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Arranged Marriages are an INJUSTICE?

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    Tahira
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    Lote Tree

    You'd definetly get an A+ for being witty.

    Maybe you could give Jaxal some lessons too.

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      unknownuser
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      Playing safe, hah? wink
      Looks like u have learnt the lessons/secrets of the trade scholar
      Jaxal, still is

      Because My Teacher was a Women -) - a lot younger than me -)
      And yet she had far more wisdom than I would ever acquire in my whole life time... -)

      But arrange marriage or not - it is always HARD to live with an another individual on a permanent basis...(just going back to the topic wink

      Regards,

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        Prince
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        But arrange marriage or not - it is always HARD to live with an another individual on a permanent basis...(just going back to the topic wink

        Regards,

        Salaam Lote Tree

        I'm with you on that brother. I sometimes think it will be weird living with another individual on a permanent basis due to the fact if I don't find someone on my level then I can't see how a long term marriage will remain. Physical attraction fades but its that personality that keeps you attached together.

        About the whipping though. dayyyyyyyymmm, poor Jaxal man lol Ladies just whip him on the ass it will be less painful than the back or elsewhere wink lol

        PEACE

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          unknownuser
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          I sometimes think it will be weird living with another individual on a permanent basis due to the fact if I don't find someone on my level then I can't see how a long term marriage will remain.

          Thats the whole tricky point, aint it?

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            unknownuser
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            Hi all,
            Here's some humour on men vs women. from a guy's perspective

            22 RULES LADS WISH GIRLS KNEW......

            1.If you think you're fat, you probably are - don't ask us.
            2.Learn to work the toilet seat, if it's up, put it down.
            3.Birthdays, Valentines, and Anniversaries are not quests to see if
            we can find the perfect present once again.
            4.If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, expect an
            answer you don't want to hear.
            5.Sometimes, we're not thinking about you. Live with it.
            6.Sunday sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the
            tides. It can't be altered so just leave it be.
            7.Shopping is not a sport.
            8.Christopher Columbus didn't need directions, and neither do we.
            9.Anything you wear is fine. Really.
            10.You have enough clothes.
            11You have too many shoes
            12. Ask for what you want. Subtle hints don't work
            13.No, we don't know what day it is. We never will. Mark
            anniversaries on a calendar.
            14.Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
            15Most guys own 2 or 3 pairs of shoes - what makes you think we'd be
            any good at choosing which pair out of 30 would look good with your
            dress?
            16. "Yes" and "no" are perfectly acceptable answers
            17.Your mum doesn't have to be our best friend.
            18."Offside" is a term from physics and refers to subatomic particles.
            19.Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument.
            All comments become null and void after 7 days.
            20.You can either ask us to do something OR tell us how you want it
            done, not both.
            21.If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the
            ways makes you sad or angry, we really meant the other one.
            22.Women wearing Wonderbras and low-cut blouses lose their right to
            complain about having their boobs stared at.

            Peace all! lol

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              Hi all,
              Here's some humour on men vs women. ) from a guy's perspective

              22 RULES LADS WISH GIRLS KNEW......

              again a helping hand? thats very generous of you again wink

              Regards,

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                unknownuser
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                Hi all,
                Here's some humour on men vs women. ) from a guy's perspective
                22 RULES LADS WISH GIRLS KNEW......

                again a helping hand? thats very generous of you again wink

                A little bit of humour never harms )
                Men and Women outbeat each other in doing strange, silly things.
                What better way than to laugh it out. wink

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                  unknownuser
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                  Hi all,
                  Here's some humour on men vs women. ) from a guy's perspective
                  22 RULES LADS WISH GIRLS KNEW......

                  again a helping hand? thats very generous of you again wink

                  A little bit of humour never harms )
                  Men and Women outbeat each other in doing strange, silly things.
                  What better way than to laugh it out. wink

                  Hey I am for all that -)
                  But I thought you being a women would have posted something from a women's perspective...thats why I said you have been very generous wink

                  Regards,

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                    Tahira
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                    salam people

                    2 pac -Notts. What do you mean when you say someone on your level, isn't that like saying someone just like you or a female version of you. That would be kind of weird won't it, a female version of 2pac-Notts. shock
                    What is your level anyway ?

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                      Tahira
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                      Has anyone seen Jaxal? scared

                      Have we scared him off? scared

                      Jaxal please come back i'm starting to miss your annoying little remarks, and the way you wind up the other members with your silly questions.

                      Come back little brother. there Can i call him little? How old is he?

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                        unknownuser
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                        Hi Tahira
                        Has anyone seen Jaxal? scared

                        Have we scared him off? scared

                        Jaxal please come back i'm starting to miss your annoying little remarks, and the way you wind up the other members with your silly questions.

                        Come back little brother. there Can i call him little? How old is he?

                        Looks like he did get scared rotfl
                        He seems to be avoiding this thread, in particular. D
                        BTW, he is 21.

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                          Tahira
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                          Salam peacefulmuslim

                          Always Nice to have you online.

                          I was feeling a bit low today, was talking to a friend on the phone and she was having a nice (arranged) married life till HER brother divorced HIS (her hubbies) sister.
                          Now he wants to get revenge for his sister from her.

                          Why do parents keep doing this to their kids when they know the outcome of marriges arranged this way where one guy marrys the other guys sister then the other guy marrys his sister.
                          His parents are pushing him to get revenge for his sister from my friend and she has 6 kids too.
                          To top it up, He goes to read Jummah and comes back home with all these quotes that have been preached there from Hadith. Then he uses those quotes to make here life miserable.
                          The recent one hes come home with is that Hes been told that he is allowed to have affairs with other women because our Prophet(PBUH) had an affair with an unmarried woman and had illegitimate children from her. He tells her this is what the Quran + Hadith says and confuses her into thinking they are the same thing. So obviously she doesn't question what he has learnt at mosque.
                          All I can do is comfort her and try to convince her hes lying.

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                            SwedenMajidah
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                            Salaam girls and maybe some of you men D

                            He he much have happen since this morning lol

                            Hmn I have thought about Jaxal and this whipping punishment, I don't know but I have heard a bird whispered that he like to be whipped maybe some kind of sex thing D

                            So then this will not be a punishment for him but rather a pleasure shock

                            So are we so kind to give him a pleasure!!?? ?

                            Peace Sis Majidah

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                              Tahira
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                              Salam SM

                              Let me try and understand roll

                              Does this mean when Jaxal goes to heaven His 70 ladies wil be waiting to welcome him, woo him and then whip him.

                              So hell wouldn't be such a bad place after all. twisted

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                                Jaxal
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                                SaLaM PM and SM and Tahira (and any other female who wants to whip me for their evil twisted pleasure loooolll )

                                I have one sentence for you all

                                No doubt you will try... and no doubt you will fail.

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                                  Tahira
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                                  Jaxal

                                  We can't stand your pathetic,corny macho remarks....But your so adorable.

                                  It wouldn't be the same here without your nonsense.

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                                    Jaxal
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                                    We can't stand your pathetic,corny macho remarks....But your so adorable.

                                    If that is a witty remark, then its pretty bad. If not, then i dont know why you would say such a thing.

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                                      Tahira
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                                      I was trying to get you to say something. But really you are adorable. One of a kind. sun

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                                        SwedenMajidah
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                                        Salaam Tahira,

                                        Well you are right, the whipping punishment are no punishment, well not for Jaxal anyway lol lol lol

                                        I guess he sitting home now and cry because we don't want to whip him D

                                        POOR POOR JAXAL BOY!!!!!! twisted twisted twisted

                                        What u mean about adorable??Have u meet him shock

                                        Peace sis Majidah

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                                          I was feeling a bit low today, was talking to a friend on the phone and she was having a nice (arranged) married life till HER brother divorced HIS (her hubbies) sister. Now he wants to get revenge for his sister from her.

                                          I guess Tahira, you are of Pakistani origin? I assume these marriages are based on first cousins?

                                          Why do parents keep doing this to their kids when they know the outcome of marriges arranged this way where one guy marrys the other guys sister then the other guy marrys his sister.

                                          Abolish such first cousin's marriages will help?

                                          His parents are pushing him to get revenge for his sister from my friend and she has 6 kids too.

                                          This is terrible and 6 kids involved - thats even worse! I guess this is something to do with Honour? a cultural thing?

                                          To top it up, He goes to read Jummah and comes back home with all these quotes that have been preached there from Hadith. Then he uses those quotes to make here life miserable.

                                          When will they start to think for themselves these people and not listen to these ignorant mullahs with tooth-brush beards spouting ignorance from hadiths?

                                          The recent one hes come home with is that Hes been told that he is allowed to have affairs with other women because our Prophet(PBUH) had an affair with an unmarried woman and had illegitimate children from her.

                                          Now you know why Hadiths have been invented! To perpetuate the misgony of men!

                                          He tells her this is what the Quran + Hadith says and confuses her into thinking they are the same thing. So obviously she doesn't question what he has learnt at mosque.

                                          Yes, Tahira - to question any rubbish that is spouted at the mosque is tantamount to a sacriliege! This is how the power of the ignorant mullahs are extended into the very homes of each believer...

                                          All I can do is comfort her and try to convince her hes lying.

                                          Yes, its time that she has reclaimed her dignity as a human being...

                                          Traditionalist Muslims have such fear of women. It is unhealthy!

                                          Regards,

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