Peace Wayfinder,
welcome I am also fairly new to this forum and have been following true islam for about a year now. I was also a hard core salafi for about 11 years but sunni for 14, made hijrah and all and we're still in the middle east finding it difficult to get home for many reasons.
I'll give you my personal example at how I looked at this issue after 11 years of salafism. First of all, we were given the 'proofs' of having to follow the man-made hadith books and we were convinced. When I read the article called Authority of the Quran for the first time it completely shattered all of those arguments with the quran alone and I was shocked and repentant to my Lord for making shirk. I never intended to do this. I wanted to stay as far away as possible from shirk but was wholeheartedly in the midst of it. Since it was always overwhelmingly important for me to please my Creator and make sure that I follow His words everything else came easier. With your friend, maybe you should first establish whether His Creator is foremost important to him. As a salafi, there is really NO DIFFERNCE between Muhammad and Allah and that is the biggest crime. Actually as a salafi, Muhammad comes before Allah so if he isn't sure about the REAL difference he won't be able to see anything else. This is all due to belief in the hadith books ATTRIBUTED to Muhammad.
Once this change took place for me salat is right on the heels. My first experience was with 19ers, those who serve the count of 19 and they tried to prove the sunni salat with calculations first and foremost and then what they did was take different verses that SEEM to support how the sunni salat is done but yet ALL of them are being taking out of context and just merely being USED for that purpose but have NOTHING to do with the salat at all. At first I believed them which brought other inconsistencies but once I started to analyze for myself their arguments and had personal contact with one of them, I realized that I can't fall into the trap of just believing people again. After really scrutinizing their 'proofs' I realized that they were really no different in practice than the sunnis and they did what THEY WANTED with Allah's book and not vice versa, to let His message shine through clearly without distortions.
So for your friend, if he is convinced that Allah does come first then that's half the battle at least and if he believes that Allah's words have NO DOUBT then take the argument to Allah 4159 since here is a disagreement. I always stuck to this principle. Ask him, would the messenger contradict Allah and make up his own laws? Here are the basic verses that contradict 5x a day salat 11114, 1778, 2458 If he can get past these and realize that there is no way the messenger could contradict Allah, especially in delivering the message then here are some of the verses pertaining to the salat that I saw also refutes the sunni salat 2114, 115, 125, 144, 149, 150 - 3113 - 4101-103, 162 - 555 - 7170 - 835 - 9108, 112 - 1598 - 17107, 110, 111 - 26219
In addition to this, their whole concepts of how many raka'aat and sajdahs is NO WHERE to be found in Allah's book. The words, raka'ah and sajdah in arabic are NO WHERE in the reading but rather, the verbs of each and their fa'il (the one who performs such) and their verbal noun (sujud) which denotes a continual action not some particular count every so often. For example, they call a surah as-sajdah but that arabic word is not in the surah nor in the quran so that was another heads up for me. So if none of this is in the quran WHERE could have Muhammad gotten it since Allah doesn't speak of any other revelations called Sahih Bukhari or others? Does he believe that these other books are Allah's books as well that He talks about in the quran that came AFTER the quran? If not, then why is he even believing and trusting them?
I hope this isn't too confusing for you. You will see instantly that this topic alone will lead to many other topics and issues. If you want the verses for raka'a and sajada let me know. Not to mention there is no tasleem mentioned in the reading, no command, not even 'qul' 'say' to say al-fatihah, no tashahud. Why when 'qiyaam' is mentioned with 'sujud' in the quran 'sujud' is always mentioned first? 2564, 399 Is he willing to say that since Allah's book contradicts with the hadith books then Allah's book is inconsistent and should be abandoned?
When he gets to this point "So as the prophet was performing the salaat, his followers, followed him in the salaat... and in turn they taught their children, who in turn taught their children... and it went/goes on like this till the swalaat reach us... the same swalaat that was performed by the prophet... reached us intactly... And this type of performing swalaat is approved and explained in the hadiths... This is the first question..."
Can he say for certain that he knows the followers of Muhammad outside of what some people wrote in some books? This whole point is based on conjecture and he only believes this since he believes in the hadith books this is the source of the problem. Ask him, why isn't this type of salat approved and explained in the quran? If the quran contradicts it what will he believe then?
When he said "He said that we are now praying 5 times a day, the people at Mecca, where the prophet lived, got revelation, preached and died... they also are performing 5 times a day... All over the world they are performing 5 times a day... While the Quran teach only 3 times per day... So how come so many people have been diverted from the true Islam which says 3 times swalat per day according to the Quran... "
The first problem is with the place called Mecca but that's another discussion. Did he actually express doubts in his words and tone towards the quran when he said this as if automatically the quran must be wrong? If so, then what is he really believing in, he needs to deal with this. Allah says why people are diverted clearly
6116 And if you obey most of who is in the earth they are leading you astray from the path of Allah. They follow not except conjecture/ guessing/ assumptions and they are not except falsifying.
Then He tells us about those who believe
12106 And most of them believe not in Allah except while they are mushrikeen (those who make partners).
Sunnis have made their scholars, Bukhari and Muslim and many others partners with Allah, that's the crux of it, in the name of Muhammad by ATTRIBUTING all of this to him.
When he said It means the sahabah did the same number of swalat and same for the people who came later... So when in time did the shift occur from 3 times to 5 times... In case it occurred... That is people distorted hadith and added 2 more swalaat.. then there should have always been a group still performing the 3 times swalaat... those who would have stick to the Quran... they would have opposed firmly..... Where were they all these times? We dont find them anywhere... Its not an overnight thing to change swalat from 3 to 5 times a day... Never heard of them until the recent 15-20 years from now... Had the real swalaat number been 3... they would have remained groups of people in all these times who would have kept performing 3 swalaat... So where were they all these times...
Subhanallah! Again does he know for certain WHO these 'sahabah' are, who are also made partners with Allah, outside of the hadith books and hand me down stories? Why didn't Allah refer to them as sahabah but He only refers to a group as 'those who believe with him'? Again, he stated above that the quran MAY mention 3 but he is obviously doubting that and wants to refute the quran! There are believers in the quran alone everywhere but would have their story survived in the hadith books that already contradict MOST Of the quran? Their story with no doubt is in the quran itself. What do you think will happen to the many people, over time and recorded in history, who don't believe in the hype of 911 since IT IS false? Most historical accounts only reflect the main political influences with power, including hadith books and that's how they began if he looks at their history to begin with. Show him Allah's words in 6116 and see if he still wants to doubt his Creator and believes that he should be able to follow the majority and he will arrive at the truth. Where did Allah tell us to follow the majority?
Maybe you see that the real issue, as hard as it is to tackle, is is islam really quran and sunnah or is it just quran? If he believes in hadith books like he does the quran, really you can't, or actually believes in them MORE then this is your fight.
Sorry to be a little long but you will have a real struggle on your hands and will have to discuss many issues. May Allah give you the strength and steadfastness to remain on the truth until death.
Sincerely,
Umm Tariq