, if you hurt yourself i.e. you're bleeding, it hurts but you somehow cope with it mentally because you know exactly what to do- wash it, dry it, put a plaster over the wound. Let it heal, get some rest. That's how you cope even though you feel pain. And then on the other hand, sometimes there?s pain and you haven?t figured out how to deal with it?I felt a bit lost when I wrote this question and I often find a place of comfort mentally/ psychologically even when in pain but on the day I wrote this question, I couldn?t find that place of comfort for hours. I?m not sure if it?s just me or if everyone finds that place of comfort in their mind when going through a struggle. I think I lost hope, maybe that was the problem?maybe I should have sought protection/ refuge from God from the devil. I felt like I was going in circles because my job felt impossible, my boss felt impossible to please professionally speaking.
It?s true God will test us, when you said life is not easy for the believers, I don?t know, maybe it can be easy at least half of the time if we have the right attitude and hope?it does say in the Qur?an that God will give the believers a 'good life' with respect and give the I think disbelievers (or was it rejectors?) a 'hard one/ miserable one'. I remember I went through an agnostic phase and there were times I was so depressed because of the feeling of lack of purpose and uncertainty about life after death. Then when I got over that phase and my faith returned, the depression went away for the most part (even though I still went through sadness on and off which is normal).
I agree, sometimes it seems disbelievers or/and rejectors have an easier way out of their problems if they ignore their morals and just find an immoral solution.
Aww brother, I hope your mother gets better and becomes well insha?Allah May God help you, your sister, your aunt and the rest of your family cope with the situation insha?Allah. May He grant you strength.
I try to be patient but sometimes I don?t even know how to?as far as I know it means to be calm/ persevere/ be resilient etc.
Thank you for the long answer, I appreciate it )
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Peace brother Jkhan,
Sorry for the late reply!I agree, I am living a better life than a lot of people (but I do worry for my future because if I didn't have a family to live with then I might not even have a home to live in because I don't earn enough but insha'Allah I will earn more than enough in the future). I don?t really have any diseases as far as I?m aware of but I do have some health problems, but they are manageable thank God.
What?s my job? Never mind, I don?t wanna say but I will insha?Allah get a better one in a different field. Just need some experience (I really lack experience on my CV).
It?s true, I shouldn?t blame God. I should have more patience. Sometimes it gets really hard and I get stuck?.it?s hard to explain. It?s like I get stuck in trying to feel better whilst being in the midst of the horrible experience. You know how there?s some pain and you know exactly how to deal with it even though it hurts? For example, if you hurt yourself i.e. you're bleeding, it hurts but you somehow cope with it mentally because you know exactly what to do- wash it, dry it, put a plaster over the wound. Let it heal, get some rest. That's how you cope even though you feel pain. And then on the other hand, sometimes there?s pain and you haven?t figured out how to deal with it?I felt a bit lost when I wrote this question and I often find a place of comfort mentally/ psychologically even when in pain but on the day I wrote this question, I couldn?t find that place of comfort for hours. I?m not sure if it?s just me or if everyone finds that place of comfort in their mind when going through a struggle. I think I lost hope, maybe that was the problem?maybe I should have sought protection/ refuge from God from the devil. I felt like I was going in circles because my job felt impossible, my boss felt impossible to please professionally speaking.
It?s true God will test us, when you said life is not easy for the believers, I don?t know, maybe it can be easy at least half of the time if we have the right attitude and hope?it does say in the Qur?an that God will give the believers a 'good life' with respect and give the I think disbelievers (or was it rejectors?) a 'hard one/ miserable one'. I remember I went through an agnostic phase and there were times I was so depressed because of the feeling of lack of purpose and uncertainty about life after death. Then when I got over that phase and my faith returned, the depression went away for the most part (even though I still went through sadness on and off which is normal).
I agree, sometimes it seems disbelievers or/and rejectors have an easier way out of their problems if they ignore their morals and just find an immoral solution.
Aww brother, I hope your mother gets better and becomes well insha?Allah May God help you, your sister, your aunt and the rest of your family cope with the situation insha?Allah. May He grant you strength.
I try to be patient but sometimes I don?t even know how to?as far as I know it means to be calm/ persevere/ be resilient etc.
Thank you for the long answer, I appreciate it
Peace,.. Sarah
How genuine your wording looks... Face the challenge of life dear... Keep going.. i anticipate all believers dua will be upon you ... at least for a better mental situation soon ... Which country you were born? Where are your parents and relatives? Don't you have very close couple of friends who is physically almost always with you to sooth your pain.... I know our wordings from distant won't work like the one who is hanging around with you..
We can't compare ourself with another..,.. we have to march forward with our test.. -
Suffering and adversity
"And what struck/hit you from a disaster so (it is) because (of) what your hands gathered/acquired, and He forgives/pardons on much."
Qur'an repeatedly saying the same thing
"And if We made the people taste/experience mercy, they became happy/delighted with it, and if a sin/crime (harm) hits/strikes them because (of) what their hands advanced/introduced, then they, they despair.""The corruption/disorder appeared/became visible in the shore/land and sea/ocean because (of) what the people's hands earned/gained/acquired to make them taste/experience some/part of what they made/did, maybe/perhaps they return."
"...so if they turned away, so know that what Allah wants that (He) strikes/hits them with some/part (of) their crimes, and indeed many of the people (are) debauchers."
"What struck you from a goodness, so (it is) from at Allah, and what struck you from a sin/crime (harm) so (it is) from yourself, and We sent you to the people, (as) a messenger and enough with Allah, (as) a witness/present."
I think the terms like repent/ seek forgiveness /God is forgiving etc. come hundreds of time in the Qur'an, so it's a very important thing to consider!
Whenever sufferings strike us, just think about your past life and the sins (anything immoral) you committed and seek for forgiveness. This is what I used to do. So the suffering is a punishment and we don't know the exact measurement/extend of the punishment for our sins.
But God is Perfect and so is His punishment/judgement.And in my understanding the severity of the trials in life depends on ones past deeds.
So whatever it is/how painful it is,
...be patient on what struck/hit you...
because,
God does not burden/impose a self except its endurance/capability/what it can bearRemember what prophet Yusuf said after years of imprisonment, that too when he was young -the most energetic time in a human life!
?I am Joseph, and this is my brother. God has been gracious to us. For anyone who reverences and is patient, God will not waste the reward of the good doers.?
and God gave him a higher position/Also think about sufferings of other messengers
e.g. ?Or did you expect that you would enter Paradise, while the example of those who were before you came to you; they were stricken with adversity and hardship, and they were shaken until the messenger and those who believed with him said ?When is the victory of God?...?
Always keep in mind that God is seeing /knowing everything, and all suffering comes with His permission
And God is,Is God not the most judicious of the judges/rulers?
So be patient to the judgment of God, our Lord.
Suffering of beloved ones,
Many of us may have the experiences of suffering of beloved ones with extreme pain/ difficulty. Qur'an gives an example of Prophet Nooh and his son,
- And Noah called on his Lord, and he said ?My Lord, my son is from my family, and your promise is the truth, and you are the Wisest of all Judges.?
- He said ?O Noah, he is not from your family, he was of an unrighteous deed, so do not ask what you have no knowledge of. I advise you not to be of the ignorant.?
See a different case
The example of the Prophet Moses when he met a knowledgeable slave of God, and he killed a boy then Prophet Moses questioned him.
So they left / ventured forth until they came upon a boy, and he killed him. He (Moses)said ?Have you killed an innocent person without justice? You have done something awful!?
Later he clarified the reason to Moses,
?And as for the boy, his parents were believers, so we were concerned that he would oppress them by his transgression and disbelief.?
Even Moses questioned / argued that the boy was pure/innocent! (just like we do).
And in the cases like babies get killed in Palestine, Africa etc. if those souls are innocent, GOD -THE MOST MERCIFUL -THE PERFECT JUDGE -THE ONE WHO brought them into this world - can prevent any suffering to those souls just like HE saved Abraham from the fire,
We said ?O fire, be cool and safe upon Abraham.?
So in my understanding they are not suffering, their cries/expressions/physical wounds etc. are the punishment to their parents/guardians /relatives -they are the actual sufferers here.
And I believe that If man is absolutely sinless, then he will not suffer even the pain of a mosquito bite, he will not have any pain/ difficulty /discomfort in his life and his provision will be provided by God like He provided for Mary,
?...Every time Zachariah entered upon her in the enclosure/Al Mihrab, he found provisions with her. He said ?O Mary, from where did you get this?? She said ?It is from God, that God provides for whom He wishes without reckoning.?
?And if God punishes/takes the people because of their transgression, He would not have left on it a single creature. But He delays them to a determined time; so when their time comes, they do not delay by an hour and they do not advance.
And if God were to punish the people for what they have earned, He would not have left on its surface/top a single creature. But He delays them to an appointed term. So, when their time comes, then God is Seer of His servants.