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Arranged Marriages are an INJUSTICE?

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    unknownuser
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    Anyway I believe beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

    I think Beauty stands on its own.

    You and i might see someone who we think ugly but whoever fell in love with him/her would think otherwise.

    Falling in love is a very complex thing. Beauty stands on its own whether you fall in love with that beauty or not...

    I know a few men (one of them my brother) who got married to women because they were beautiful(full stop) but those women (no offence to BEAUTIFUL and INTELLIGENT women)don't seem to have a tiny grain of intelligence in them. Some of them are stupid beyond belief

    Stupidity does not make one ugly. It just makes you stupid.
    But you could say Beauty without Intelligence is dull and boring just like a rose without its fragrance.

    Clearly these men have only married them for their looks so they can parade their little trophies. My brother before he got married would say "i want a beautiful wife." " i would feel ashamed if i was seen with an ugly village girl".

    Is it wrong to want Beauty in your life? Are we not all "captivated" by beauty?

    Regards,

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      unknownuser
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      http//kate.zed1.net/blog/wp-content/images/ugly3_01.jpg

      What a beauty

      mate, I have fallen in love

      can you please send me her contact details?

      peace

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        unknownuser
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        Hi Tahira,

        Hi peacfulmuslim
        No, but it can help. Anyway I believe beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You and i might see someone who we think ugly but whoever fell in love with him/her would think otherwise. .

        I agree with u, Tahira.
        Physical appearance is just one aspect of a human being.
        Beauty does lie in the eyes of the beholder.
        When u do not know a person u meet, the physical appearance makes a mark coz thats the only thing u know and hence stands out. But once u get to know a person, the 'person' in him/her stands out while the physical appearance takes a backseat. And the person with a good soul becomes beautiful.
        And falling in love doesnt hold the physical beauty aspect most significant. If one does fall in love with a person, on account of the physical beauty alone, they are not really in love with the person coz physical beauty is only one tiny aspect of a humanbeing. And they are gonna be very disappointed when they realise that the actual 'person' in her/him would affect him/her in a significant magnitude lot more than the physical beauty would. And he/she would also be disappointed as the physical beauty they fell in love with slowly fades with with time. Beauty of the soul never does. It grows stronger with time.

        Clearly these men have only married them for their looks so they can parade their little trophies. My brother before he got married would say "i want a beautiful wife." " i would feel ashamed if i was seen with an ugly village girl".

        Yeah. If humans were mere show objects, only physical beauty would suffice. But as human beings, we have larger roles and purpose and essence/meaning. Physical Beauty can only have a tiny share of importance in a larger picture of life.

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          unknownuser
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          Hi sis Taj
          Peace All,

          I was getting married when I was 17 and have 5 kids now.

          Ma sha Allah, 5 Kids, God bless them )
          But isn't giving birth really painful!?

          I know sis. I went 'wow' when I heard that too. 5 kids is lots. But I guess some women have the strength and reason to do what they do.

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            unknownuser
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            What a beauty
            mate, I have fallen in love
            can you please send me her contact details?
            peace

            Beauty in the Eye of the Beholder?
            I think not!

            But Perhaps Australians after 8 pints of Castlemaine XXXX would be able to find beauty in that picture or any picture wink

            Just kiddin -)

            Regards,

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              SwedenMajidah
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              Salaam all,

              I have 5 kids for many reasons. Allah swt have granted me with them and believe me or not I was trying to protect me from being pregnant after my third child but Allah wanted something else.

              I love all of my kids but I'm not a perfect mom and if I was young today and ready to get married I had wished that I had only one or two kids.

              It is painful to give birth to a baby but that pain disappear when u see the beautiful face of your newborn child it's an incredible feeling Alhamdulillah.

              Peace Sis Majidah

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                Jaxal
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                SaLaM SM

                In 3rd world countries, men actually try to get women pregnant so that they hve no choice but to stay in marriage. Women are simply better than men.

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                  Women are simply better than men.

                  Aye chap! They are not just wee better but are fantastic (Margaret Thatcher is excluded from this because she was not really a women!
                  -) wink

                  Regards,

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                    SwedenMajidah
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                    Salaam Jaxal,

                    Thanks Jaxal, Yes we are great D

                    Peace Sis Majidah

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                      Salaam Jaxal,

                      Thanks Jaxal, Yes we are great D

                      Peace Sis Majidah

                      Please there is no need to blow your own Trumpet wink

                      Regards,

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                        SwedenMajidah
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                        Salaam Lote,

                        Aha why is that no meaning of blow in my own trumpet?

                        AM I that great!!!??? lol

                        Lucky the guy who get the hand on me then wink

                        Just kidding!!!!!

                        Peace Sis Majidah

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                          TAJ
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                          Peace Majidah,

                          I meant that you have to undergo a lot of pain roll

                          5 kids is below average here!
                          How about Sweden? Is 5 an average?

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                            unknownuser
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                            Salaam Lote,
                            Aha why is that no meaning of blow in my own trumpet?

                            It means that women don't need to sing their own praises - their worth is self-evident wink

                            But also remember "Hell hath No fury when a women is scorned" wink

                            Regards,

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                              SwedenMajidah
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                              Salaam Sis Taj,

                              Well 5 kids is above the average in Sweden and I guess Sweden is below 2 kids in average for each female.

                              Peace Sis Majidah

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                                SwedenMajidah
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                                Salaam Lote,

                                Well no one will scorn me without punishment x

                                Peace Sis Majidah

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                                  Jaxal
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                                  SaLaM LT

                                  Indeed. Women are fantastic. If there were no women, who would cook? clean? do laundry? LOOOOOOOLLLLL OH MAN IM SOOO KIDDDING LOOOOOOOOOOOOOLLLLLLLL

                                  The movie 'Miss congeniality 2' made fun of the saying "Women, cant live with them.. cant live without them". They say "Men... cant live with them...... no no thats about it." rotfl

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                                    SaLaM LT

                                    Indeed. Women are fantastic. If there were no women, who would cook? clean? do laundry? LOOOOOOOLLLLL OH MAN IM SOOO KIDDDING LOOOOOOOOOOOOOLLLLLLLL

                                    Man you like to live a dangerous life don't you wink

                                    Regards,

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                                      SwedenMajidah
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                                      Salaam Lote,

                                      HE HE HE YEAH I CAN FEEL THE PUNISHMENT IS SOON CATCH UP WITH JAXAL shock twisted

                                      Peace Sis Majidah

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                                        Jaxal
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                                        SaLam SM

                                        Oh yea loooolll and who exactly will punish me? wink

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                                          Tahira
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                                          Jaxal it sounds like your begging to be punished.

                                          Are you one of those horny kinky guys who like to be whipped? twisted

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