Marriage & Divorce

Peace, I am new to Islam/Quran. Just like several Muslims in this world, I do not speak Arabic and unfortunately this keeps me from finding out the truth. So I am posting one of the verses that I don't understand here hoping that any Arabic-speakers might let me know its true meaning (non-Arabic speakers welcome too). Verse 2228 according the Quran by Progressive Muslims says And the divorced women shall hold themselves for three menstruation periods; and it is not lawful for them to conceal what God has created in their wombs, if they believe in God and the last day. And their husbands would still have a right to return them in this situation if they both wish to reconcile. And for what obligations the women are owed, so similarly must they fulfil their obligations. But the men will have a greater responsibility over them in this. And God is Noble, Wise. However, the similar verse by Submission.org (who say their translation is done by a Messenger of God who spoke Arabic as his native language is quite different). Here it is The divorced women shall wait three menstruations (before marrying another man). It is not lawful for them to conceal what GOD creates in their wombs, if they believe in GOD and the Last Day. (In case of pregnancy,) the husband's wishes shall supersede the wife's wishes, if he wants to remarry her. The women have rights, as well as obligations, equitably. Thus, the man's wishes prevail (in case of pregnancy). GOD is Almighty, Most Wise. I've searched all the possible translations on the web and all (Yusuf Ali, Pickthall, Shakir, Sher Ail and Prog. Muslims) say that both a wife and husband would want to reconclie, however, after an email the people at submission said that in Arabic the Quran says "In Arado" which is strictly applied to men in the plural form. If it was meant for the married couple, it would have been " in Arada". As you can obviously see, this is no simple issue. According to all other translations, both must want to live together, however, according to Khalfia's only the mans wishes count. I am not sure how true their explaination is, so I ask all those who are Arabic speakers to please transalte me this verse word by word (non-Arabic Speakers most welcome too). Does the Quran really say force and marry a woman if she is preganat or does it say if both man & women want, they can remarry again? Thanks much for all your time.

D As salaamu alaykum, I describe myself as a "late bloomer" coming to Islam at age 45... I have been muslim for a bit over two years. Marriage, it would seem, is for the young (30 yrs or younger) ... because, as I have been told, women are to be popping out children like a pez dispenser. Frankly, I am not such a dispenser. So, perhaps, marriage is not in my future. So tell me, oh young ones on this board... do you believe in "true love"? Or ... what? Allah Hafiz, your sister... call me CC

Peace What do you you guys think about such a marriage? Wilson

peace all i remember prior to the forum moving to the new server there was some stuff about malakat aymanukum (etc) in some posts, and i was wondering if people could please contribute their thoughts on this topic and the meanings once again. thanks )

Salams, Is divorce in anger valid?

Does the man have the right to travel without even telling his spousse? I mean he says nothing and then he calls that he's in morocco and he's going to stay there two weeks. Is this allowed in islam?

could any free-mind thinkers tell me what the true meaning of the word 'believer' in reference marrying a believer... I am confused about this issue mainly in to do with the fact that muslim men can marry non-muslim (i.e believing christians or believing jews) but muslim women can't marry a non muslim (i.e believing christian or believing jew)... This appears to contradict verses in the quran like (2221) "And do not marry the polytheist women until they believe. A believing slave woman is better that a polytheist woman, even though the latter may please you. And do not marry your womenfolk to disbelieving men until they believe. A believing slave is better that a polytheist even though the latter may please you . . ." according to this verse (2221) muslim men and muslim women should have this verse applied to them equally I mean no offense in asking this question it is just something that confuses me

How should muslim's love their spouse? How? By what degree? By what standards?

hello everyone........ I came along this article and would like to know others opinin about it.......what do you ppl think of this authors attempt to prove such point..... here is the link http//www.islamic-awareness.org/Polemics/aishah.html peace