Taking off the Hijab
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I have worn a headscaft I find that I like to wear one for pray as I sign of respect for god I would be intersted on your opnion am I doing wrong.?peace Ros
It is up to you and to anybody to adopt the attire or the atitude which springs from their heart as most respectful. But nobody can impose on others what from his or her own feeling is more respectful. To me the kind of dress does not add or detract from respect, not particularly from God, who is the most intimately acquaintanced with us. Definitely, the way one dresses goes with one's mood, and therefore I do think that dress has its importance for the prayers, but it is personal feeling. On the other hand, what is not objectively proper is that covering head should be considered more humble (as somebody has said a few messages back) or respectful when it is a woman and not matter at all if it is a man. So it is good for women to be humble or respectful, but nor for men? This is the questi?n, that hiyab and covering has been turned in a female specialty. Back centuries, as much women as men used to cover their heads, so the existence in theory of hadith or rules made by the madhhabs did not have so much wiehgt and importance in dividing sexes. Today it is blatant and offensive for women that there should be for them an added imposition and that this imposition should be dressed in a sauce of morality and virtue which is nothing to do with the question. The invention of male sensibility to females hair or whatever is pure and silly invention and nothing in the Qur'an supports such idiocy.
Salaam
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I have worn a headscaft I find that I like to wear one for pray as I sign of respect for god I would be intersted on your opnion am I doing wrong.?peace Ros
Quran 6116 translation
If you obeyed most of those on earth, they would misguide you from Allah?s Way. They follow nothing but conjecture. They are only guessing.Most people would be against covering one's head.
http//www.youtube.com/watch?v=f9x5wY6hbX8
All I know is a muslimah who cloaks herself and isn't shy, but vocal, is a glory to the god.
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Quran 6116 translation
If you obeyed most of those on earth, they would misguide you from Allah?s Way. They follow nothing but conjecture. They are only guessing.Most people would be against covering one's head.
http//www.youtube.com/watch?v=f9x5wY6hbX8
All I know is a muslimah who cloaks herself and isn't shy, but vocal, is a glory to the god.
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Quran 6116 translation
If you obeyed most of those on earth, they would misguide you from Allah?s Way. They follow nothing but conjecture. They are only guessing.Most people would be against covering one's head.
http//www.youtube.com/watch?v=f9x5wY6hbX8
All I know is a muslimah who cloaks herself and isn't shy, but vocal, is a glory to the god.
All I know is that a muslim who cloaks himself and ?sn't shy, but vocal, is a glory to God
All I know is a muslimah who cloaks herself and isn't shy, but vocal, is a glory to the God.
All I know is a muslimah who and isn't shy, but vocal, is a glory to the God.
All I know is a muslim who doesn't cloak himself and isn't shy, but vocal, is a glory to the God.
All human beings are a glory to God, all creation is a glory to God. There is no way for anybody not to be a glory to God. The question is who is conscious of it, and that goes with sincerity, not with cloaks or without cloaks, not with beards or without beards... God knows.
Salaam
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Depends on which part of the world you're in. Where I live, most people believe a woman should cover her head. )
And the time period you live in. What of when a time when the majority of the world saw no problem with, and even encouraged head-covering - among all populations, regardless of a religion? I guess the people to wear it during that time were wrong then but right now.
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Salam,
Only two women in my family wear Hijab my Aunty and my Uncle's wife. All the other women in my family (including close relatives do not wear hijab despite being religious muslims.
I remember back in my Sunni days trying to convince my mum to wear hijab or at least convincing my mum to get my sisters to wear hijab And this was less than a year ago lol, how quick time flies by. Now that I think about it, I'm glad my mum didn't start wearing hijab as this would have caused a domino effect in the family, slowly but surely my cousins would have adopted the hijab aswell. Is it strange that my mum prays 5 times a day but doesn't wear a hijab (except for prayer)?
The only problem now is that my Aunty is forcing her 5 and 7 year old daughters to wear the hijab...their probably stuck with it now for most of their life regardless of whether they like it or not.
But of course, I'm not against the hijab. I think it looks quite nice on many women.
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I can't understand in what way parents can justify forcing 5 and 7 year old girls to wear hijab. -\ They're not even NEAR the stage where it's even an issue...and even then, you can't force anyone to wear anything.
Hijab is way over-discussed, and I'm very happy I took mine off.
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You are right you can't force anyone to do anything... HOWEVER, sometimes it is less headache to just do it.
I have a love/hate relationship forming with my scarf. I am tired of stares, tired of comments. I want to be like the men where you have no idea what faith they are. I am like a flashing target and sometimes I want to be incognito. Sunni's will say it prevents harassment and attention, that depends on where you live. Anyway I see now it is not an obligation. I am at the point now where I would like to take it off. I have reasons of why I wear it, but for me if I run out to the car or answer the door without it, I am not worried about it.
I have sisters who have taken it off and their husbands had kittens, even threatened divorced. I had a friend who while holding her son had a man pull a gun on her calling her a "desert whore". When she took it off after that out of fear, her husband almost left her and life was very hard for her for a good while. They did fix it, but he would get so nervous when she was out and who would look at her, it drove her nuts. Why are they so insecure about someone seeing their wife's hair? I don't get it.
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I understand the idea of Hijab, but I don't agree with it being forced or necessary. What does someone gain by being forced to be "modest"? We love and thank God for our free will, but we don't give it to each other. I firmly believe that modesty is in the heart. Wear what is comfortable and allows you to feel happier with yourself. Very important topic though, let's keep it up.
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Wear what is comfortable and allows you to feel happier with yourself
Happier with myself is not having my husband annoyed because I took it off, just not worth the arguement. He would not freak out like some, but he would be disappointed and I don't need that headache. Three kids and a job is headache enough. Beside I mainly just wear it at work now and when I am out with him, I am wearing it looser and looser. God forgive me, but when he is taken back to God, You will never see me with it on again. If it makes him feel comfortable, and I don't really mind and I still have times where I don't wear it like family functions, My mother finds it so offensive she has ripped it from my head in the past...lol
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Indelwyn, I wonder of your mother might be more thoughtful and sensitized about it if you point out that the customary dress of nuns' orders is the same, hijab in all particulars.
I am fond of head-scarves and almost always wear one or two when I leave home. I do not wear them in strictest hijab style (with my throat covered), but in styles inconspicuous for the West that would happen to pass as acceptable hijab in, say, much of the Indian subcontinent. I wear them to protect my hair from sun and wind and also to keep it from the notice of strangers. I suppose when others see me out they think I am always having "bad hair days."
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I tried the bit about the nun and Mary. To which she replied. "you are NO nun, nor are you anything close to the virgin Mary she is the Mother of God" Guess. I am to sinful....lol. She is more accepting seeking I have changed. I am not at the club dancing all night and getting drunk every other weekend with the girls. I am not wearing the tight and revealing clothing I used to just for attention, from the opposite sex. She contibutes the change to me growing up and being in my thirties. However she should know damn well I still love to dance and would love to hit that dance floor. However, now my dance floor is in my house for my hubby .. )
I think she does give some credit to my change in faith, just she will not admit it. I use to go to the club and drink and dance all over guys and then the next morning run to church and serve mass with the preist. WTH was I thinking?? I look back and ... wow!!!!
She was more gentle towards the idea that I wanted to never hear my daughter say her beauty is all that she was, so I want to be modest, and have ppl look at my mind. She just says it reminds her of "my people" who blew up the twin towers" but that is a WHOLE other story!
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Stop thinking too much about morality and modesty and do what you feel is right. If it does not harm you or the others, it doesn't matter at all. You don't have to live in fear of God, even if he existed. You do not have to think that "God is to be feared".
The JudeoChristianIslamic "God"
He loves you and you better love him back because he will burn you forever if you don't. >D