Arranged Marriages are an INJUSTICE?
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Arranged marriage is a sad reality.
A reality based on falsehood!
So no one LOVES in Saudi Arabia?
Regards,
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Arranged marriages is the only way to get married here.
they don't exist here.
Marriage is a personal thing here, no parents would dare to interfere. They will give some advice of course and some opinion but from outside., the work is done before it is believed that it is impossible to choose someone who won't be accepted by the parents if the girl or the boy gets along with them, with the parents, because the preferences will be the same, the values, the likes and dislikes.
This has been the way for me, for my parents, for my grand parents, (for my great grand parents I don't know) and it will be the same for my children.
Besides, it is not ok here to think of marriage too soon after meeting the other person, it would be considered selfish and to get married without knowing the other person well would be considered a crazy thing.
I'm afraid we don't enjoy that right here.
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Hi Sis Taj,
Arranged marriage is a sad reality.
A reality based on falsehood!
So no one LOVES in Saudi Arabia?
I don't know if true love between a man and a woman exists here.
Well, Sis Taj, it does exsist and thats what marriage should be all about. Its not just 'making children'. Marriage should be 'companionship for life bound by love and respect'
But I understand. Arranged marriage is the norm in most societies. Our families and society has not seen even a single love marriage. Thats why iArranged marriage is the sad reality. -
Our families and society has not seen even a single love marriage. Thats why iArranged marriage is the sad reality.
Yes, thats terrible - what about the writers in your country - do they not write about love?
Regards,
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Hi Lotetree,
Hey, the movies made are only(99% of the time) about love stories. That an irony, aint it?
Its just 'its not the done thing' And if u diasgree........
U r disrepectful, selfish, disobedient, irresponsible etc....
'Love' is for the movies and books.
And I am not from Saudi. And by 'our family' I meant, the society I come from.
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Hi Lotetree,
Hey, the movies made are only(99% of the time) about love stories. That an irony, aint it? )Because LOVE means so much to us even though we continually fail to have LOVE in our lives?
Its just 'its not the done thing' And if u diasgree........
U r disrepectful, selfish, disobedient, irresponsible etc....Perhaps there needs to be an peaceful LOVE REVOLUTION in those societies?
'Love' is for the movies and books.
Yes that too...but there is LOVE in real life too?
And I am not from Saudi. And by 'our family' I meant, the society I come from.
Peace!My appologies...
If not LOVE then perhaps there needs to be a revolution in those societies so that people can at least choose their own marriage partners?
Is LOVE that SELFISH?
Is LOVE a CRIME?
If not why these societies are viewing it as such?
Regards,
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hi Lotetree,
Perhaps there needs to be an peaceful LOVE REVOLUTION in those societies?
Easier said than done, aint it?
Yes that too...but there is LOVE in real life too?
Everyone knows what 'love' is. But most often, parents do not think its any important for a lasting relationship.
If not LOVE then perhaps there needs to be a revolution in those societies so that people can at least choose their own marriage partners?
Is LOVE that SELFISH?
Is LOVE a CRIME?
If not why these societies are viewing it as such?
,Well, I understand what u mean. Its not simple to get parents of one, to understand that. And then, the families are knitten in a society framework which doesnt approve of love marriages either. And to convince the whole society, is not an easy deal.The main reason ,I suppose, is they dont know better than what they have known. And they have not known 'love marriage'. So, they think, it cant be any good.
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hi Lotetree,
Perhaps there needs to be an peaceful LOVE REVOLUTION in those societies?
Easier said than done, aint it?
Lets start it now -)
Yes that too...but there is LOVE in real life too?
Everyone knows what 'love' is. But most often, parents do not think its any important for a lasting relationship.
I don't know what LOVE is PM even as a poet I continually struggle to understand what LOVE means. Everyone knows what LOVE is? I think not. See the diversity of views on the many LOVE THREADS that has been created. Everyone is trying to understand what LOVE means...and I do too all the time...
Well, I understand what u mean. Its not simple to get parents of one, to understand that. And then, the families are knitten in a society framework which doesnt approve of love marriages either. And to convince the whole society, is not an easy deal.The main reason ,I suppose, is they dont know better than what they have known. And they have not known 'love marriage'. So, they think, it cant be any good.
Perhaps time has come for the FRAMEWORK of the society to change....it only takes FEW brave individuals to stand up and say I want LOVE -)
And I will be behind all those individuals - cheering them on...Why is it so WRONG to CHOOSE your own partner?
Why make it so WRONG?Regards,
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SaLaM LT
If not LOVE then perhaps there needs to be a revolution in those societies so that people can at least choose their own marriage partners?
Is LOVE that SELFISH?
Is LOVE a CRIME?
No LT dear old chap. Love is a figment of our imagination created by us so that we dont feel NOT so special.
To quote someone, "love is like money. It runs out after time".
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SaLaM LT
If not LOVE then perhaps there needs to be a revolution in those societies so that people can at least choose their own marriage partners?
Is LOVE that SELFISH?
Is LOVE a CRIME?
No LT dear old chap. Love is a figment of our imagination created by us so that we dont feel NOT so special.
Her Eyes are NOT like the delphenium blue of the sky
And yet why do I feel this way?Her Lips are NOT like the red of the roses
And yet why do I feel this way?Her Smile is NOT that of a beauty queen
And yet why do I feel this way?Her Shape is NOT like a catwalk model
And yet why do I feel this way?Whatever it is Jaxal, let me EXPERIENCE IT MORE!!! wink
Regards,
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BE THE LOVE GENERATION.... lol
Lets fly the flag of LOVE REVOLUTION -)
http//www.justforfunflags.com/Merchant2/graphics/00000001/NG62226_LoveHrt.jpg
!!!! LOVE REVOLUTION NOW !!!!**
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Regards,
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Salam everyone,
After failing two times after years of marriage I said to my mom that I promise the next one she is going to decide whom I am going to marry since she always knew from the start that we are going to fail... So the next one has to stand the test with my strict mother D
I think parents do know their kids quite well and so they are able to evaluate who is fits for them and who doesn't. But this does not mean at all that I prefer arranged marriages. In fact I believe that many marriages in the muslim society hold because women have such a bad status as a divorced women be in justice or in reputation.
As about the movies, it's the same with the songs When you are unhappily in love you can find hundreds of good, dramatic, desperate love songs in which he doesn't get her and she doesn't get him because of arranged marriages or other reason that forbid more meetings with the loved one so what is left is only the sweet memory.... Almost everybody knows the unfullfilled love so everybody understands these songs and suffers with the artist.
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I think parents do know their kids quite well and so they are able to evaluate who is fits for them and who doesn't.
Parents may know their own kids, but do they know the other one? Also, sometimes, parents try to project their own thoughts and fears onto their children, forgetting the child is a different individual from them.